when Zhang Jisheng was about 4 years old, he was abandoned by his parents because of family troubles. He has been living in welfare homes for many years. When Liu Yanzhen received him home, he found that he was different from other children. When the other children did not say a word, he soon spoke of them as "father and mother". This makes Liu Yanzhen feel abnormal. "Generally speaking, children only need to be familiar with their parents for a period of time before they say so." "He knew very well that his parents did not want him to come to the welfare house." Liu Yanzhen said that among the four children, Zhang Jisheng was most sensitive.
at first, Liu Yanzhen was very cautious when he talked with him. After a while, he found that the child was still silent. Liu Yanzhen is just like what he said to his son, what he said to Zhang Jisheng, "if you do something wrong, you will get a little punishment."
Dragon Boat Festival, Liu Yanzhen's family came to visit them. During the meal, Zhang Jisheng changed his usual naughty character and kept his head down. He refused to sit at the table before saying a word.
Liu Yanzhen secretly asked him why he learned that the whole family was sitting around eating and chatting. Zhang Jisheng had never seen such a scene before. "He told me I didn't know what to do, and I was a little scared." After some encouragement, Zhang Jisheng slowly sat down at the table. After
, Liu Yanzhen often called his family and asked Zhang Jisheng to say something on the phone. Every day, after dinner, Liu Yanzhen had to take these four children to the door, which was the happiest time of the day for the children.
orphaned children out of shadow need new time to move towards "real family" and need policy to support
"to protect orphans and disabled children, not only means to care for them in a safe and closed environment, but also to make their body and mind, especially the spiritual world, to restore their health to the maximum extent. In a sense, it is best to let them return to family life. Li Guixiang, a family adviser to the city's children's welfare home, said.
her job is to ensure that the 12 families can operate in a healthy and orderly way, and deal with the problems of "loving parents" in a timely manner.
Li Guixiang said that children have to adapt themselves to their foster homes, but they are undoubtedly eager to get a home. These orphans really need a long time to get out of the psychological shadow.
the Social Assistance Committee of the society of social workers of China, Wu Jianying, believes that welfare homes are good, children will think they are orphans, psychological barriers are big, and autism is easy to produce. After returning to the family, the children will have the love of their parents and the friendship between their brothers and sisters, so that they will care for others. No matter whether or not you have a disability, you will grow into a mental healthy person.
it is understood that as the children of the welfare home experience different experiences, the welfare homes need to be patient to foster families. In fact, the running in between many parents and children is not so difficult. Once entering a foster home, the two sides can quickly establish close relationships.
in fact, foster families often receive respect from their neighbors, and orphans and disabled children can also receive more love from others.
Liu Yanzhen has to take the child out every day and walk around, and the people who live nearby are slowly familiar with her. Now every time she goes out with her children, they all inquire about the situation and life of the children, and the people on the side of the road send apples to her and their children many times. It made her feel happy, Liu Yanzhen said.
but, according to the current regulation, the child has to face the problem of separation from the family after the age of 14, and it will be painful to the children and parents.
some people in the industry believe that the model should move from "family like family" in welfare home to "real family" in society. The government should introduce the policy of security and encourage the foster family to adopt these children permanently and become a family of legal recognition.