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"husband is an old smoker. He smoked for the most part of his life, and the smell of smoke and oil melted into his blood. I don't know if it's the cause of menopause. I have a keen sense of smell now. I can't bear the smell of sweaty taste and the smell of tobacco smoke.
"the weather was muggy a few days ago, and as much as two o'clock in the morning, I always dreamed that I was struggling in the water and woke up to find that the water in my dream was a sweat on the body. Because of sweating too much, even breathing has become rapid. Without the strength of getting up, sleep can only be closed. The husband beside me was not only aware of my physical discomfort, but also slept like a stove. The more I feel sultry and sweating, the more I feel his heat.
"menopause is not well with your body, let your husband make breakfast, boil a big pot of porridge early in the morning. Who can finish it?" He told him several times, he went to a long memory, and he did not have enough food to sew his teeth, so he wanted to starve to death.
Listen, these are the menopausal wives' accusations against their husbands. For menopause, most people think that this is just a stage of women's physiology and psychology. But only the husband who is in it knows how tortured. In fact, although menopause is a woman's business, it needs a man's understanding, tolerance and help. It is also more beneficial to the physical and mental health of women, and also to improve the atmosphere of the family.
1, master professional knowledge is very necessary.
when the wife reaches the age of 40, the husband will realize that his wife's menopause may come. At this time, women bear the dual pressure of family and career. It is suggested that if a husband finds his wife is not good at coming home from work, it is best to ask the reason and guide his wife. If necessary, don't forget to say, "anyway, I support you."
to buy some related books in advance, some related websites, mastering professional knowledge is very important. It can not only make men feel confused and bewilderment when they encounter problems, but also "learn to use" in life and resolve problems.
2, "silence is golden"
when the wife begins to be in bad mood, for example, when the husband and children have just changed their faces, their husbands and children should keep silent, and do not match her. If the wife has started to get angry, her husband and children should not be persuasion. Because at this time, women's temper is fast and fast. Husbands should not be sulky. It is best to do "you enter me to retreat" and avoid the wife's "edge".
, of course, "Silence" is not equal to "indifference". On the contrary, after the "peak", the husband should find a quiet time for a wife, to communicate well, to listen to the troubles in her heart, to help the wife to solve the actual problems. The effect. In the case of good atmosphere, you might as well say, "I know you're not in a good mood for this time, but you should adjust your mood properly, get angry and feel bad for you." Presumably, his wife can soon realize his problem.
3, learn to be a "trash can"
when the wife complains and confide, it is best not to interrupt and let them vent their discontent in a single way. At this time, if the family can provide an environment where they can pour back water, they can relieve their symptoms.
husband during his wife's menopause, try not to make a confrontational response. Deep psychology has a view that in the subconscious mind, a partner has the function of dealing with negative emotional experience. Therefore, husbands should not deny or deny the present mood of menopausal wives, and try to find the root of negative emotions. More patient and more caring, if the wife is in a calm mood, it will be guilty and grateful to her husband, which can help women to improve their own emotional control.
4, self constrained treasure family
people often say that middle age marriage is easy to meet the crisis, some aesthetic fatigue, feelings into the dull period, and the wife's menopause "no sensible" performance, some middle-aged men are easy to come to the home outside the "comfort", or friends with friends Drinking or playing cards, or indulging in online chat games, there are also some people who have met pink confidant, breaking through the normal boundaries between men and women. At this time, it is necessary for a man to have the consciousness of self restraint. Do not take the emotional instability of his wife as a derailed introduction or even reason. It may take a wife to go out, listen to the music and play the ball, not only to relieve the emotion, to adjust the pressure, but also to let her know that whenever, you always be by her side.
experts reminding that women need to have "self-help" consciousness
two level psychologist, state counselor, said that from the perspective of evolutionary psychology, fertility is the greatest value of women, but women begin to decline rapidly from menopause, and after the loss of the value, the heart of women is often panicked. Under normal circumstances, the real cause of such panic is hard for me to detect. Menopause women, on the one hand, can not adjust their mental state in time, accept the growing age of the reality, on the other hand, due to the pressure of the family and society in the middle age of the middle age, there is a great wavering. At this time, there are some women who know the negative emotional harm, but the subconscious is the indulgence, and the response of the side of obedience to affirm the value of their own in the family can not be shaken.
emotional catharsis is a good recipe for mental health care. It is the consensus of a lot of psychologists. However, the menopause women must have a positive attitude to resist the bad mood. They should have the strong sense of "my emotions," and the "three self", that is, self identification, self catharsis and fun. First of all, we must correctly understand the objective facts that human beings are bound to grow old. Secondly, find a suitable outlet for emotional catharsis as soon as possible, such as love work, intoxicated with hobbies. Three, there are many girls who rely heavily on their hearts and depend on their parents before marriage. Such women tend to show a stronger sense of dependence in menopause, which is a huge pressure and burden that can not be avoided. Of course, for decades, people's character and habits are difficult to change, but they still hope that this kind of women, even if they do not do it for a moment, should try to have a sense of resistance to negative emotions. Do not let yourself go and turn menopause into a flood.