difficult to act one: shy
birth is the development stage every baby will experience, some grow up and some will continue to continue. Birth; this is related to the baby's personal temperament, observation children can find, some lively extrovert, some is easy to be shy, this is a natural phenomenon!
break the law: where, and active solution! In general, there are two reasons for the baby's shyness, one is self factors, and the other is family factors.
self factors may be related to overweight, too thin, defective body, or feeling unattractive. Family factors may be parents demanding too much, or excessive protection, for example, parents, if everything is perfect, may cause a child to be scolded by often fear that things are bad, and to produce timid or shy emotions; and excessive protection will make it difficult for a child to overcome unfamiliar anxiety and be afraid of contact with others. To cause a child to produce a self abased character is a hindrance to development.
if the baby is overly shy, the role of the parents is very important. The expert suggests that at this time, parents should encourage children to contact with their peers, and let the children have the opportunity to perform, with praise and encouragement instead of scolding, and let the baby feel that he is accepted and loved, so that it is in a sense of security. In the environment, establish self value.
Two: imitating
imitates is an important part of social behavior, which is closely related to the ability to solve problem solving, and is also an important basis for examining the mental growth of children. Experts explain that when babies are about three or four months old, they will really imitate, such as imitating mothers' movements and so on, expecting to establish relationship with their mothers.
older children, about four years old, begin to imitate games, mimic the people around them, and be happy with them. It is common to learn about the world of adults by imitating their parents' behavior, or to express their feelings.
cracking:
although early infant imitation is only a reflection and driven behavior, it is not a real imitation, but parents can still interact with their children, such as mouth opening and spitting. It can provide baby's interesting stimulation, help open new links of baby's mind, and lay the foundation for the next development process.
hard to act three: competition
baby baby, not really having the intention of attack or competition, the focus of attention is mostly toys. The baby often snatches the toys on others' hands. Interestingly, when the toy arrives, he may throw it away and turn to another toy on the other hand.
to grow up to early childhood, the baby will have a clear intention of competing, in words or games, will want to surpass others, experts say, if listen carefully to the child's dialogue, often hear a baby show off said: "I have a toy gun, you do not." The baby didn't even think about it and said, "I have, too. Yesterday, my mother bought it for me. It's better than yours." In fact, mother may not buy toys at all, but the baby will lie to compete with others.
cracking method:
experts say that children's behavior in childhood is a normal behavior. When the baby's baby lies in order to be stronger than others, parents can not affirm the bad habit of lying. Should first make clear, why does the child lie? Again to judge. In the face of children's competitive behavior, parents' attitude is very important. If they encourage good competition, they can promote the formation and motivation of children's self-esteem. On the other hand, if they often teach children, they must take 100 points and fight for the first. Instead, they have to be careful in the bad habits of malignant competition.
hard to act four: the children of my family are rebellious against
and often do not hang on the mouth. How do they do it? If parents have such worries, they have to begin to understand why the baby will resist. From the eighteen month of the baby, there has been a sense of resistance. At this time, the baby has a sense of self, knowing that he is different from other people, and that is often said "do not."
the first rebellion of life was about three years old. Children will start with their parents, mother called him not to do a certain thing, he just want to do; and anything to do it himself, but often messed up, often make a mother's headache, do not know what to do! Six years old baby, although it is quite independent, but self respecting, not willing to accept Criticism has strong resistance and is easy to dispute with others.
cracking:
parents don't have to worry about babies being rebellious, and they tell you a little secret. According to the study, if a child who has not been able to resist a young child may become a child with a weak will and a child in the family. In fact, it is a good thing! But pay attention to, and can not indulge the baby, otherwise it will make things worse!
experts point out that the correct way of handling should be to transfer the attention of the child with skill. First, the parents first breathe deeply, do the psychological preparation for a long war, and then often use compliments to treat children, for example, praise the baby: "you will take your own toys, how good! Can you help your mother a busy?"; finally, you must not use the way of scolding, because if threatened, scolding.
Five: good social behavior
do you know that human nature contains beneficial social behavior! From birth, human beings continue to develop social behavior, only through cooperation and cooperation, race can survive. Experts believe that babies begin to show the characteristics of the behavior from birth to six months, such as smiling at adults when they are in good mood, crying when they are in bad mood, and in addition, babies will take the initiative to play social games, like to play hide and hide cats with mothers. To grow up to six to twelve months, the baby begins to play the active role in the game, and begins to share the behavior with others, and also to the familiar people to show their feelings.
a little bigger to about two years old, the children begin to obey the simple requirements of the adult, have a shallow understanding of the rules of the game, and begin to comfort and help the mother. The response of children aged two to three is more obvious. Children will know that they should help others, and are willing to express their willingness to help others. What else do you want to know about the social behavior of infants and young children? Tell you now!
