Ji'nan real edition "Lan Ma" guarding mentally retarded twins for 27 years
Qilu Evening Newspaper
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every mother is shining brilliance, this brilliance derives from her concentration, and she can be sensitive To catch a child's frown and smile comes from her greatness. She can forgive all the mistakes the child has made originate in her selflessness. Her love allows the child to take it indefinitely, but never returns it from her insistence, and the mother's love will not stop. In the past mother's day, this newspaper launched a special plan to record the same brilliance of different mothers.
the hit of the TV drama "big family", the story of the autism genius moon and mother LAN moved many people. In the city of Quancheng, there is such a mama battle: in 27 years, she has been free from the twin sons of mentally retarded and autistic, and has recovered more mentally retarded and autistic patients through the Ji'nan based intellectual barrier service center.
13 years
on the morning of 13 years to take care of the special twins and their families, the reporter saw Ms. Yu Zhi in the center of the Ji'nan Kei AI mentally retarded people. She was about six of her height and at the age of more than 50. Although the eyebrows lost their luster when they were young, they did not show vicissitudes. She spoke brighter and faster, and the whole person looked optimistic. In a classroom on the two floor of the center, a volunteer is teaching his children to read books. One of them is very enthusiastic and takes the initiative to shake hands with reporters. He was Dawei, the oldest son of the war.
in 1987, a pair of lovely twins were born in Zhaoyuan's war Yu Zhi second child, when her eldest daughter was 9 years old. 8 months later, the twins were diagnosed with mental retardation and autism. In the following years, war jade and her husband took two children to seek medical treatment everywhere, but the situation did not improve. In 1995, she came to Ji'nan with two children. At the same time, drug therapy was stopped, instead of sending children to intelligence training school.
the oldest son Dawei entered an intelligence training school. But his son, Huawei, was not willing to accept it because of his serious illness. Hua Wei often touches his head against walls and glass, sometimes with his hands and concrete walls. He often touches blood. Every time I saw him hit a wall, I hugged him tightly, letting him bump into me and even beat me. Zhan Yuzhi rented a house in Ji'nan and took care of his youngest son. The husband took his daughter to earn money to support his family in his old home, and lived for 13 years.
making clothes in the daytime and setting up stall
at night, like most parents of mentally retarded children, the battle of Yu Zhi once fell into a quagmire of despair. A woman wandering in Ji'nan alone with two special children, to take care of their daily life and bear enormous mental pressure. Zhan Yuzhi said a lot of people didn't understand her at that time. She also had a lot of sarcasm, that time as if I also suffered from autism, afraid to go out to see people, dare not talk on the way to find a place to get in. Zhan Yuzhi said that was the bottom of her life. She suffered from cervical spondylosis, insomnia and mental exhaustion. She had thought more than once about the pain of death, but when she thought of the lonely twins, she immediately dismissed the idea. In 2002, her husband had stomach perforation, and his stomach was removed by 1/3. That period was also the most difficult time for the battle of Yu Zhi. She made clothes during the day and set up stalls to help the family at night.
because of this motherly love, Yu Zhi Zhi persisted. Now, after suffering nine years of compulsory education, her eldest son has been graduating. Under his careful care, the mood of his youngest son is becoming more and more stable. He later entered the service center of the Ji'nan based intellectual handicapped, and is now the director of the center. And now their families are in the center, and the eldest son is also a teaching assistant.
children who hold up more than half of the day but the whole day of Ji'nan base love mentally retarded people love to be with the war teachers, some of Zhan Yuzhi's feelings more deeply than their parents. On Mother's day, a happy mother's day for the two sons, though simple, made war yu feel very gratified. Zhan Yuzhi's husband, Ji Xueqing, felt that he owed too much to his wife, and the family we had lived through now, in fact, by her insistence, that her patience in her son was not what I had, and in my opinion it was a great mother. Ji Xueqing said that the war was not half the sky, but the whole day, and she admired her very much.
every time she recalls his own bitter history, she says she is increasingly feeling two twins' sons are a great fortune to her, "if they are healthy children, it may not be so strong now; I learned a lot on my children, that my children have made me a one to bring to others. To benefit people. "
because of her energy devoted to the two sons, she feels very much in debt to her daughter. When Dawei and Hua Wei were born, the daughter was only 9 years old. After the two brothers were found to be ill, the elder sister was also attacked and left a shadow on her mind.
because she had no energy to take care of her daughter, he did not know when her daughter learned to ride a bicycle, and she had no time to take care of her daughter's learning. She had no idea when her daughter liked singing when she liked it. "It seems to me that she suddenly sang and sang well, and then went to art high school. But I told her that she could not sing because she had no money to support her. Speaking of this, her voice slowed down, and tears seemed to appear in her eyes. But now the daughter is stable and has become a mother. This gives the Yu Zhi a great consolation.
let "Ji AI" convey more love
"every mentally retarded child has special personality and special fear." But many mentally retarded children also have special abilities. Hua Wei's memory is very good. He is especially good at remembering routes. Zhan Yuzhi told reporters a "secret" of dealing with autistic children: "no matter how they hurt you - both physically and mentally, you love them. As long as you love him, you will feel your love for him after your recovery, and you will never forget this love. Just as Huawei was sick, I held him tightly. She hopes to share her experience of motherhood treatment with more mothers. This is also one reason why she regards special children's services as her career.
it is understood that the Ji'nan based mental retardation service center was established in 2007, and now 18 young people are trained. These patients are the youngest 13 years old, the big is nearly 30 years old, they have different degrees of mental retardation, 70% also have autism. "On Mother's day, we invite parents to take part in activities in the center. Many parents want to take their children back. Some are reluctant to go. They say they like me." War jade has become the mother of these children.