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when I was pregnant with my first child, I was very anxious. I was thinking about how to be a good parent, how to be a good parent, and then I had no guidance from others, and I couldn't find any books. I'm stuck in this anxiety and I can't pull it out. Later, I thought of my parents, remembering the process of their education, the moment, not only the question of childcare, even the life problems seemed to be refocused, and became clear and clear.
my parents are not the ones who sacrifice their children unconditionally. They have always been learning, improving and enriching their lives. Their attitude towards life and world outlook have influenced many people and become children's examples.
when I was little, they started teaching my teachings and revisited my life. It was a long and profitable process. In the recollection, the dribs and drabs of the details, like nutrients nourish my heart. To me, pregnancy is not only the beginning of being a mother, but also a valuable opportunity to reconsider the road to, what to do, and what should not be done as a person.
general pregnant mothers are all so happy, at the same time will be worried about their ability to become a good mother. This concern is necessary. Be sure to listen to your feelings, have a feeling of worry, do not escape, do not turn a blind eye, think more about how to solve and guide your own worries. If this is not clear, it may be affected later, deviating from the standard of good parents. How do
How do you become a good parent?
a lot of parents love their children. They may think that all for children and unconditionally for their children, so that the child can be protected in all directions. But I don't think so. As I mentioned in the previous article, as a parent, the key is to be a guide to children, to help them see the future and to walk on their own life.
if you want to be the best guide, parents first have to think about your life goals. It is a good example for children to plan their lives, accumulate progress and progress, and have the ability to help and influence others. If parents do not have such ability, can not give children proper guidance and help, can not let the child feel admired from the heart, then the children will naturally do not learn from them, even if they are grateful for their parental rearing.
only has the ability to raise children, but does not have the ability to guide their parents, not qualified and excellent parents. Parents must have a sense of purpose. Even if they are parents, they must continue to work hard. The life of a parent should be complete and can not be cut off by children. To achieve this, it will be more difficult than unconditional sacrifice. But this is the way to truly love children and love their parents.
at this point, let's think about what I'm doing to the children now, is it true love? Do I have to be surrounded by the values of unconditional sacrifice for the children, stick to the children, and ignore the parents who are respected and loved by the children? I think of the children as the end. Acting as an agent of their unfinished dreams? Parents have children, but they cannot have children. Parents and children are independent from the beginning. Everyone has their own way of life. If they love their children, they should get rid of the "good mother complex" and try to do their own work.
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3, create an environment where you can read anywhere at any time,
no matter where it is at home, there is a learning atmosphere. All this was created by my husband. Needless to ask them to learn, children can only see their children's eyes in the eyes of their desk and the family they are studying, and they think that learning is part of the daily life of our family.
when we first got married, there was only one desk in the apartment we rented. Both my husband and I are fond of learning. For us, a desk is far from enough. So, I said I could learn on the tea table first. But the gentleman objected immediately, how can such a small tea table be used for studying.
however, our economic situation did not allow us to buy more desks. So my husband goes to the second-hand market as long as he has time, hoping to find a suitable second-hand desk for me. Finally, one day, he bought a fancy desk which looked very small but very cheap at a very cheap price.
in our home, desks are not simply decorative furniture, but special furniture for learning. Sir, he had trouble preparing for my desk because he not only regarded me as his wife, but also regarded me as a scholar, so this desk became more valuable. After finishing the bowl every night, I would sit at my desk and study. After cooperating the children, I would sit at my desk and study. Seeing their mothers' hard work, children naturally take learning as a part of life.
parents should let their children know that learning is not a special thing, but a part of everyday life, which is equal to doing all the things about learning for the child. If parents can sit naturally at their desks, the children will be close to their desks. It's better to say "let's learn" than to say "you learn".
because there is such a gentleman, our family is full of desks. All the people who go to our family will ask, "Why are your desk so many?" six brothers and sisters plus our husband and wife, each has a desk, which is the eight. But my husband was not satisfied with this. He put a circle of desks in the underground amusement room designed by the landlord and arranged the room into a library. Now, everyone in our family has two desks. In order to allow children's friends to study at home, they have prepared two more. In a less large home, there are 19 light desks, plus tables and coffee tables sometimes serve as tables.
therefore, there is a learning atmosphere at any corner of the home. All this was created by my husband. With more desks, the children naturally think of learning. In fact, it does have that effect. Needless to ask them to learn, children can only see their children's eyes in the eyes of their desk and the family they are studying, and they think that learning is part of the daily life of our family.
children come back from school, first of all, to finish the day's homework first, then go to the underground library, do other things that you like, and go out to play at the end. There are more desks at home, so when children are learning, if they have friends to play, they will sit on the side desk and do homework or read books together. Neighbors say that when we get to our home, the children will start learning, and even some parents will send the children that they don't want to learn every afternoon. The underground Library in our family is the library of our children's library, and also the library for the children in the neighborhood after class.
recently, I also found that some parents decorate their rooms beautifully for their children, but they don't see their parents' desire for their children to learn. In our house, the first thing to do in a room is desk, so the space of other furniture is reduced. It always looks crowded. In addition, he was afraid that the corners of the desk would be too sharp to hurt the children, so they all had to be cut off. He is not a professional carpenter. He can't do well in his craft. If the unsuspecting person sees it, he thinks the good furniture is damaged.
honestly, I don't really like the appearance of a room like this. I also imagine that other housewives will decorate their homes beautifully. But in every corner of our family, we have the heart of our children. Now, in retrospect, the room is full of family atmosphere. It may be the best decoration. I'm not saying that all parents move their desks into the room. I just want to tell you what spirit we need to make children learn and what kind of practice we need to make.