Ivan
sex: male
age: 37 year old
career: financial
single long: 6 years of love / > Ivan shakes his head straight, and for his family to arrange a blind date, he will shut the door directly and dump a word, "go to you and help me bring the dinner in." He would rather stay in his room and listen to Mozart and read some books.
Ivan recently read a book on the history of religious reform. "If women read such books, I will stay away from them." Ivan felt that women should not be attracted to such books, such a woman would be terrible.
classical music forum or reading club activities, Ivan also participated in a few times, never go. "
" there are three kinds of people, one kind of people understand, one kind of people know half of them, one kind of people really understand, but especially few, see all the first two people will not come. "
it's impossible to get to know girls all day in the room, and Ivan excludes the dating software similar to "stranger", and he dodge and dare not tell the old way of knowing girls through accosted.
"going to the French concession on weekends, sitting in the cafe for the whole afternoon, reading the books, sometimes sitting there dumb."
"what kind of girl will attract you?"
"nice singing girls, especially singing Faye Wong's songs."
"isn't a man a visual animal?" I don't know how to know her singing.
"of course is pleasing to the eye. For me, hearing is more important. But in the final analysis, people are the olfactory animals. The last two people are together with each other's unique smell, like animal courtship, is attracted by smell. "
about smell, we discussed it for a while, and finally reached an agreement. The so-called smell, in fact, is pheromone, an unheard of body smell, one of the unused reproductive instincts of human evolution for millions of years.
evolutionary psychologist bass says most male primates can detect when their female counterparts are in the ovulation period, for example, female chimpanzee has entered the oestrus and ovulation period and emits visual and olfactory signals to attract males to mate.
a few weeks ago, Ivan went to Beijing on a business trip and met a quiet girl in a teahouse in Houhai. She sat on her chair and watched a book, the black hair covered her face. Ivan stole for a long time and saw that the girl was in the hands of a music related book. He tried to restrain the ecstasy of his heart, not to make himself too frivolous. He approached the girl with a calm expression, and quietly asked, "does this book say..."
two days ago Ivan went to Beijing again, and asked the girl to have dinner. The girl studied music and drama at the Conservatory of music. They talked about Mozart and Bach, about art and literature, about Nietzsche and Heidegger, from Wangfujing to Andingmen, until 12 at midnight.
"I haven't felt that way for a long time." Ivan crooked his face and laughed badly.
single for so long, just did not meet the right
Ivan do not feel that they have problems.
"I don't feel strange. I'm normal, but I haven't met the right one."
if you talk about marriage, education and class is the first consideration for Ivan. "Education can at least reflect a person's level of knowledge and vision. Class is very important. There are too many problems and differences in one class."
three years ago, Ivan met a wealthy woman who was very much in love with him. It is a pity that the other party is too high to climb.
"my parents are ordinary working-class families. If I stay together, her parents will definitely want me to manage the industry. How can I manage this? In this family, it is to keep a low profile. You see that those female stars have left the entertainment circle when they marry into the rich family. I also have self-esteem, the class can not get together.
the rich girl and Ivan are the same age. They also feel that Ivan is not worthy of her, and they never develop love at last.
"I don't like older single women either." Ivan had a bad impression on women of the same age. Their reality disappointed him. "They can't say they're weird. They can't label them. It's not good, but it doesn't feel good."
he had several unpleasant experiences, and was asked by a more than 30 year old woman, "which middle school read book", "where to live in" and so on very clever questions.
Ivan has been promoted rapidly in the past two years and is also a leader among her peers. He said: "it's OK to have a small life in Shanghai." He particularly disliked being asked about his income and felt that they were too naked. He would ask, "do you guess?" Usually the answer was low to make him staggering.
"I don't see much when I'm not at work." Ivan described himself as a "wretched man" at the end of the week, swagger on the street in a hundred white old blouses, stepping on the old black board shoes, and a shallow mud mark on the upper.
six years of being single, the physiological needs of Ivan depend entirely on their own hands. He can not accept the unemotional and pure physical catharsis. He shook his head and said, "what is the difference between animals and animals? I stick to my fitness. "
he kept looking forward to marriage. One was always lonely, and he wanted one more person to talk to him about music, philosophy, and life, instead of being buried by the trifle of life. "Salt is life, but it is not for discussion." Ivan can't stand the classmate's talk about imported milk powder and purchasing. "I absolutely don't have such a marriage."