Parents' quarrel will make the child sick
modern psychology research shows that the family atmosphere is not good, the parents quarreled, the child's character becomes lonely, depressed, and angry, and can also cause poor appetite, poor development, often sick, negative character and so on; on the contrary, in a harmonious family atmosphere. Children who grow up in a middle school are not only open-minded, but also enthusiastic about others.
Why did parents quarrel cause children to have such a problem? Meng Meng's mother asked this friend. It turned out that in the first three months of the birth of a child, he needed absolute attention from his parents or caretakers and accepted him unconditionally; from fourth months to three years old, the child began to build self-consciousness and learn to be independent, and during that time he needed a sense of security.
children need a sense of security, not to be afraid of collapse, but to have a harmonious relationship between their parents, especially the stability of their mother's emotions. A sense of security is enough to enable children to develop their independent selves well. If the parents' relationship is not harmonious and the children's insecurity is insufficient, they will produce bad emotions such as fear, tension and anxiety. Under these emotions, the children's appetite and immunity will be affected, and the children will have obstacles in all aspects of health, learning and interpersonal communication, and the most common for the smaller children. It's sick.
understand this truth, Meng Meng's parents regret it very much. They remember: every two people quarrel, the child will cry, sometimes sleep at night will wake up crying. Now, the two have realized that quarrels are useless and hurt each other and their children. Under the guidance of friends, they formally apologized to Meng Meng and told her that her father and mother had nothing to do with her. They loved her so much that they would not quarrel in the future so as to lighten the anxiety and anxiety of the children.
two days later, the child's body temperature was stabilized, and he was no longer feverish, and his appetite increased somewhat.
as a parent, it is inevitable that there is a dispute. How to deal with it?
parents quarrel makes children frightened. Psychologist studies have found that even if such a thing rarely appears, it will also impress the child's young mind, and the children will recall the pain and fear of the year later. Children feel threatened by their sacred family world, which is the worst thing for him.
husband and wife quarrel is unavoidable, and the love of a couple will also mix up, it is not necessary to avoid, but psychologists believe that it is absolutely impossible to let a child feel a quarrel is a tragic event. The most important thing is that arguing can not be exceptional. In order not to make the quarrel between husband and wife make children afraid, parents must explain to their children why they argue. For example, mom can pull the child into his arms and say, "mom is angry with his father. He reads newspapers after dinner, and his mother wants him to help with the housework."
after the quarrel between husband and wife, let the children see how they are reconciled later, such as apologizing, hugging or giving in to each other.
when it comes to major problems, it is only when the children can understand these problems that children can understand the inside story. Psychologists suggest that parents should avoid quarrelling before children under 4 years of age. If the argument is a child can bear, it may play a positive role in the development of children, because children can learn how to resolve their differences.