40 years old men, full of charm, they have passed the time of rebellion, but also emanating a strong mature charm. When a man reaches the age of 40, his appreciation of women is not limited to the surface. They can look at the inner part of a woman through the look and look of a woman. Men of
40 have changed a lot. What they need most is career success and social recognition. Because this will first bring pride and self-confidence to satisfy the inner vanity. After 40 years of age, most of them have a more rounder communicative approach, become calm, confident and calm, learn to tolerate, admit that everything has a definite number, can treat a lot of things naturally, and treat anything more realistic.
the 40 year old man is still a career man, and a 40 year old man will be tired because he is busy in the society, he will pay much attention to his health, and will remember his birthday, eat a decent meal with his wife and children, and then announce to his family: I am old. But the most afraid of others to say "you are old". But the hair is a little white, fat is more, blood pressure rises, cholesterol is high. So they need the care and consideration of their wives. Sometimes they need to be flattered by their wives. Of course, the warmth of the family is very important.
but because of physiological changes, the middle-aged men have changed significantly in their psychology, thinking and work, such as the belief crisis, the physiological crisis, the career crisis, the occupational crisis, the human crisis, the psychological crisis, the emotional crisis and the parent-child crisis, among which the psychological crisis is:
1. Lonely
40 year old man is busy, laden with family and career. Since a man is in his own world and has little time to communicate with others, the 44 year old man will feel lonely. Competition is unprecedentedly fierce, and the relationship between people is becoming more and more indifferent. A successful 44 year old man has the feeling of being cold at high altitude. The 44 year old man whose career is not well developed will inevitably feel depressed and depressed.
"my heart is getting old" is the feeling that 40 year old men often send out. Most middle-aged people have inner and spiritual loneliness.
40 year old man may sympathize with those who are in trouble in their lives, but often hostile to those who go all the way. Most of the emergence of hostility is related to the sense of inferiority. How amiable, compassionate and generous a man is when he is 44 years old, and how irritated he is after his failure. A 44 year old man was in trouble at work, and the child turned over the oil bottle to make him furious, but if the same thing happened on the day he got the reward of his boss, his attitude could be softly said to the child, "no matter, don't be afraid."
although hostility is a common phenomenon for 40 year old men, it is a negative emotion after all. Too much hostility can easily distort a person's mind and be used to wearing discolourable glasses to see people so often that they are unbearable and painful.
2. dejected
Liu Jun had just arrived at the age of 44 this year, and his life had fallen, and slowly no more joyful, he escaped the responsibility and blamed all the faults on others. He was gloomy and depressed all day, as if he were waiting for death. His frustration is mainly due to people and things around him, he can not adapt to the requirements of the surrounding environment. So he refused to grow up and went on in disguise and said to himself, "what do you do? Why am I so bad? This world is too unfair to me!"
some 44 - year - old men of fame will also be depressed. For example, a successful man, when his wife is determined to read or work, often has a strong sense of frustration if they are not good at handling housework and facing a mess.
depression often increases the misfortune of life, so it is necessary for middle-aged men who have been troubled by strong depression, but they are often reluctant to admit that they have a mental problem, which will inevitably cause further damage to their work, life and marriage. .
3. oppressed
the modern society emphasizes competition and emphasizes the emergence, especially for middle-aged men. And Chinese traditional social culture also requires people to be "angry and not in color", emphasizing the suppression of their own emotions, which has caused many depressive symptoms of 44 year old men and deepened the emotional crisis.
4. anxiety
40 years old Du Jun was suddenly notified of a post, a sudden loss of mind, the phenomenon was called "conversion reaction" by psychologists, caused by neurosis. Because of the pressure of work and family and the desire for success in career, the psychological pressure of middle-aged people is often very large.
40 years old men's psychology is mainly manifested in hostility, depression, depression and anxiety. If we want to get rid of the psychological crisis, we should adjust their mentality, cultivate a happy attitude, form a positive self, excavate their potential, readjust their goals of life, and learn to care for themselves and seize the opportunity to succeed.