Never ask the four sentence of a child
for the new year, friends and family parties, tease children are all the people love to do, but, some words can not be said to the child.
"is Dad good or mom good?" this sentence may have become a classic, I'm afraid no child will escape this question, the typical choice question, the answer has three: 1. father good; 2. mother good; 3. good. It is generally believed that 3 is the right answer, because the child who chooses the answer will be exaggerated to be clever and fine; the child who chooses the other two answers will bring a laugh; sometimes it can be seen that the child will be so embarrassed that if we keep asking it again, there may be fourth answers: not good. We have hurt the children, because we ask only as a game, but the children are really careful to think, especially the children who choose the first two answers, face the laughter of adults, it must be very confused. In a choice, we forced our children to learn to choose third kinds of answers slowly, and let our children's true feelings become more and more distant.
"is mom (DAD) good or I'm good?" questions are often related to children's relatives or father and mother's friends. It can be said that there is only one answer, but this question is asked after something delicious and interesting to the child. In this way, the child's answer is flavour. If a child persists in his heart, the next thing is nothing. At this time, what should the child do? The heart of the child will be very difficult, there will be a struggle, but after all, the child is a child, can not afford much temptation, when remaking the choice, it will also get the dual encouragement of material spirit. What does the child learn from this question? Especially those who rarely meet or even never see their parents in order to be close to their parents.
"you see, your children are more sensible than my family's stinks." Maybe courtesy is self modesty. Maybe children's performance is not good enough. It's easy to compare words with others' children at parties. Sensitive children can be easily hurt. Children's growth speed and intelligence development are different. Their strengths and weaknesses are also different. Therefore, we can not compare with other children and laugh at their children. We should praise and encourage him more.
"how old are you now?" too. If children are dishonest or annoying in front of their friends and relatives, this is easy for parents to blurt out. It is an excessive request for a child to be active and to sit still for more than an hour. Even when a child is sitting upright in a chair, he can not do it at times. He would change his posture, move this, touch the one, and ask his parents to ask for their children, but don't know how difficult it is for the children to do that kind of mature action.