Liao Shen Evening News, Shen client
4 month 7, Liaoning Shenyang a school junior high school student Xiao Peng (the pseudonym) left a letter to parents out of the house out of the house Gone, he wrote in his letter, "I don't know how high your expectations of children are, but you want to learn well, so that your two old faces are bright, but your blind life... I don't know what to learn. "
junior high school students leave home to stay home letter Liao Shen evening paper
with the help of many love people, second days children found. Xiao Peng's mother said, "he did not feel too much pressure on the child at ordinary times. He only advised him to study well, even if he worked in the future, and the culture was better than no culture."
it also resonates with a lot of netizens. "I don't know what to learn when you go to school, but what you need to study after work only regrets being too little."
experts say this is not an example. Adolescent children have begun to think about "why I want to learn". Parents don't just talk about teaching and shout slogans, find their children's strengths, accompany their children to solve problems, and find their interest in learning together.
middle school students leave home to leave letters, "somehow,"
4 7, 2 p.m., Xiaopeng's mother cooked the meal and went out. 3 when I came back and found that the child was not at home, Xiaopeng's parents thought Xiao Peng went back to school. But at 4 p.m., Xiao Peng didn't go to school from school. Xiaopeng's parents began to search with their friends and family. Until 11 p.m., Xiao Peng's mother found a letter left by Xiaopeng in the shoe cabinet at home.
after the event, many teachers and parents of Xiaopeng school sent the search information to the circle of friends. The parents of Xiao Peng began to look for them along the street. They went to the home of a family to look for it, and let the people around them look at the photos. At 6 p.m. on April 8th, the boss of the Internet cafe just visited him to call him. "We have a kid who doesn't have an ID card as if you were looking for it..."
because Xiao Peng had no ID card to stay with him, he only had more than 100 yuan of cash on his body and sat in the corridor of a community for a whole night. At present, Xiao Peng is in good condition and is resting at home.
"the child has come back better than anything. He said he did not want to stay at school later, and we are now thinking about it. It may be busy at ordinary times, and some of the words that are said to have created pressure on him, as long as the child is more happy than anything." The mama of the little ROC said.
Xiao Peng's mother said that her father and her father were not highly educated, and the homework was a difficult problem for their children. They sometimes said to Xiao Peng, "you have to study well, even if it is not a college, even a part-time job, there is a culture than no culture." And Xiaopeng's performance has been in the middle class, maybe these words have caused invisible pressure to Xiaopeng.
net friend: "there is too little regret after work."
Xiao Peng wrote in the letter: "if you don't know how high you expect to be, you want to learn how to make your two old faces bright, but the blind life of the child does not know when to start, the child's consciousness is very low, the child does not know why to learn, it is for you face light or to win others Laughter, children are confused, but the homework is really (do) finished, is slow, give me two days period, do not need to find me, because I do not want to delay your time, not to worry about tears for me. Because now I have no capital, saying these words, you may not listen, do not find it, do not find it, you hate me, but I am worried about hate. Whether the word is ugly. Give the paper to the teacher, the teacher will be able to understand. After coming to school, I will tell you in detail. I hope you can understand it. Yes! Be able to forgive! Parents you don't have to worry about me. I did my best to make progress. I'm sorry, my relatives, I don't want to cheat you. But it must not be done. "
it has been spread to the Internet, which has aroused the attention of many netizens. Some netizens said, "I was also confused when I was in school. I did not know why I learned, but when I went to work, I would regret it, if I could learn how good it should be." At that time, the foundation was not solid. Now many things need to start again. The age of the study is not studied, and the age of the work has to make up for the debts owed before. This comment also resonated with many netizens.
also some netizens said, "fully understood, the third section of the first three is really difficult, it is a transformation of the ideological process, may be nothing like, the pressure increases around, but if there is a chance to tell him, to stay through this period of time, his thoughts come out, so let parents worry is not worth."
the other netizen said, "there is pressure in life, to learn to unzip, but this way of leaving home is still under consideration. When you are confused, you can think seriously or tell your parents and close friends, but the way you leave home can't solve the problem fundamentally."
expert: parents want to be good. Zhou Yongmei, the chief expert at the child's special
the cause of this state: one is that the material living standard is generally improved, the modern children have no bitter experience, but also lose the motive force of the struggle, such as the parents' time may study well to change the quality of life.
two is now a lot of children can not find themselves, just parents' expectation, which also let him lose the motivation of the struggle, to let him understand that "learning is for yourself and learn, not to test the University, but to enrich yourself."
three is that some children do not know what they want and do not know themselves. They may have higher goals and lack of action. They will eliminate their enthusiasm when they can't realize it, and even confused "why do I have to study so?"
in response to these questions, parents should also discover children's changes early. First, we should cultivate the "feeling" of the children, let them do things themselves, and let them feel the sense of achievement in the process of their own work, and they are interested in developing at a higher level. Secondly, parents should be good at finding out their children's strengths, and constantly guide their children in this regard, so that children will struggle for their future career. Third, through the power of example and idol, give children a lot of example, let the child understand that no struggle can not have a bright result.
finally, parents are advised not to impose their expectations on their children, nor to do things for their children. Do not blindly preach and shout slogans, which only makes children feel more and more stressed. "This kid is more progressive. He thinks actively why I study at this age. My parents should give him the right guidance at this time." Zhou Yongmei introduced it. 銆�銆