Re: looks outstanding, reading is not good, and women are afraid of finding jobs because of frustration.
yesterday, the reporter came to Xiao Li's home, and even if a stranger was present, she could still be immersed in her song by singing software from her cell phone. But all the time, she had been back to the man.
the reporter tried to chat with her. She greeted the reporters politely for tea, and then took shelter from the conversation, went to the kitchen for a while, and then went to the bedroom to get things.
Ms. Fang has told reporters that the things that affect Xiao Li's mood may be related to the frustration in the work, the name of the brother's name only when he bought the house in the house, or the lack of parental care in Xiao Li's childhood.
reporters talked to Xiao Li on these topics one by one, and she gradually talked about some of her inner thoughts.
Xiao Li said that when she was a child, her parents were busy and had no time to take care of their children, which she could understand. I really do mind if I buy a house and write only my brother's name. It's not that they are more boys than girls. Boys and girls, parents have the ability to buy a house for him. His life must be relaxed. Xiao Li said that it really affected her mood and made her feel stressed, but it was not the main reason for her staying at home.
Xiao Li said he was hiding at home because of laziness. She said she had changed a lot of jobs and found a job, but she didn't find the right job, so she stayed at home, and later she didn't have to go out and go out for a job.
"there are so many excellent people out there that I find myself too far away. Some people will not teach you. You feel stressed and frustrated every day. It's boring to work for money. Now I want to find a job that suits me and suits me. " Xiao Li said she could not tell what kind of work was in line with the standard, and did not know when she should end the present state and start looking for the opportunity.
Xiao Li says she will talk to her parents and tell their parents so that they don't worry blindly; at the same time, she will sort out the previous resume, change the "wait for the opportunity" at the right time, and try to find the right job opportunity.
"my father and I are going to make some money, buy another house, write her name on the property certificate, and make her feel better." After telling Xiao Li's words to Mrs. Fang, she said she would try to help Xiao Li enhance her self-confidence and face the society positively.
experts suggest:
reconstruction of confidence in the face of society
Wuhan University of Technology psychological research expert He Fangxun said, according to the information described by reporters, the preliminary judgment, Xiao Li is because of frustration in the work, causing heart disconfidence, many times after the loss of hope to avoid Society The psychology.
He Fangxun said that Xiao Li himself had a better condition, and suddenly found that the society was not as good as she had expected, and that she was no longer good, and that the leaders and colleagues in the actual work had no one to guide her, and made her feel frustrated, and some of the family could bring her negative emotions. Events, such as the language and attitude of parents, buy house events, strengthen the pressure of Xiao Li, make her have a great sense of weakness, and start to escape the problem, escape the society, immerse in the cell phone, immerse in his singing world.
"parents don't talk much about her job search recently, and don't label her in speech, for example, don't say that she is too high on the mark or something like that. She should have sympathy with her, let her feel her parents' recognition and understanding, and help her rebuild confidence in society. " He Fangxun said that if necessary, he would like to talk with Xiao Li and her parents to help Xiao Li put down his negative emotions.