Re: 37 year old man is worried about the 60 year old mother of the game all day
play a lot of games, do not want to find a job
reporters and Ms. Guo came to Xiaoming family, once opened the door, a smell came to us. Entering the room, more than 50 square meters of room was very messy, and two hairs that had rolled out felt out of the bedroom and entered the main bedroom. Four upper and lower berths were placed in the main bedroom, which was left when Xiaoming opened a man's apartment. There are a bunch of books on historical subjects and science fiction books in the bedroom.
when he saw Xiao Ming, he wore a large white vest. Although the clothes were old, they were very clean by Ms. Guo. Xiao Ming's hair is greasy and his beard stubble is heavier. It should be a long time internet connection.
at this time, Xiao Ming was sitting on the second floor light board bed to clean rabbit feces on the bed. "Let me do it, you don't reach out." Miss Guo wanted to help, Xiao Ming hurried to say. The reporter first from Xiaoming like the Internet play games to start the topic, but in the 13 minutes of communication, although Xiao Ming is also talking to reporters, but often answer no question, the following is the dialogue excerpt.
reporter: do you like to go to the Internet?
Xiao Ming: are you on the two floor? I go to the Internet, rabbits are at home, but they are everywhere.
reporter: what game do you play?
Xiao Ming: interstellar, dark, Blizzard (a famous game company) games, now play basketball games, sometimes play a web game, play a game that can make money.
reporter: I ask you to go to the Internet?
Xiaoming: no need to spend money online. Leave a phone number.
reporter: let me introduce you to a job. What do you think you can do?
Xiao Ming: isn't that an interview? There is also an assessment. That's the way it goes.
in exchange, Xiao Ming also pays attention to the body of "Daddy" from time to time, knowing that his stepfather was hospitalized a few days ago. He also gave the reporter some melon seeds.
after leaving Xiaoming family, Guo said that this is the longest time that she has seen strangers and strangers in recent years. Guo said she would give Xiao Ming 100 yuan every few days. Xiao Ming kept three rabbits at home, and they were scattered. "He likes small animals, and we can't stop them." "As long as he can go out for a job, even if he makes dozens of dollars a day, he can make him live," Ms. Guo said. "I will close my eyes when I have that day."
psychologist
this situation belongs to the personality disorder
for Xiao Ming, and the new cultural journalist consulted Shen Jian, director of the center for psychological counseling and mental health education, Beihua University. Shen Jian said that Xiao Ming's life environment was from generation to generation, because the love and care of his parents could not be found for a long time.
"he is a personality disorder, but it is not a completely closed ego." "He may not be able to get into a normal psychotherapy program at the moment," Shen Jian said. "But you can look for a topic that he likes, like you, to make his closure loose and can help him."
Shen Jian said, you can try to find a person close to him, even if it is to play games together, let the person can walk into his life, have the common language and more communication, let him gradually into the normal life, which may be the basis for future psychological treatment.
SHEN believes that the concept of "cultural related mental disorders" is too general, that mental diagnosis is more complex than physiological diagnosis, and that this concept is not a definite diagnosis, because many mental diseases are related to culture.
"I analyze his current situation and have something to do with his mother." Shen Jian said, "his mother may have compensatory psychology, because he divorced and felt that he owed his child, so he had to give more care to his children." But mothers can not provide all the psychological needs of Xiao Ming. This way of mothers may aggravate children's morbid personality. His life style is abnormal, the more mothers take care of him, the more he cares, the stronger his dependence is, the less effective treatment is, the vicious circle.
"without the principle of love without boundary, it will only make the child more and more dependent on their parents, but the mother can not provide the spiritual care in the society. To know, many lives can not be compensated." Shen Jian said.
family wishes
hope that children can restore normal support to their own
Ms. Guo's home in Changchun black water road near an old residential district, the house is very old, more than 30 square meters of housing is very local. Because the lover's body is not good, plus the son's condition, let Ms. Guo be physically and mentally exhausted. Xiao Ming's stepfather is also very worried about him, hoping that doctors can help Xiao Ming get back to normal.
Ms. Guo said that family life depends on the retirement pension of his own and his wife. Although it is only 3000 yuan per month, she will also treat the children as long as they can make Xiao Ming return to normal, even if it is to break the pot.
if you can help MS Guo and Xiao Ming, you can call the new culture daily 24 hour news hotline 0431-96618. The noun of new culture reporter Xing Yang "residence" originated from Japan, was the abbreviation of "otaku". It was first put forward by the famous Japanese cartoonist Nakamori Akio in 1983. It mainly describes those who have almost ignored the time and energy of the animation and so on. Later, "house" gradually evolved into a call for young people who stayed at home, indulged in personal interests, hobbies, and divorced from society. Japan's "house" house is famous, I do not believe you look at these.