There are more and more couples with flash marriage in Ji'nan. Divorce is the biggest on Monday and Friday.
, the divorce registrar in the Civil Affairs Bureau of the "let us marry" was "sure", from the "fear of marriage leader" successful attack, finally holding the "goddess" return. On the 22 day, Liu Hanchen, a divorced registrar in Zhengzhou, was on the Internet. "A home is not a place for reasoning, it is a place to talk about love".
in fact, Zhao Xiaoming, a divorce Registrar of the marriage registration office of the Ji'nan Municipal Bureau of civil affairs, is also a figure of Liu Han Chen style. She also faces various divorced people every day, witnessing the integration of people in the "Besieged City" and outside the city. In the registration hall, the right hand is joyful and the left hand is noisy. Despite the noise, Zhao Xiaoming felt that this was the most vivid and truthful lesson for the imminent marriage, telling them that life and marriage were so real.
they said they were in pain and they were broken and disconnected. Most divorced couples used these two words to sum up all the reasons for the divorce. Faced with these divorced people every day, Zhao Xiaoming has never been able to find out whether divorce is the end or the beginning of the parties, or there is no answer at all. "If I hesitated before signing, I would say a few words at the right time," if you think about it again, don't be impulsive. " She said a couple of couple days ago, when the mediation was conducted, the man left in anger and left the woman in tears in the registry. She turned the woman to the marriage and family dispute mediator Wang Yumei. She gave her time and space to talk. "She found the way to talk. She said for a long time, and she wanted to understand it." In the end, Wang Yumei said, the two were still not divorced.
"some people do not speak," hukou "on the table" fell, so that can not be persuaded, otherwise people will also curse you. There is also a husband and wife who are friendly and persuaded. Wang Yumei said that many people are divorced with emotion, crying, noisy and speechless, playing circulatory every day. The "pain" of divorce is nothing more than a child, two people's feelings and other factors, sometimes simply said a "how do children do", the husband and wife will have tears, "in this case, even point to the pain of the two people, a lot of people really do not leave." Divorced more than 23 years after marriage, the reporter saw at the divorce registry that couples were silent to divorce. Because it looks very young, Zhao Xiaoming asked more than two sentences. Two people had just led the certificate in February 14th this year. The wedding was not able to do it, and he was busy getting a divorce. "Why divorce? Have you considered it?" "we are not compatible with each other and can't live together." The man answered the answer. "How did we not find any personality differences when we were in love?" "we only talked for one or two months, and we didn't know each other enough." There is also a certificate last week, the wedding is not done, this week will be divorced, which is not understood by Zhao Xiaoming. "When I asked, they all said that because the time of love was too short, they all felt that they knew not enough before marriage. After marriage, some of the other's shortcomings were unacceptable, and the days could not be passed." "Nowadays, more and more couples are flashing away, and five or six pairs have been built in these two days." Zhao Xiaoming said there was a small couple whose children were under the age of one and came to divorce at 10:55 a.m. The divorce registry closed for 11 hours in the morning. "I feel that if I really leave, my child will lose my father's love from childhood, so I will say that the morning's application has been cut off, so that they can come back after lunch." Zhao Xiaoming said the couple eventually abandoned the idea of divorce. "This arrangement also gives those impulsive divorces more time to consider." On the basis of Zhao Xiaoming's more than 10 years of experience in the divorce registry, Monday and Friday are often the peak of divorce. "Some couples who plan to get divorced do not see each other on weekdays or have a chance to sit down and chat." She said, for example, a long separated husband and wife, probably because of the busy work, both exchanges and contact are very few, only two days to meet to meet, Monday will be registered.
couples who are anxious to get divorced on Friday often do not want to be upset by their next weekend. Because the two sides live together at home on weekends, there are many opportunities for friction, resulting in intensified contradictions. Once the quarrel occurs, the backlog of resentment is vented.
as a mediator of marriage and family disputes, Wang Yumei also said that divorce may solve some problems, but new problems will also arise. People sometimes go to a blind alley. When marriage is in trouble, they can only be solved by divorce.
in fact, many people have not yet given each other a chance to run in, they have chosen a divorce, and some people do not attach much importance to the understanding of each other before marriage. "There are premarital schools abroad, there is no such school in China, and many people do not know what marriage is." Wang Yumei said, in fact, psychological counseling before marriage is more important than divorce psychological counseling.
the marriage of the divorce registry is a harmonious conversation about the phenomenon of "fear of marriage". "There are so many problems and contradictions in the marriage, and they can examine and examine their problems from other people's problems." Now, I just want to cherish my marriage. " Zhao Xiaoming smiled and said, there are really many people who easily let go of their impulse because of all sorts of trivial reasons. But she confesses that the staff of the divorce registry are not only not afraid of marriage, but the family and marriage life is more harmonious. "Seeing so many negative teaching materials every day can also sum up experience in the long run and avoid some in life." Zhao Xiaoming was going to be a grandmother next month. She said her daughter-in-law and her son would argue. "At this time, I'll tell her daughter-in-law some couples I've seen to get divorced for the trifles and tell her how to do the best." She said, after all, passion has gone away, and there will be family ties in marriage. Many people think that after marriage, the other side has changed, but in fact it is not. "Love is a matter of two people. Marriage is a matter of two families. Some people can't adapt to the conversion of their roles. It can't be seen that marriage is changed from a lover to a husband and wife. It is impossible to think of a person's wife or husband's view of each other." In 2013, the divorce rate in Ji'nan once exceeded the marriage rate.