"this is the fifth single Association of thousands of people, more than 1000 people today, from 1987 to 1999." The degree of friendship between single and single men and women in Colleges and universities is not only this, but the data show that 79% of the guests are 985 and 211 college students, the number of Tsinghua is the most, the most popular in mathematics and mathematics, and the famous school seems to have become a single disaster area.
the Beiqing newspaper reporter learned that this time there are 20% more girls than boys. In Universities in Beijing, applicants for disproportions of male and female proportions are usually more active. "A blind date is not necessarily accepted by the master. For example, I am in a finance and economics university in Xueyuan Road, Haidian District. Some teachers feel that we do not get into this way. A male student who was born in 1990 admitted to the Beiqing newspaper reporter. In the face of doubt, the same time as the post-90s time Yan Qiang said frankly, "33% of college students are limited by their narrow social circles, it is difficult to meet the right half. We just provide this platform to help you. "
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the campus version of "if you are the one" and "contract lovers" is becoming more and more popular, it is the management policy of Chinese colleges and universities to make friends in love. In the 80s of last century, all colleges and universities were strictly forbidden to be in love with college students, and even the rules of "school students are strictly forbidden to fall in love and disobey the school" were written into the rules of the students. From the prohibition to acquiescence, and now to the fear of being left behind, the concept of love on campus reflects the changes in the concept of marriage and love in society.
professor Mei Zhigang, a professor of sociology at the Huazhong Normal University, still remembers his school to prevent students from falling in love on campus in 1987. "On the occasion of the spring and summer, after our evening school, the picket team patrolled the hidden place in the school, and found that the lovers would use the flashlight to illuminate them and remind them to return to their dorm as soon as possible. If you still don't leave, you will come forward and criticize. The picket team is mainly a security patrol member of the school security office, and some of them are student union and League Committee cadres.
however, in the 90s of last century, the attitude of University towards students' love began to change. By 2005, our country no longer restricted the marriage of college students, the University was in love and even married to the students, and gradually adopted the tacit attitude of "no support and no objection". "The liberalization of management has also adapted to the emotional changes of China's real life in the past thirty years. The development of social frequency and social media makes people eager to save the increasingly alienated relationships through physical interaction, and to gain friendship or love through communication, I personally support it. " Mei Zhigang analyzed it.
Gao Shan, a university counselor of a famous university in Haidian District, also said that it was the progress of the times that college students have their own friends and friends. He said that college students should be friends, love and even get married. Schools should respect students' wishes. Schools should not interfere more if they meet the requirements of the law.
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"leftover girl" social anxiety or relative low age
in the daily study of youth association research, Mei Zhi Gang also found that today's college students have a trend of low age, which originated from the social anxiety of "leftover women". "In our research, we find that more and more young people are anxious about not having a relationship. The university doesn't talk about it, and then it will be miserable. This is actually the anxiety that our society has transmitted to them. This anxiety comes from the one-sided understanding of the labelling of leftover men and women by the community and the public, and we all have a sense of crisis.
for the online and offline activities of College Students' collective friendship, many businesses are also binding to do business, Mei Zhigang said, no matter how business activities are involved, we should still advocate a healthy and benign concept of marriage and love. Popular elements are more easily accepted by young people, but college sweethearts should still have common values and goals.