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from 2011 to now, Zhang Lin (pseudonym) has gone through hundreds of blind dates.
1.67 meter height, skin white, waist a bunch, upper body short shirt, lower skirt, stockings, feet on a double high 13 cm high heels, 32 year old Zhang Lin looks only 27 years old, a high cold professional girl. In other people's opinion, Zhang Lin should have many pursuers, but she is still alone.
Zhang Lin was designing at an advertising company. When she was in University, she talked about a boyfriend, but her mother thought the other side was in bad condition, and the two broke up. At that time, Zhang Lin felt that he was young enough to marry, until all the girlfriends were married, and she began to worry about the 3 wedding events.
the first blind date is a game of "the weak meat" game
2011 of the May Day, can't bear the mother's nagging, Zhang Lin began to kiss. She began to "spread the net". Most of the blind date were introduced by parents, relatives and friends. The frequency is also very high, at most 3 times a week.
"my experience of blind date is full of tears." Zhang Lin's first blind date was an engineering man, Da Linlin, four years old, introduced by his mother's colleague, Wang Yi. Aunt Wang said that although the parents of the boys are working class, they are honest and sincere. The male is a graduate of the key university. At present, it is an engineer in a power supply enterprise and a car.
this matchmaking is like a duck on the shelf. Zhang Lin is the kind of person who doesn't talk much. Engineering men are also unable to hold a single sentence for half an hour. Zhang Lin said, "the air is quiet, the atmosphere is very crumble, the scene is very tragic." she lowered her head and drank water only. But she noticed that she was looking at her. She continued to look down on her fingers.
Zhang Lin almost wanted to find a hole in the hole. On the night before the blind date, she also printed a page of "blind date guide": if there is a cold field, you can talk about it from the weather, do not easily inquire about the other's income. But at the scene, she forgot all about it. The first sentence was "did you eat?" Then she realized that it was 3 p.m.
the man soon got to the point: he graduated from Zhaoqing, graduated from Guangzhou University, and worked in Guangzhou University for 8 years. He just bought a house and had a monthly supply of 5000 yuan.
Zhang Lin was a little sensitive. She thought the other side was a mature and realistic man. After 15 minutes of conversation, she concluded that two people were not suitable.
but the program still has to go. The next chat makes her look like a ghost. "What did he ask my parents to do?" When did the house buy it? Which school is graduating? In what unit do you work? What is the monthly salary? In particular, he asked the work unit very carefully. He said he wanted to find a civil servant working in a public institution. Zhang Lin thought she was in a middle condition. She was a little angry. She said that she was working in private enterprises and her income was not high.
at this time, the boy suddenly said that when he came out at noon, the gas in the soup was forgotten and he hurried away. The blind date made Zhang Lin feel frustrated. Blind date was like a game of the jungle. She came home in the evening and gave her mother a good temper. Later, the mother heard that the boy was not at home without gas, but after seeing Zhang Lin, he went to see another girl.
marriage and love agency VIP a day to see 5 relatives, such as the application of
a couple of blind date, let Zhang Lin's mother feel friends and friends "free lunch" is not reliable, she heard that marriage and love institutions have a lot of high quality men, but the charge is very expensive, 25 thousand yuan, then persuade Zhang Lin to pay the money to join the high-end blind date. Zhang Lin initially resolutely opposed, but his mother said, "do I travel more than 20 thousand yuan? If you don't marry me again, where will I put this old face? "
pay the money and become VIP. The marriage and love company also promised to find the right man in a year. On the second day after the payment, the marriage and love company arranged 5 men for her: "one day, 5, 1 hours, 1, just like the application."
at 9 a.m. on weekends, Zhang Lin was sitting in the small room with the makeup makeup and throat candy in his bag, which opened the wheel battle. Around, the light of the luxurious small room was dark and soft, with two small pink chairs and a small round table on the wall, and the sweet and sweet photos of the successful couples with marriage and love companies. Zhang Lin was nervous and excited.
the first is a lawyer. A loose suit, leather shoes polished, but the top of the "Mediterranean" made Zhang Lin some stomach, from the nose in the hair of the nose also let Zhang Lin to his impression of 10 points. In order to not be cold, Zhang Lin introduced the topic to the familiar profession of the lawyer. After the lawyer's case box opened, he said for 15 minutes at one breath, and Zhang Lin couldn't get a word in it. Intolerable, she said to go to the toilet, after returning, the two sides routinely left each other in contact, in fact, she knew clearly, has GAME OVER.
