Re: China's fourth wave of singles hits the initiative to increase the number of single men and women
every fifteen Mid Autumn Festival in August, a member of the State Ministry of the Beijing man Wang Yu is asked to have a meal for the singles. At the table, the leader said in a warm and sympathized voice that it would be a holiday. No one took care of you, on behalf of the Bureau and the Secretary of the director of the director, to make you feel the warmth of the family.
this single banquet, Wang Yu has eaten for more than ten years. The older you get, the more you eat, the more it doesn't taste. He is often asked to give a toast and a personal experience to urge from a positive angle. It was not until the last two years that the country tightened its official consumption, which was abolished.
he is 43 years old and young in his eyebrows. After work, he practiced writing for one hour every day and played volleyball on weekends. We plan to read 60 books this year, and we are almost ready to complete the goal. To get together with friends and drink a little wine in my spare time. In his view, the single life is rich and free, and does not need "condolences".
however, his marriage problem is the focal point of Ideological and political work. Each year, the bureau reports the business work plan and the ideological and political work plan, which includes the marriage and love problems of the young workers, the problems of solving the difficulties of the workers and the workers, and so on. Once a leader joked at the meeting. The first task of this year's ideological and political work is to help Wang Yu find an object.
"leadership style is paternalistic in China, such as ours. From the heart, they think that being single is a hidden danger, an unstable element, a manifestation of incompetence in leadership, a lack of work and a complex state of mind. " Wang Yu said.
a leader directly led him to introduce three or four blind dates. For the first time, the leader laughed and said nothing, and found another good one for you. Unsuccessful, the leader's attitude is getting colder and colder. The leader is both warm and somewhat obstinate. He used to go out in cold weather. He often insisted that Wang Yu wear more coat than he would be angry.
Li Hanlin, President of the Social Development Strategic Research Institute of the Chinese Academy of Social Sciences, said, "in the time of the planned economy, the state almost brought all the individuals into the unit. And the unit organization plays the role of the parent and mother in front of its internal members. It sets various social functions together and provides various services to the members as much as possible.
at the end of last year, there was a small meeting in the bureau to discuss the appointment of cadres. It was suggested that Wang Yu should be transferred to the position of the chief executive of a vacancy. A direct leader objected, "what do you do yet?" The matter is not clear. A colleague at the meeting told Wang Yu about this and urged him, "please hurry up and solve it." If you don't solve it, the leader will have some opinions and ideas about you.
"marriage is not a condition for bonus, but being single is probably a hindrance to you." Wang Yu has realized this. "Being single is only a fuse. It is the embodiment of a person's values and outlook on life. Leaders may think that you lack the overall view, lack of collective consciousness, or simply do not want to make progress, which will surely leave a shadow in their hearts.
their units have the unspoken rules of "no single assignment". The main idea is that the single person is irresponsible and untrustworthy. However, the divorce is not related. When participating in the work in 1995, the unit also had a welfare housing distribution, but the singletons were only eligible to apply when they were over 35 years old. For this reason, Wang Yu waited for 10 years.
a few years ago, the unit took a vacation every year, allowing family members. Two times, Wang Yu also made a name, but finally he was brushed away. Generally speaking, the leader of the political department called him, "quite a lot of people, others are family members. You are alone. Can you sacrifice this time? There will be another opportunity later. "
Wang Yu believes that marriage is a personal privacy and a unit should not interfere; but at the moment, the closure and stubbornness of a unit is difficult to loose - one of his young unmarried colleagues has been led by a girl to the dorm with a girl, and is asked to "set up a correct view of values, marriage and love in order to lead the social fashion."