origin: the Xin'an evening news
Old Executive, refers to the whole marriage deacon. Sun Jing is an old obsession in Suzhou. "The ceremony, the festival, the rite, the rite, the rite, the rite, the rite and so on, and the building of the house, and the cost of 2. 3 million are few, and 4. 5 million are not much." Reporters in Suzhou, Fuyang, Bengbu and other places, found that although the process of betrothal gifts are not the same, but every procedure has to spend money.
first, meeting ceremony: no ten thousand to take
"before the meeting ceremony, there is a general" see the eye "activities, mostly in the time of catching up, the two parties and friends to meet. Liu Guangming, in Lixin County, Bozhou, has just married a daughter-in-law. He told reporters that in the north of Anhui, the matchmaker first is a lead line. If there is a marriage intention, the two men and women and the relatives and friends will go to the market at the same time under the arrangement of the matchmaker, but the two sides generally do not speak, that is to see each other. If both of them are interested in further development, men and women will have contact with each other. After meeting
" is generally the female family of the female family and friends, such as sister-in-law, aunt, aunt, aunt, and so on, six or seven people together, sometimes more people, in the morning to the men's home. Old executive Sun Jing introduced the "women's group is very powerful, will house today, for the man's family to ask for the details," and your interview almost, but not with pen and paper."
at noon, the man will give a banquet, the rich will go to the hotel, no money is at home, the man invited family and village branches, family members of the elders and other people to eat together, usually two tables, tobacco and wine can not be less. When the women's group goes away, they must prepare cigarettes, sweets and other gifts for them.
"these cigarettes and sweets are not gifts. They are cash." Sun Jing told Xin'an evening news, Anhui network reporter: "the conditions are a little better, the meeting ceremony is generally seventeen thousand yuan, meaning 'ten thousand li pick a wife'; also some meeting ceremony is eleven thousand yuan, meaning is' ten thousand miles', to map Geely. The previous meeting ceremony is 8800 yuan, and now the money is not worthy of the table. "
" the meeting ceremony is like a wedding deposit, and then if the man's family regrets, or the man has done something sorry for the woman, this money is not going back. " Sun Jing introduced it.
it will be known earlier, why should the color gift
high color gifts not only bring great pressure to the men, but also bring obstacles to the feelings of the couple, and in some extreme cases, it has also led to irreparable tragedies.
women's temporary increase in price, the bridegroom take the head to walk
"say good money no more, I did not expect to meet the motorcade to the door, and come to a 'ride ritual', really no way!" Chen Hong is a native of Suzhou. Chen Hong said that after a good marriage day for young men and women, the man also gave the color ceremony according to the requirements, this is why things are well said, but did not think of the day, the woman changed the day, and the makeshift let the man give ten thousand yuan to the ceremony.
"when the world is drizzle, the man's welcome car has arrived at the head of the village. When he heard that he was going to get on the bus, he was dumbfounded. He really had no money. The bridegroom was also very stubborn. He drove away the car in a hurry. The last bride was the second day I sent it. " Chen Hong said that because of this, both men and women are unhappy, and ultimately hurt the feelings of the young people.
Color ceremony destroyed marriage, lovers both lost love
"two living young people so no, too bad, a year passed, now still two family pain." In May 10, 2014, Mr. Cao, an insider, remembers the tragedy when he recalls the tragedy. On the day of the end of March
"since this is the case, the woman's family agrees and the parents know it." But in any case, Aki Masa. " Mr. Cao said that the bride sent to the man's house to discuss the matter. Betrothal gifts were essential, but the parents of the men disagreed with the bride price and eventually made a tragedy. (all of them are pseudonyms)
Second, and the ceremony will be held: after a good festival of several thousand
, the men and women began to engage in formal exchanges. At this time, when the local assembly and temple fairs are encountered, the men will also spend money. "There are material exchange meetings in Suzhou. There are many people. According to the custom, the man should take the woman to participate. The man buys some clothes for the woman, and buys some clothes for his parents. Anyway, it can't be shabby. There are thousands of dollars that can't be taken away. " Sun Jing said, this is called "Li Li", directly to thousands of dollars.
every year, the man will go to the woman's home to deliver the festival. "Fish, wine, fish and meat can be taken. If the woman's family has a large uncle, uncle, aunt, etc., they must be sent together, and they will have to pack the lucky money when they meet their children." Liu Guangming said that the Spring Festival and Mid Autumn Festival in Bozhou must be sent to the festival. "Other festivals can be sent or not." Anyway, after a festival, it costs thousands of dollars. So we are men and women who know each other for half a year and get married as soon as possible. The longer the delay, the more expensive the hidden gift.
Third, pass the ceremony: the weight of the color gift of
"this is the most important one of the color gift, but also the man to 'big blood'." Lao Wang, who lives in Fuyang's midday Town, told reporters that his wife married 120 thousand years ago. The ceremony is called the most important ceremony in many parts of Northern Anhui.
will also be bargaining through the matchmaker. Between 60 thousand and 150 thousand, the two sides will bargain with each other. " In an interview with five turnout Town, Huaiyuan County, Bengbu, the reporters told reporters that they had a packing phenomenon here, such as "three gold" packages in accordance with 20 thousand yuan, such as clothing, color TV also put in, package 40 thousand yuan and so on.
"some women's families feel that this is a face issue. If you hire fewer gifts, they will despise each other and you will compare them." Sun Jing said.
fourth way, see the day ceremony: less than a thousand or ten thousand
after the ceremony, it is agreed that the two sides of the marriage.
at this point, the man will accompany the matchmaker to the woman's home, which needs to bring gifts and the birthday of the woman. "Some women will also pay a few days to visit the family at this time, which is less than a few thousand yuan, or more than ten thousand yuan. Otherwise, the woman will not be able to make a date without giving birth to eight characters. Villagers in Huangqiao village of Suzhou told reporters that they had to go back and forth several times, including asking the matchmaker to have a meal to determine what gifts to take on the wedding day. Generally speaking, the man should bring 10 cigarettes, 60 bottles of wine, half a pig, a large quantity of chicken and duck meat and so on.
fifth, courtesy: the bride on the bus to the ten thousand
"a few days before the wedding, please call the singing troupe to the men and women in the village singing the trumpet, a play is required to spend three thousand or four thousand yuan." Sun Jing said that two plays must be sung, and that the momentum and movement must be large. This is a matter of face.
the day of marriage, the man's home with a vehicle to meet, "now there are many places' on the car ceremony ', that is, when the bride on the bus, give ten thousand yuan." Sun Jing said.