1. sympathy and pity:
go to the baby room in the hospital and find a strange phenomenon, as long as one of the babies cry and the other babies cry, this is the baby's crying, but this is the baby crying, but This is just an auditory stimulus response, not a real response.
about eighteen months or so, the baby can experience the feelings of other people, and comfort people, such as when they see their family weeping for grief, the baby wobbly walk to give each other a hug. However, not every baby will have the same reaction when he sees others' grief. There are still individual differences. For example, some babies know that the sad emotions of others may affect themselves, and instead, they will reach out to the crying people in order to solve their unpleasant feelings.
baby children can take effective action for the sadness of others. For example, if other children cry, the baby may go by clapping him or think of some fun ideas, trying to comfort him and help him through a sad moment.
cracking: how
how to cultivate a baby's compassion? Mommy is the key! Experts point out that, when the baby appears to hurt other people's behavior, if the mother is dealt with in the way of punishment, the baby may be less compassionate. On the contrary, if mother replace the punishment in a reasonable way, persuade the child to give it. If the victim helps, the child will be more sympathetic. So when a child has misbehavior, don't be punished, try to handle it in a gentle way.
2. sharing and cooperation
if you think that a child doesn't know anything, look at them too little? And when he starts to hide from you, it's the beginning of cooperative behavior. It's amazing! Sharing in early childhood needs to be different from children's experience. For example, if other babies share toys with him, then he will share their toys with other children, but on the contrary, they will not. At this point, the baby will learn to cooperate through the opportunity to play with peers.
cracking:
do not shut your child at home all day, and take him out with other children. As long as the proper environment is provided and the child has the opportunity to get along with others, the child can learn how to share and cooperate with others.
hard to act six: attack
infantile aggression is not hostile, for example, when the baby starts to snatch the things on others' hands, the attention is more on the item, but not the person, the purpose is to take the object, but not really want to hurt the person, so often there will be a hit or a little weight. The situation. Grow up, to the early childhood, although there is less attack on the body, but the hostility is increasing, the baby will start to laugh at others, especially when three to five years old, often in order to grab toys, and intention to hurt the companion.
crack:
baby often hit people, or love to use unrefined words to abuse their peers, what do they do? In fact, children's attack behavior will be improved with age, social interaction and self-control, so it is not too tense. However, if you are difficult to control the behavior of the baby, do not throw a toy for the baby to vent, otherwise it will be counterproductive, let the baby think that it is allowed when angry! Try the method of the expert teacher! Maybe reduce the attack behavior of the child!
1. incompatible reaction technology
if the baby's aggressive behavior is only to attract the attention of the elders, should I stop it, stop it, be afraid of the child's efforts, and be afraid that the child thinks that a hit is a permitted act, what is it to do? At this point, the incompatible reaction technique should be taken unless the child has a serious attack. Otherwise, it should not be interfered. On the other hand, it rewards children who share with others.
2. use pause:
it is also very effective to use a pause to deal with the baby's aggressive behavior. It's not too difficult to execute. Mommy can try it. In the next time, when the baby has an attack, he immediately stops his activity, and asks him to sit at the side, and can not speak at the same time. The others can not talk to him. He will take about 5 minutes or so to get good results. However, it should be noted that children should not be confined in confined or dark spaces, so as to avoid any adverse effects.
3. creates an environment that is not aggressive: the principle of
is simple to provide enough toys and wide space to avoid collisions, or to snatch toys to produce attacks. And the most important point, must not be missed, that is not to give the baby aggressive toys, remember?
Seven: sex role development
baby girls often have a question, why brother can stand urination, I can not? So you can learn that the child for himself The sex role is not very clear, and what is the sex role? Huang Qian Yi explains that in a society, it is recognized that men or women should behave, such as girls should be gentle and virtuous, and if boys have this trait, they may laugh at his sissy and cause his social difficulties.
and how the baby decides to be a man or a woman has a great relationship with the development of the concept of gender. Children around three have little knowledge about their sex. If you ask a boy of two years old, are you a boy or a girl? He may answer a boy for a moment and then become a girl after a while. By the age of four, children may know their sex, but they don't know that they can't change, so if you ask a four year old girl, you grow up to be a boy or a girl, she may say a boy. When they are older to five years old, children will judge men and women according to the length of their hair. If they see long hair, they will think that he is a girl.
cracking:
three years of age is the key period for the development of children's gender concept, so parents should teach their children, the difference between male and female sex roles, otherwise it will not be easy to adjust it later. In order to let you understand the seriousness of the matter, Huang Qian set up a case to explain: small but a lovely boy, but because of her mother like girls, so he was dressed like a girl, when he grew up, Xiao can also really tend to dress for girls, resulting in the obstacles to his future development.
is not well accepted because of the social phenomenon of men and women, so it is advisable for parents to abandon the stereotype of male sex, or to give the idea of "male and female", to give children sex education with respect to sex, such as letting children take turns in doing business, not protecting girls overly, or making unnecessary adventures for boys. Wait, it's the most appropriate way!
it's hard to act eight:
when the child enters a kindergarten, it begins to be different from the family. It needs to be different from others, different feelings, abilities and ideas, that is, the child must get out of the self - centered Idea and understand others. Thinking is different from yourself. If you want to be friends with others, you have to stand on the other side's side and think about each other. This is called the role replacement ability.
cracking method:
when the baby meets interpersonal frustration, it is the best educational opportunity. Huang Qianyi advises parents to ask a child in a caring tone, "why do you think he's angry?" so it can stimulate the child to think about the other's position and help him build good interpersonal skills.