Re: battle of mother in second child era: 11 year old girl refused to eat for 20 days for concern.
"such memories and feelings, or deep or shallow, will be engraved on their whole life style, and some will even affect their whole life." Sun Ling said that with the increase in the number of second child families in recent years, "sibling competition barriers" are no longer a minority topic, and should attract more attention.
and yo yo, many family old people show all kinds of symptoms, and even sound amazing, but all these are intentional or unintentional performance, all of which are to re "grab" their parents' attention and love from the "opponent".
"I know you love me, but every day I want to kill you and my sister." A girl in grade three told her mother straightforwardly. 7 year old boy Tao Tao, since his brother was born after becoming angry, he always started to fight, often pinching the inside of his brother's inner thighs with purple red, even with a quilt on his brother's head. Because "more and more naughty", Tao Tao was repeatedly beaten by his parents. Until his performance in school became worse and worse, the teacher asked parents to ask them to stop classes many times before their parents noticed that their children had mental problems.
SUN Ling first saw Xiao Qing in a joint consultation at the children's hospital. "She was full of tubes and was dying." The 11 year old girl had been skinny, and 20 Yu Tian was sent to the hospital for repeated nausea, vomiting and anorexia, but no organic disease was found in physical and chemical tests. After understanding, Xiao Qing's parents divorced and her mother had a half brother after remarriage. From then on, Xiao Qing not only was full of hostility to his brother, but also asked her mother to stay with himself, refuse to go to school, even "degenerate" to drink water from a bottle and feed his parents. After being repeatedly criticized by her parents, she began to develop symptoms of vomiting and anorexia. After many times of sun Ling's communication, the child said frankly, "I wanted to starve myself to death, and I was very happy to see them in such a hurry."
"over the past two years, the attendance rate of such children has increased significantly, and many cases are seen every month, and only a few cases have been seen in the previous year." Sun Ling said that more serious symptoms often affect their learning and life, and more "problem" children may be less extreme because they do not pay enough attention to them.
, she explained, "sibling competition" means that a certain degree of emotional disorder occurs with the birth of younger brothers and sisters. There are great individual differences in degree and form of expression. The main manifestation is three aspects, showing obvious competition or jealousy, such as obvious hostility or aggression to siblings, emotional and behavioral disorders, such as temper tantrums, or "degradation" of various abilities, which can not control the size and stool, imitating the baby's lift. It requires feeding, urine, sleeping and so on. Social functions are impaired, such as poor academic performance, interpersonal tension, and various psychosocial problems.
"in fact, normal children may also cause emotional problems due to jealousy from their sister-in-law, but the degree is mild, and it will disappear in the short term." Sun Ling said that children with competitive barriers to compatriots, the negative emotions often last for a long time, and the degree of abnormality, can lead to significant harm or adverse consequences. "If not adjusted in time, it may lead to extreme behavior, or have a great impact on their future emotional management and interpersonal relationships."