Visiting unmarried mothers in Ji'nan: a hidden group wandering between moral laws
Ji'nan times
this is a secret group. When the public focus on those who report the mistress of corrupt officials and the women who have come out of the Internet, it is rare to notice that there is a group of.Amp; mdash.amp; mdash.amp; mdash unmarried mothers, who pull their children alone.
- Zhang Xiaoyuan Intern Wang Dongli
years ago, unmarried mother is still a new noun, rarely mentioned by people, usually there are only TV plays and movies, few in real life. Social development and sexual concept are open, and the group of unmarried mothers is gradually expanding. These unmarried mothers are gradually coming out of the shadows and gradually accepted by people.
in real life, women who become unmarried mothers are most faced with such problems. Emotional, economic, moral, and legal issues are intertwined, bundling unmarried mothers and their children like a net. There are middle-aged women who have no hope for love and marriage, independent women who have experienced emotional deception and do not give up small and medium life. Of course, there are the so-called small third births, and the minors tasting the bitter fruit.Amp; hellip.amp; hellip
the number of unmarried mothers to the bottom, there is no authority at present. Statistics, but the data show that the proportion of unmarried first pregnancy and unmarried pre marriage of young people in China is increasing at a rate of 10% to 13% per year, and the trend of low age is becoming more and more. The reality of the problem also makes these unmarried mothers anxious. Because of the difficulties of children settling down, going to school, and the enormous pressure of economy and spirit, most of them are confused about the way ahead.
character: Zhao Ting age: 35 years old: company director
do not promise the future, only to have
feeling marriage is bound only son,
in other people's eyes, Zhao Ting is the standard old leftover, in an advertising company as the director, but also a white-collar class, but but also white-collar class. It was because of busy work that Zhao Ting was left behind.
occasionally single, occasionally in love, sometimes lovelorn, sometimes healing, her life is also ups and downs. Zhao Ting, 35, got to know Zhuang Zheng, who was 7 years younger than he, because of his business. Zhao Ting and him came back several times and found that he was very serious, not like a fickle person.
the feeling between adults is like a rubber ball full of energy, and it can jump up lightly. Soon, they began to fall in love. Zhao Ting had already thought that Zhuang was 7 years younger than her. He really married him. In this case, it's better to just have it. Zhao Ting didn't intend him to make a future. It was discovered later that he was addicted to gambling. He often asked Zhao Ting for money, and two people fell out. But at this point, Zhao Ting found himself pregnant. Zhuang was knowing that after she was pregnant, she did not know how to go.
when she hesitated to have children, she read a report that an old man died at home many days. At this moment, she considered the child because she did not want to be like the old man. She analyzed it, one is that she really likes the children, the age is not small, fear no longer want to do not want to have two is marriage for her more is bound, marriage is not her only way out. So she made a bold decision: only to be unmarried. When
is lonely, Zhao Ting feels very helpless. She knows that worldly eyes will despise her. It is hard to accept her parents' thought tradition far away from town. The baby grew day by day, but she began to worry day after day. But she is fortunate that in a relatively enlightened age, people have been somewhat unacceptable to unmarried mothers. Emotionally, she had to endure some unavoidable pressures. For Zhao Ting, when deciding to place the meaning of survival in a child, it means having to face all kinds of difficulties and problems that come with him alone.
Lu Rui age: 24 year old: a worker
a fraudster's lover
multiple abortions have to have a child
Liu Si is a lawyer, he told a reporter the case of a unmarried mother to maintain rights. When I was on duty that year, I was on duty in a lawyer, and when I was about to work, I saw the other parties go, and a young girl came and told me,.Amp; lsquo, can we find a place to talk about alone?.amp; rsquo is in the law office. It's very common, so I took her to the small room in his house. Liu Si poured a cup of water on the young girl and looked at the girl in front of her. She wore a plain white shirt and jeans. She felt a little simple.
Liu Si was a lawyer. He told a reporter the case of a unmarried mother's rights. "Before that year, I was on duty in a lawyer's office. When I was about to work, I saw all the other parties go. A young girl came and told me, 'can we find a place to talk about alone?' it's very common in a law firm, so I took her to the small room in his house." Liu Si poured a cup of water on the young girl and looked at the girl in front of her. She wore a plain white shirt and jeans. She felt a little simple, about more than 20 years old, with a medium appearance. Her subsequent narration made Liu Si a little surprised.
she said she was Lu Rui. When she was 17 years old, she went out to work and met a man named Dong Liang at a friend's party. After the party, Dong Liang often looked for her, and once, he asked Lurui to go out to dinner. Lurui called another friend to accompany him. Dong Liang was interested in filling her with her wine, and Lu Rui knew he could not drink and drink. After the end, Dong Liang brought her to her house, almost forced to have a relationship with her. "If there was no drinking, he was almost thirty years older than me."
because Lu Rui was born in the countryside and was very young, he did not know how to deal with such a thing, nor did he report it. Afterwards, Dong Liang kept courting Lu Rui, and the two had established a lover relationship. Dong Liang is a native. This kind of life has lasted for six years. During the death of Dong Liang's wife, Lu knew that she was only one of Dong Liang's many lovers.
Lu Rui was pregnant many times until the doctor said she could not abort, otherwise she could not become a mother. In the face of this situation, Lu Rui had no choice but to give birth to a boy and become an unmarried mother. Lu Rui, 24, has been working in the city for 7 years. She can't bear to be in such a nondescript relationship. She decides to leave Dong Liang.
she gave birth to her child and was raised by her parents, who continued to earn money for their children. In order to save money, she lives in the city's cheapest "village in the city", although it is a mixture of fish and dragon, but the rent of 200 yuan per month is still barely acceptable to her. For the sake of a foster child, she carefully calculated every cent.
character: Song Ke age: 31 years old: 31 year old: company clerk
boyfriend died accidentally, alone raise children
31 years old more than 70 year old mentality
"I am 31 years old, feel the vicissitudes of life like seventy or eighty years old, tired, I do not know there is no future, very no future, very much Confused. " Song Ke is a company clerk. She has a five year old son who has never been married and is an unmarried mother. "Although the society is very open now, I am still a stranger in the eyes of the people around us." Song Ke said, if a few years ago, she would never have imagined that she would become an unmarried mother. In fact, she never even thought about it as a mother. But when she knew she was pregnant, she was unusually persistent.
Song Ke and his boyfriend had a good feeling and had already talked about the marriage period. "He came back on a business trip and had an accident from the airport to the city on a high road. It was no longer, when the news broke, I felt the sky fell down, and I was waked up later." In Song Ke's mind, although her boyfriend is gone, she still can't forget their feelings. Since then, it has become commonplace to take a child alone to have an injection, even a few nights' rest.
Song Ke says she often hears a conversation about her when she is holding a child in a community. "Hello, do you see the woman with the child in front of you?" "what's the matter? You look pretty." "Ah, a little voice, listen to others say, she is not a two wife is an unmarried child." "I said, never seen a child's father." In the face of these, Song Ke began to care and sad, but she was an unmarried mother. This is a fact that can not be changed. "When I was six or seven months from my son, I was moving, trying to avoid the gossip and do not want to explain anything to the unrelated people. In this way, in this city I'm not familiar with, my son and I are on their own." Song Ke said. "As a unmarried mother, I do not encourage people to be like me. Really, it is too bad for children. After all, having children is just the beginning, the road behind is long, the child needs a good environment to grow well." Song Ke said.