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May 31st, on the streets of Ji'nan, a pupil was told by his parents to take the key to their home after school, and to cover their ears reluctantly. Newspaper reporter Qiu Zhiqiang
what makes Li Jiangzhe heartache more, he can clearly feel his daughter's estranging. "As long as the mother and grandma are at home, she doesn't want to play with me, and she doesn't look at me in answer to the question."
a recent survey by a media in Guangdong shows that 30% of parents spend less than an hour with their children every day, and many of the children closest to their children are not parents, but grandparents. Many single children can't find partners, so they are more lonely.
a survey of a small headache in a hot primary school in Ji'nan has a more specific interpretation. In the problem of "having trouble, you choose to talk to anyone", some children answer themselves, toys, animals and even pillows.
the psychological tutor of the school believes that the strange answer reflects the lack of family education. "More than one parent complained to me, children don't understand their expectations and communicate with their children."
Chang Shumin, an associate professor of psychology at the Shandong Normal University, says that children who are frustrated or confused are certainly different from their confidence and security if they can get their parents' comfort, communication or guidance in time. "Overseas studies have shown that children who eat more with their parents are more likely to become excellent people in the future. Communication with children at the table will transform into the motivation and protection of children's growth.
primary school parents also helplessness
Ji'nan / > May 31st news (reporter Xu Jie) recently, Ji'nan foreign language school, primary school, junior high school enrollment. As a full-time boarding school, the enrollment of the school is very popular every year. "Busy work, no time to care" becomes the biggest reason for parents to choose boarding schools for their children.
in May 21st, nearly 10000 primary school graduates took part in the preliminary examination of the Ji'nan foreign language school, competing for 800 enrollment quotas, the enrollment ratio was 11:1, and the difficulty exceeded the college entrance examination. The boarding school of the Middle School of the Middle School of the second middle school (JIA Xuan high school) was also favored by the parents; at the same time, the private school of the full-time boarding school, Ji'nan foreign language Kaiyuan country The school attracted thousands of parents to sign up, and had to choose the way to screen students.
"it's too far home, it's not convenient to deliver children," said a mother to a boarding school for children. "It's better to have a busy job and not take care of the children. It's better to let the school go to teach". It's the most frequent reason for parents to use.
Chang Shumin, an associate professor of the school of psychology at the Shandong Normal University, says she does not support children under high school. Under the pressure and value of the work of modern society, young parents have a lot of brains in school selection, but school education can never replace family education.
I have only one requirement when I'm not responsible for the choice of
daughter Jingjing.
I'm very resistant to boarding, because I have a bad boarding experience of the kindergarten - the bath is a pipeline before the weekend comes home, the first teacher splashed a basin of water on the body, and second teachers put fat. Soap, third throw a basin of water, now I still remember the bath teacher wearing a flower pants. Without the warmth of my parents, my greatest weakness is self doubt.
Jingjing is boarding school, but she is a student at school. When we first went to school, though we emphasized that she would pick her up at night, she was still so upset: every day she would find reasons to let us pass. After a while, I said I didn't bring a pencil box, and I said the shirt was not clean. We're going to go home with us.
I asked a lot of parents for the reason for their children to lodge, some said they were busy, some said to let their children exercise from childhood; some said that the children are still stupid now, let him live in the school, and do not complain about their parents. You have no time to manage the children. Why do you give birth to him? Say, let the child get exercise from childhood, and find a pretext for his irresponsibility.
a small age to lodge, let the child lose the social education and most of the family education, those who feel that the child is good to make a fool of the parents, have not thought: the wings are not long full of birds, is the most need father and mother's care, how they want to snuggle in the mother's mother's arms! Even if it is easy to close eyes!
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