There are many "left women" in Ji'nan. The proportion of men and women in the marriage agency is as high as 1:10.
reporter survey found that part of the marriage agencies and men and women members up to 1:10, trying to use marriage to change the fate of the "leftover" phenomenon and "three fast" marriage and love view, the policy of divorce and so on, leading many people to see marriage as a "play".
high standards, strict requirements, "leftovers" gradually become more
Wang Ying from Jiangxi, a master of the famous university, and is currently working in a company in Ji'nan with a good salary. Although there is no lack of pursuers, Wang Ying has rejected most of the pursuers. She hoped that the man would be 3 to 5 years older than himself, and at least a bachelor's degree, and the income must be higher than that of her. But as she grew older, she became more and more confused and began to doubt whether her spouse selection criteria were high.
recently, the reporter visited several marriage agencies in Ji'nan, and found that each marriage agency had more sex than men. Miss Hong Niang, a matchmaker near a marriage agency near Yuan Yuan Street, said that the proportion of men and women participating in the blind date was 1:4 this year. According to the survey report, the ratio of male to female is 1:10, and the ratio of male to female is 1:20.
in the view of Zhang Hongying, associate professor of philosophy and social development in Shandong University, the proportion of men and women provided by the marriage company, to a certain extent, reflects the difference between the marriage and love outlook of the young men and women, and the fear of the fear that the girls are afraid of losing their marital status. "In marriage, girls are in possession of appearance resources and reproductive resources, and these two resources will gradually lose with age."
according to the analysis, the phenomenon of more boys and girls in the major matrimonial agencies reflects the different migration patterns between men and women in cities. Zhang Hongying believes that Ji'nan, as an import City, has a large influx of young female labor force every year. A large part of them will settle down in the city. "The living conditions in the home are not as good as the city, and this part of the people will not go back after they find their spouses outside." Because of their different social roles, most boys will choose to return to the county or hometown. "The phenomenon of leftover women in larger cities across the country is more serious, and the area below county level is a serious phenomenon."
according to the statistical yearbook of Ji'nan in 2013, the number of males in Ji'nan was 1 million 745 thousand and 500 in 2012, while that in women was 1 million 776 thousand and 200, and that in men was 30 thousand more than that in women. Zhang Hongying believes that there is no contradiction between the number of men and women in the population and the number of boys and girls in marriage agencies. The latter embodies a social phenomenon, which contains relative variables such as population migration, "can not be matched by numbers or mechanically."
the problem of urban leftover women in Zhang Hongying's view is closely related to the increasing demand for marital quality nowadays. If you don't find a satisfied partner and don't get married in a hurry, you don't marry, and the "high standard, the strict requirement" is the key reason for the remainder.
divorce sequelae: juvenile delinquency increases
the divorce surface is a matter of both husband and wife, but the injury caused by divorce is difficult to estimate. Li Youzhen, a lawyer at Shun Chi law firm in Shandong, said that about 60% of juvenile delinquency cases come from divorced families or remarried families. According to the statistics of China Youth Crime Research Association, in recent years, the total number of juvenile delinquency has accounted for more than 70% of the total number of crimes in the country.
Li Youzhen said that although the law of marriage and the law on the protection of minors and other laws stipulate that parents have the obligation to protect and educate their children, they do not specify the responsibilities of parents' poor education. The most serious consequences are that the public security department admonished the guardians and ordered them to take strict control.
divorce, however, can not be blindly identified as a bad thing. Wang Baoming, who worked as a divorce mediator in the Ji'nan calendar and family dispute mediation studio, said that although his job was to try to mediate the couple not divorced, sometimes he would persuade them to leave. "Husband and wife make mistakes in principle, such as divorce cases involving derailment, domestic violence and child abuse. In case of intensification of contradictions, it may lead to civil or criminal cases. "
high divorce rate also highlights the shortage of marriage and family counselors. According to statistics, there are more than 100 marriage and family counselors in Ji'nan. Lv Heqiang's thousand city love matrimonial agency set up marriage and family counseling service, which is divided into three parts: husband and wife conflict, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, parent-child education. After more than two years of opening up, Lv Heqiang found that almost all of the clients consulted paternity education, but there were few questions about mediation between husband and wife.
"this is mainly because marriage and family counselors are not popular enough in society." Lv Heqiang analyzed it. It is reported that although Ji'nan's large and small matchmaking agencies are everywhere, there are no more than 10 agencies providing specialized services for "problematic marriage". To this end, he believes that the civil affairs department should actively cultivate marriage and family counselors on the one hand, and on the other hand, we should guide the active participation of various forces and set up a special marriage and family guidance institution. "The government departments can guide couples to deal with the marriage crisis, which can effectively reduce the divorce rate."