Does academic achievement have no value?
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"Yilin", went to Massachusetts Institute of Technology more than 10 years ago, when he was in the surrounding Chinese circle. After graduating, she went to Silicon Valley and took a MBA degree as she worked, now working in a top IT company in the world, and friends and relatives felt she was able to do it. When the Chinese parents say she wants her children to take her as an example, the Chinese parents show her expression of crying and laughter, and say that she is very ordinary, a senior worker, and never learn from her.
now her own daughter was getting to school age, and when she came back to see her parents, she asked her half a day to ask her about the ivy university, and she said, "I don't cultivate, where she can go." According to her mother, she really doesn't care about the children's learning, she doesn't teach at home, and she doesn't send her children to any special class. Her mother is worried about it. She is very irresponsible to say that she treats her children like sheep.
there was a holiday party. When everyone talked about the children's education, she talked about her own reflection on her children's education.
she said that from primary school to high school, both in China and in the United States, her academic performance ranked first in the school, and at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology her academic achievements were also in the upper reaches. But after work, she is the most humble student in her class, and she has no achievement in her career. After ten years of graduation, she went to the students' Association. Among the students, she went into law school to be a big lawyer. There was a government in a state. There was a CEO in the company. A classmate later rised joining a small company formed after his graduation. The company later went public. He sat on the stock market and became a millionaire overnight. If the student was more successful in wealth, then another student who took part in a small company became a partner in the company. After the company was listed, he went directly into the ranks of the multimillionaire. But this person is not a cow, a classmate of his own business set up a company, the company after the sale of the company to sell, and also built a company to sell, now is engaged in third companies, already a billionaire.
simply looking at wealth, their working people are not worth mentioning in their classmates. But the most handsome people are not those who are successful, but a very good male student in college. Since he had a child, he quit his job as a family master, because he found himself particularly fond of the feeling of taking care of the children, and liked the way of life of his wife's teaching son, and he did not intend to go to work before the child was in the school. His wife also works in the IT industry, earning enough family expenses, and his wife does not like to do housework, so the two couples complement each other. This student is also interested in tourism, the whole family is free to play in the world, has been to more than 70 countries, and then plans to walk away from every corner of the earth. His classmates are envious of his ease of work and the tension of life.
there are several Chinese children, parents from China's mainland, Taiwan, Hongkong and other places, these students are regular migrant workers, inaugurated in large companies, speaking of each other's work is weak.
some of their Chinese children were excellent at school, worked hard, and were intelligent, but after college, the subsequent career development was generally not as good as the American students.
reflecting on her growth process, she believes that there are some misconceptions about the development of children in our culture.
in the eyes of Chinese parents, the purpose of education is to train children to go to college, and not to think of education as a foundation for the life of a child. In order to achieve this goal, the attention of the parents is focused on the children's academic performance, as well as in the activities related to the famous school, and many other important aspects of the children's education are ignored in many aspects that can not be quantified. For example, a child's self - identity, self-confidence, adventurous spirit, undaunted spirit and courage, and the ability to enjoy life are all she feels lack after compared with her classmates. A man's life is more like a marathon race. If one wants to succeed, the cultivation of character is very important. The career of the University was established after the University, and the sign of the famous school was a little useful in the first and two years of graduation, and then it would soon be replaced by the work experience.
because her parents valued her academic achievements when she was very young, so she also made great achievements and did not want to see her parents' disappointing eyes. Every exam, she was particularly nervous, especially afraid of mistakes. This situation later developed into a cautious character, a perfect and lack of adventurous spirit, a sense of lack of security, afraid of messing things up, and sometimes knowing that there was not much to do with it, but I could not accept it mentally.
she gave an example of her own. When she graduated, she went to the Google Corporation to apply for a job, when it was not long and needed talent. One of the company's founders interviewed her, and she had lunch with her, especially in the hope that she could stay. But the small Silicon Valley companies are so many, no one knows how the company's fate is, will it go out of business like thousands of new businesses? Although she was acutely aware of the future of the search field, she finally chose another big company that had already broken out of the famous brand. At that time, her American classmates who worked in Silicon Valley tried to persuade her to choose Google, saying that if the company was not able to find a job in the future, it would not be possible for her to read a book so that she could return to school and read a master's degree. What was it to be afraid of? But she just didn't dare to risk it. Now Google's achievements are obvious to all. If she had chosen to stay, she would have become a multimillionaire after the company went public.
she says, in fact, that the income of their family is very high in the working class, but she does not have the money to spend, and there is a sense of guilt in the amusement, that only work is the right thing, and the rest of it is a waste of time. This is the aftermath of the idea that learning is the only thing that happens when we are young. She has no interests. As a person, she feels that her life is too thin, too cautious, too coloring, and she absolutely does not want her own child to be like herself.
she said she would let the children play, and the children would be interested in being able to go to a famous school in the future. There was no interest in it. The important thing was that children should be happy, healthy, confident and enthusiastic about themselves. In the future, what they want to do is to do what they want to do.