A method of education that does not abuse children
1, absorption of education knowledge
the society is changing, the growth environment of children is also changing, then the way of education should be constantly progressing. As a parent, we must take the initiative to absorb the new knowledge of education. In the traditional way of parent-child education, parents mostly use authority to educate their children, while beating and scolding punishment is an important method of authoritative education. Absorbing new knowledge can help parents jump out of their own growth experience and adjust their educational ideas in time.
2, listen to the child
If a parent who is anxious to attack, the most direct response is the most direct response in the face of a child who does not listen to a disciplined child. At this time, parents are advised to calm down and try to be more patient to ask why children are doing this. When the mind of the parents is already in understanding the idea of the child and trying to help the child solve the problem, it may be found that the behavior of the child is actually good, and it has also released a lot of negative emotions.
3, really put down
some parents always like to keep the dignity in front of the children, and are used to treating children with the above attitude. In this regard, it is suggested that parents truly lay down their body, respect their children from the heart, do not speak to their children with the command of the tone, and give respect to the children as adults. Instead of always saying "no" to children, instead of giving children multiple choice questions, let children make their own decisions. If a child is old enough to have no problem with his ability to express himself, he can ask his child to put forward his own solutions or alternatives.
4, let the child experience
if the child is always unable to listen to adults, then the parents can also let their children taste the "self eating evil fruit" on the premise of ensuring safety and no bad consequences. Through their own practical experience, children will be able to deeply understand how correct and important the parents' teachings are.
5, when angry, no matter how to teach children
under extreme anger, parents will not be able to discipline children in a rational way. So, when parents can't calm down in any case, they suggest that parents leave the scene for the time being, or shift their attention to other things, such as calling friends and listening to music. After I calm down, I'll talk to my children again.
6, amending the expectation of a child
sometimes parents are really too eager to be very eager to get the standard that they can't do (perhaps the parents think they can do it, but they have never done it in fact! " ) to ask for children. You know, children are young, active, stubborn, forgetful and so on. If parents really want to ask for their children, they must also consider the growth of their children. They should not always look at children's performance with magnifying glasses.
7, treat the child with
some parents always like to use the accusation or command tone when they communicate with their children, which often makes it difficult for the children to accept. And the communication between parents and children should be sincere and not distance, parents can be honest to explain their fears or emotions to the children to listen to, let the child understand his behavior will make you sad, or will let you worry and fear. As long as the tone is calm and the attitude is sincere, you will find that the child is very willing to show consideration for his parents.