Re: why are young people reluctant to "give birth to babies": all kinds of problems are important reasons.
< br /> < br /> Although Wang Xiaohui wanted to hold his mother many times in his heart and said,"Do not spoil the child like this, do not eat and pull down, hungry two meals will be their own obedient to eat. However, he and his wife never said anything. After all, the old man did his best to help him take care of the two children. What if he took her away? In fact, because of the fast pace of work and the great pressure, the responsibility of taking care of children eventually falls on the elderly at home. In many Chinese families, there is almost a grandmother who gives food.
Yang Yanyan never dared to take up overtime after he had finished two children. Her lover, who works in a well-paid state-owned enterprise, occasionally urges her to resign and plans to prepare for the full release of her three children. This idea was flatly rejected by Yang Yanyan.
"be thick skinned and continue to fool around." In the past two years, Yang Yanyan's unit has been laying off and reducing wages, but she just doesn't want to leave. One is because she does not want to be a full-time mother. Two, she does not want to go home to her mother-in-law, so as to avoid contradictions. The biggest contradiction is in the choice of work. At the beginning of the year, relatives introduced a very good state-owned enterprise, and finally had to give up because it was too far away.
8 years after graduation, Yang Yanyan gave birth to two children, 5 years old and 1 years old. She described herself as having survived the breast-feeding period and sent her children to kindergarten. She thought it was time to change her job and pick up her major. Helpless, the two child policy came. As a family of Chaoshan people, haste and joy gave birth to one more. At present, Yang Yanyan's mother-in-law helps them take care of their children by herself, conservative and unwilling to get along with the nanny. So every day, the old man takes his 1 year old sister to school to pick up his brother. Yang Yanyan commented that her mother-in-law had no culture, no complaints, very cheerful, but the education of children is careless. So, running together is very hard.
Fu Chunxia's mother-in-law is relatively young. She is only 60 years old. She is strong, able and hardworking. Because of losing her husband in the middle age, her mother-in-law tried hard for the only son to read. In the countryside by doing farm work, selling vegetables, is hard to support Fu Chunxia's lover for doctoral graduation, but also sent abroad to study. "This is very rare for rural women." She said. "Br /> < br /> < br /> before marriage to see their parents, mother-in-law holding Fu Chunxia's hand, tears in her eyes, said:"This is good, life will be better..." After feeling mixed, Fu Chunxia promised the old man to buy a house in Guangzhou and take her over to enjoy the happiness. In retrospect, although he could accompany his son, the old man did all the housework including buying vegetables, washing clothes, cooking and taking care of the children. After two babies were born, Fu Chunxia returned to work on time. The burden of carrying the baby naturally fell on her mother-in-law's shoulders. Her experience is that if she doesn't touch on any principles, let her mother-in-law be spoiled. Under the eaves of the same house, living habits are different. Mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law try to change each other carefully and sometimes resort to the "man" bridge. However, they find it difficult to change each other, so they lose patience, tear off the "polite" veil, and "war" escalates. Verbal collisions often occur. . "Br /> < br /> Once, Fu Chunxia educated her children at home. The old man came to persuade her to fight. She beat the child up. Unexpectedly, this has a deterrent effect on the elderly, slowly, see Fu Chunxia in the strict education of children, the elderly always stood silently by the side.