the Southern Daily reporter Deng Qiang
"because you all like to play"
girl 's mother, Ms. Luo said, because most of the students in her daughter's class have smartphones, and their daughter's final exam results are excellent, so she bought a cell phone for her daughter. " But Ms. Luo and her daughter agreed to play only 15 to 20 minutes a day, and the rest of the cell phones should be handed in. "One day, when she played overtime, her father criticized her." Ms. Locke said. On the same day, Ms. Luo was chatting in high school classrooms. Her daughter complained that Miss Luo had not set an example, and Ms. Luo criticized her. Before going to bed at night, my daughter wrote a letter to Ms. Luo.
in her letter, the 12 year old daughter thought her mother estranged herself from her brother because of playing with her cell phone, and became angry and angry. In the letter, the daughter wanted her mother to set an example and play less mobile phones, so as to win her daughter's trust. After receiving the letter from her daughter, Mrs. Luo and her father were very touched. "I have a full time with my children at home, and I don't have much contact with my husband at home. We are determined to put the cell phone well, now in the drawer, to spend the spare time with the child, or to do something else." Ms. Locke said.
when it comes to why daughters like playing with mobile phones, Ms Luo realized that she had bad influence on her daughter. "Daughter's answer is very simple, because you all like to play."
Ms. Luo's practice is not uncommon. Nowadays, after many 80 or 90's parents, many people suffer from mobile phone dependence. Even with children, the cell phone does not leave hands for a moment.
netizen @ min er said: "my sister and brother-in-law went home for the new year. My nephew is now over 3 years old. In the evening, I watched TV with my nephew, my elder sister and my brother-in-law at home. I didn't play with my cell phone or my nephew, but my elder sister and brother-in-law were playing with mobile phones. My nephew was thirsty and asked his mother to help him to drink, but my sister kept playing with her cell phone. My nephew wants to drink water after a while, but my sister is still playing with her cell phone, and my brother-in-law is playing games on the cell phone.
it is not advisable for
parents to play a mobile phone for a long time in front of their children. It is not only a bad example for the children to play mobile phones, but also harm to the growth of the children.
Yuan Rongqin, a psychologist from the psychological advisory body of Guangzhou, the parent is a child's example. Parents play mobile phones and don't blame their children for their electronic products.
net friend's history says: "you can't blame your child for playing with your cell phone, and you don't blame him for playing with your cell phone, and you can't do it well, so don't scold the child in the future."
parents often play their mobile phones in front of their children, but they often throw electronic products to their children, so long as their children do not cry. In fact, this is also a way of alienation.
"some parents say that I play with my children every day, but he plays with him and I play with me. This is a kind of perfunctory. " Yuan Rongqin said. Neglecting children is likely to cause harm to children's growth. Many children do not speak confidently. In fact, they are ignored from childhood, and become inferiority gradually. "Parents should tell their children that cell phones are just a tool, and communication between people is the most important thing." Yuan Rongqin said. Don't let children feel that they are not good enough to deserve attention. Once children become self abased, they may develop into self loathing and even rebellion.
Yuan Rongqin suggested that when parents are accompanying their children, they should try to lay down their cell phones, interact with their children more often, and establish their sense of responsibility and self-confidence.