Re: visits Ji'nan's unmarried mother: a secret group wandering between moral laws
real pressure on the Internet to keep warm
more and more unmarried mothers, this part of women, because of various reasons do not want to marry, or marry, and because of different reasons have children, or want to raise children, so there is "unmarried mother". This group. They dragged their children to grow up alone. According to relevant laws, the legitimate rights of married children and illegitimate children are equal. The unmarried mothers of the relatively difficult life, in reality, are subjected to moral, regulatory, emotional and economic pressures. In the network, they help each other and warm up.
Baidu has a "unmarried mother", there is a "unmarried mother" group on the bean, and there are many "unmarried mothers" on the Tencent. Unmarried mothers are comforting each other on the Internet to discuss how to do quasi birth certificates, how to find jobs, how to take care of the children, and how to rent a child, their living conditions are sob. But they all felt very happy: the smile of the baby is better than all the sufferings. Many unmarried mothers communicate online, and the Internet has become the home of unmarried mothers.
chat with some unmarried mothers, the reporter learned that most of them choose to have children alone, and to be raised alone, children's production, settlement, education, to rely on themselves, this is not an easy way of life. In the Tencent QQ group, several unmarried mothers told reporters that they knew that there were several roads in front of them, and the most difficult one was to choose to have children.
one of the group, the average age of only 20 years old unmarried mother, most of them are only talking about an ordinary love, but because of unwanted pregnancy, they not only stopped their sweet love, but also sent their happiness. Because of the children in the belly, men abandon them and "go away". They chose to give birth to their children because they did not want to hurt innocent people, and they did not want to kill their lives.
of course, for this group of young mothers, more mental pain. In the face of family rejection, social discrimination and hardships, they can only hug and warm themselves. "When you are unhappy, just say it. We listen quietly. When you have a problem, we will help you out." As one group said, it was gratifying to her that many unmarried mothers would leave the baby's clothes, "if there was a mother's need, they would send her to her baby." She said, after all, is the way of their choice, and then they will go on, but they want to get the tolerance and understanding of the society, not discrimination.
quasi birth certificate and residence registration is a difficult problem
Zhang Xiaoyuan Intern Wang Dongli
in addition to suffering the different eyes and the economic suffering of the people, the child's quasi birth certificate and the family are the two big problems facing the unmarried mother. Unmarried childbirth is contrary to the family planning policy, but the children born and the children born in wedlock are equal in the legal status. In such a contradiction, the settlement of unmarried children has become the primary concern of unmarried mothers. In order to settle down for children, they try every means, even at marriage with people.
for children to settle down to find "fake marriage"
accounts are usually related to employment, housing, education, health care and other issues are closely related. It is a top priority for a unmarried mother to settle down. In order to settle down, various means and brilliant tactics emerge one after another, and some even make a profit under the cover of fake marriage. A few days ago, the Ji'nan district court heard a ridiculous divorce case. Women hired someone to marry his son's residence in Ji'nan. After a successful settlement of the household registration problem, the other side did not want to go through the divorce procedure according to the original agreement, but the two sides were in court.
MS Zeng went to work in Ji'nan in 2005, because the unit can't solve the household registration problem, so his account has not moved to Ji'nan late in the field. In order to be able to settle in Ji'nan, in 2009, she was introduced to Mr. Jia, a native of Ji'nan, to reach an absurd "agreement": Ms. Zeng paid Mr. Jia 15000 yuan in cash, and the two parties only went through the formalities of marriage registration. After the signing of the agreement, the two sides handled the marriage registration procedure according to the contract. Zeng also successfully moved his account to Ji'nan.
2010, Ms. Zeng has a boy with others, in order to give the child to the family, she found Mr. Jia, two times to Mr. Jia 10 thousand yuan cash, and finally the child account to fall into Ji'nan.
account problem all solved, a stone finally fell to the ground, so the lady once again "according to about" to find Mr. Jia for divorce procedures, at this time, but encountered obstacles, Mr. Jia even "default" did not agree to divorce. After many consultations failed, Ms. Zeng finally filed a divorce lawsuit against the court.
the judge of the case, Li Junling, said that only marriage as a means of settlement is not in conformity with the requirements of the marriage law and the public order, and will also bring greater risks to the lives of both parties. "
" in the course of the trial, the man still insisted on his own conditions, and the divorce could be made, but the woman had to be paid, and in his opinion it was a deal. " After understanding the man's purpose, Li Junling pointed out that the handling of the false marriage in the two sides was a opportunistic wrongful act. If the man continued to insist on the money, it would bear the adverse legal consequences. After the mediation of the judge, the two sides reached a reconciliation before the court and voluntarily divorced.
a fake marriage Gang into a business
a group of QQ groups and forums gathered in the unmarried mother, and many people claim that if a woman wants to settle for a child, he can marry him and pay him 50 thousand. Police warn that both fake marriage and fake divorce are legal. If it becomes true, it will inevitably lead to a series of disputes.
in QQ group, the reporter is in the identity of the unmarried mother to contact a man who speaks in the group and claims to be married to a person. The other person calls himself the surname Wang, and is single, is a Sichuan person. "A lot of people have settled in this way, tens of thousands of dollars can give their children a household registration, I do not cheat money, I do not cheat money, group of money, I do not do a flock. There are also many people who are willing to marry me. " He said he could notarized the premarital property with the woman, and the child could have divorced after he had an account. Of course, Mr. Wang said frankly that he did some work in this way. "To tell you the truth, I just want to make some money, not much, 50 thousand." Mr. Wang told reporters that 50 thousand yuan can be paid two times, the first time to pay 10 thousand yuan, settled successfully, and then pay the remaining 40 thousand yuan.
unmarried childbirth needs to pay social maintenance fee
the law of our country stipulates that unmarried birth is an illegal act, and it is necessary to pay a certain social maintenance fee according to law. "The provision of unpaid births by way of levying social maintenance fees is generally more harmful than benefits." Relevant experts believe that many unmarried mothers may be forced by financial pressure, do not give children to account, the more black households, the more bad for population management. Although the regulations can deter unmarried childbirth to a certain extent, it can not achieve the effect only by simple punishment.
although married children and illegitimate children enjoy the same rights, household registration is much more difficult for babies born out of wedlock. "Shandong provincial public security department on the standard permanent residence registration management of some opinions (Trial)": whether it is married babies or unmarried babies, public security police station can be submitted to the public security organs for approval, according to their parents' application, legal and effective identification, birth certificate and other provisions. And this involves children's father's proof, which is hard for many unmarried mothers to provide.
in addition, unmarried mothers who violate the family planning regulations need to pay social maintenance fees. According to the collection standard of the social maintenance fee and the data issued by the Ji'nan Municipal Bureau of statistics, in 2012, the annual income of urban residents in Ji'nan was calculated by about 32 thousand yuan, and a child born out of wedlock needed to pay up to several million yuan of social maintenance.
the Ji'nan Family Planning Commission staff said that the marriage certificate, the birth certificate and the birth certificate need to be settled. If not more than 60 days, both husband and wife can grasp the marriage certificate, two people are not born children, do not need to pay social support, if more than 60 days do not do marriage certificate, family planning, the need to pay social support for punishment. The amount of social upbringing in each area is different. After punishment, a ticket will be given. It is a proof of the social maintenance fee. How to settle the household and need to consult the public security department. "
the public security department staff said," if it is in Ji'nan fined, with a fine, the punishment decision, birth certificate and marriage certificate, if there is no marriage certificate, the local police station of the residence is clear, and then the police station report can be approved. " The staff said.