5 words of parents who are most happy for their children
1, "make your own decision."
if you want your child to do something or stop doing something, we suggest you say so. This is to let children know that he is responsible for his actions.
for example, you can say to your daughter and her companion, "do you make the decision to stay here quietly or go outside?" Five minutes later, the children are still loud, so you can tell them again: "I see, it seems that you have decided to go outside."
simple two sentences, you not only let the children understand the relationship between the antecedents and the consequences, and you will not be seen as a "bad policeman" by their daughters - she can understand clearly: it is her own decision to choose such a result.
2, "mom loves you, but mom doesn't like you to do that."
as a parent, it is unavoidable to blame children sometimes. At this time, the most important thing is to separate things from those who do it - so that your child will know that you do a bad thing, but that does not mean that you are a bad person.
tell him, while criticizing the child, that "mother loves you", and it can remind yourself that the purpose of criticizing the child is to help him distinguish between the right and wrong, not to punish him. If you think so, it's easier for you to remain calm in front of your children's mistakes.
3, "what do you really want to say?"
when a child gets angry or excited to get out of control, he can't tell how he feels, but he doesn't stop shouting, "I don't want you!" "I hate you!" At that instant, the only thing that the poor kid could think of was these words. At this time, you need to help children understand and express their emotions better.
in addition to gently asking, "what do you really want to say?" You can also give him some reference answers: "are you angry because Xiaoming brother leaked your secret?" When your child learns to understand the feelings of your heart, then, even if you are not around, he can clearly express his feelings to the people around him.
4, "you try to help me solve this problem."
if your child does something that makes you angry - you can't stop humming new nursery rhymes when eating, or trying to draw a picture with a green vegetable in your hand - you can say that. It's like the problem is on you, then ask your child to help you figure out a solution. For example, this way is to wait until after dinner, and when you start washing dishes, he will sing to you again.
this is a magic sentence that allows the child to feel that his behavior is welcome and respected, so that he can not see you as his opposite. If the only solution to your satisfaction is to let the child completely stop what you are doing, then you can work together to let the child remember what time you can't do.
5, "different people have different needs."
"there are dolls in West West, so I want one too." "Xiaoming father let him eat ice cream, so I can eat", which is the simple logic that children often use to bargain with you.
in such a case, you must tell him clearly: "different people need different things." You have to let children know that "everyone can only get what he really needs." For example, the girl next door with glasses does not mean that all the children in the building can get glasses. Cousin's shoes are small, which does not mean that all brothers and sisters need to buy a pair of new shoes.