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about the flash marriage: men are better than women in Guangzhou. Men love this set of
"the flash marriage I do not feel is bad, although the time of love is short, but after marriage, two people can still be in love and can grow up together in marriage," from Guangzhou. Mr. Lin said that Mr. Lin and his fiancee were 2 months from knowing to get married. Now the two are happily preparing for the coming wedding.
with the change of people's concept of marriage and love, like Mr. Lin's "flash marriage", there are more and more phenomena, but how many single men and women can actually accept and approve the flash marriage? The survey shows that there are great differences between singles and men in terms of recognition and acceptance of flash marriage. Men think that the proportion of flash marriage is only 12%, but the proportion of flash marriage demands is 43%, while women are more conservative and cautious about flash marriage than men. Women think that the ratio of flash marriage is only 6%, less than 30% for flash marriage, and 53% of women say "totally unacceptable" The proportion of men is 38%, and men are more likely to accept high risk love than women.
and regional data in the whole country, the attitude of singles and men to flash marriage is also very different. Among them, Guangzhou single men are most able to receive flash marriage, Beijing women are the most resistant to flash marriage, and the proportion of men in Guangdong to receive flash marriage is up to 45%, and the "very reliable" Guangzhou male is more than 10%, far higher than the national average. Only 15% of Beijing's single women can accept flash marriage. It seems that Beijing girl is very cautious about marriage.
, Zhang Jiarui, an emotional expert, says the difference between men and women's attitude toward flash marriage is a difference between men and women, although men are more rational in their feelings, but men are more adventurous than women, and the flash marriage does have a certain risk, and it has not been before two people for a few decades. A complete understanding of the two families did not merge well and hurried into the palace of marriage. It is easy to bury hidden troubles in the future marriage. There is an ancient Chinese saying, "it is better to do better than to marry". Although this view is not completely correct in modern society, it shows the importance of marriage to women, so women are generally more conservative and cautious than men.
about female chasing men: North men refuse to enjoy the southern men to enjoy
in the new era, the pursuit of love is no longer only a man's patent, more and more girls are willing to lay down their reserved, brave to pursue their own happiness, all said, "female chasing men, partition yarn", as if only women have courage The air goes to pierce this layer of yarn, get the man's heart as in the bag, but for "female chasing male, partition yarn", the male and female identity attitude is very different.
data show that 56% of men agree with "female chasing men, interlayer yarn", while women agree that the proportion of this view is only 26%, most women think that female chasing men are no easier than male chasing. Men and women differ widely in their views. Single men in the north and South have different views on "women pursuing men".
the northern male generally cannot accept the practice of female chasing men. The cities with the lowest identity for female chasing men are Heilongjiang, Hebei and Shandong, while men in the south are more able to accept and enjoy the feeling of being pursued by their sister, and men in Zhejiang, Jiangsu and Shanghai are the most receptive to female pursuit. "I think it is better for the boys to take the initiative, the girls are more shy and introverted, let the girls pursue the boys actively, in case they are rejected, it will be bigger," said Xiao Liang, from Changchun, Jilin. "I am not very able to accept the mode of female pursuit."
to this, Zhang Jiarui said that Chinese traditional patriarchal thought has far-reaching influence, men have been in a strong and active position, in the same view of marriage and love, the initiative and the right to choose the right has always been in the hands of men, with the progress of the times, the change of marriage and love outlook, women began to become active, but women, but This behavior can only be accepted by a small number of people. "The difference between men in the South and the North shows the difference in the attitude of female chasing men in the north, the big men in the north are stronger than the south, and the desire and initiative of the feelings are strong, so they are not very receptive to the feminine pursuit, and the men in the South are relatively delicate and gentle, which leads to the poor attitude of the north and the south. Different.
about the Guangzhou girls most active Shanghai male most passive
girls do not act, boys' words and deeds more consistent
"brave love" is easy to do but difficult to say, every single day, the single men and women around you Shouting "to take off the bill", but few people really put it into action. From the attitude, most single men and women think that a person who likes a person must speak out bravely and let the other know, but the performance of the men and women is different.
nearly 80% of the women said that "love a person should be brave to say", but only 14.7% of the real initiative, more women in the courage to love the expression is "right and wrong", the attitude is greater than action. The male is just the opposite, and up to 93.1% of the men think love is brave to speak out, and 72.3% of them will be put into action to be the active side, and the attitude and action of the brave men are the same.
the data of men and women in different regions are also very different. Data show that Shanghai men are the most passive, while Guangzhou women are the most active. Only 60% of Shanghai men will take the initiative to pursue their favorite people, many Shanghai men say "will be silent waiting for the people to take the initiative", while in Guangzhou, nearly 30% of the women will take the initiative, which is far higher than the average level of women in the country.
obviously, both men and women think that they should be brave to love, but the initiative in action is not high, and the reason for it is to be afraid of being rejected, but unlike the traditional cognition, boys are far more afraid of being rejected than girls. The reasons for boys' second, third place are "afraid of friends too". "Personal character does not move", while women's concerns are reflected in all aspects. "Fear of rejection", "personal character passivity", "fear of no initiative, no attention" is the main reason why girls do not want to act.
"people are good face, especially in feelings. Once they are rejected, they feel that they don't see each other in the future. But in fact, they don't have these worries as long as they have a positive attitude. Others refuse your love and do not mean to deny you all. The single men are only brave to express love. To live happily, to wait in situ will only see the fate slip away, "said Zhang Jiarui.
the development of technology provides a richer form of confession,
with the development of communication tools, people communicate in a variety of ways, but in telling the person you like, it is to tell TA "I like you" on the other side of the party. Is it better for a newsletter to pass the past? Data show that men and women have different ways of expressing their affection.
data show that more than 60% boys prefer face to face, while girls are relatively implicit, and there is little difference between instant messaging and face-to-face preference. 61% of men would choose to face face to face with the object of their mind, while the second and third places were "instant messages" and "letters", while women's most favorite forms of confession were "instant messages", and 44% of women would choose "through message," the proportion of "face to face" is 43%. Men and women do not like to express themselves in public. Among them, Sichuan men chose the "face to face" ratio of the highest proportion, while Guangxi women preferred the "instant message".
"I feel that only through the phone message is not good faith, the feelings of this kind of thing only to speak out face to face to show sincerity, even if it is refused, then I will not feel regret, and face to face more truly understand each other's mood," Mr. Wang from Sichuan said.
, Zhang Jiarui says, women are more passive than men, so the way of confession is also relatively implicit. "Active confession is a lot of courage for most women. Instant messaging makes women seem less active. Even if they are not too embarrassed to be rejected, women generally choose to choose. Choose this way.