second is a fund manager, a diamond Laoshi, a famous American school graduate, with an annual salary of million and Mercedes Benz. He asked what I do, then said a pass yourself how much investment. All of a sudden you want to go to the bathroom. 5 minutes passed, and the matrimonial teacher came in and said, "he's leaving first." Zhang Lin was ashamed and angry. "Am I so bad?"
fortunately, the third place in the morning is quite reliable. A "Phoenix man", a rural person, is two years older than Zhang Lin and anxious to get married. At first, the two sides felt good. The other side had paid the first payment in Guangzhou. The two people said that after their marriage, the man said they wanted to live with their parents. Their parents were hard on their own university and about one hundred thousand yuan were owed to their relatives.
"I can't do that twenty four filial daughter-in-law," so I politely said, "I'm not used to living with my parents in law." The man immediately answered, "no, I will not say anything if your housework is satisfactory to my mother."
Zhang Lin feels that the other person looks for a wife and looks for a nanny. "You want to be filial to my parents, and I want to be filial. I'll take my parents, too, and we six people live together, so do you think of it?" The face of the other side is as red as a pig's liver.
in the afternoon, the first man Zhang Lin saw was also a VIP member of the marriage and love agency, and the sales manager of the insurance company. But the man said he liked a good body after 90 years, but the institution matchmaker often introduced him to the age of 30. "He knows that we are not fit," he said. "There is" good stuff "on hand. I'll introduce him to him.
second men in the afternoon, Zhang Lin was totally uninterested. Marriage counselor said that the man's height is 175 centimeters, but even if the other side wearing high leather shoes, Zhang Lin can feel that he is less than 170 centimeters tall, the face is all hornet's nest type of acne, there is a big black nevus on the nose. It turned out that the photo was sent to PS by her marriage counselor. When Zhang Lin pretended to be upset, she ran away. "I have to throw someone else back."
a day's blind date, Zhang Lin's voice is dumb, more tired than work. Looking at a pair of red men and green girls on the road, her mind was empty.
from passion to numbness is the marriage agency
after, she asked the marriage company to request, see more than 3 a day, see 5 really inflexible. She discovers that marriage and love companies exaggerate when they introduce the man, and they often say they are in a big way. When they see a real person, they will often be disappointed. After seeing 20 blind dates, Zhang Lin gradually had no expectations for his blind date, and even deliberately imagined the other side badly, so as not to be disappointed.
at the beginning of a blind date, Zhang Lin looked forward to the new dress and new shoes, and put on a delicate makeup. The man asked her to eat, and she would readily agree. But later, she was really tired. She found that having dinner with a stranger was a torment. "Sometimes I want to run away, and there is a feeling that I can't stay for a minute."
as the number of matchmaking increases, Zhang Lin is getting numb, and she finds her vision of love and the feeling of blushing and heartbeat when she meets the truth. Blind date makes love a fast selling product. Slow hot Zhang Lin is not at all suitable for this "fast food". The purpose of a blind date is so strong that both sides usually analyze the person sitting opposite to the person in the face and language in half an hour. If they do not call, there will be no second meeting.
"sometimes I ask myself, why do I suffer such humiliation? Am I a 'leftover', I'm guilty? " Speaking of which, Zhang Lin could not help crying. The benefit of the blind date was the marriage and love agency. They made a lot of money. Zhang Lin knows a 35 year old girl who has already paid 50 thousand yuan in 3 marriage agencies. "I suspect that 'leftover girls' is not the conspiracy made by the marriage company. Everyone is anxious and they are on the right side."
5's blind date, Zhang Lin remained alone, not only in the money, but also in a broken heart. She had many blind dates, and she always felt better. "This is not as good as it used to be. If it is with this, does it mean that the previous decision is wrong?" She made an analogy: "blind dates are like drinking, addictive, drinking too much, and drinking low alcohol."
Mother's "birthday wishes" 30 years old do not marry to marry a divorced man
hundreds of blind dates, Zhang Lin also saw all kinds of men. In a blind date in 2013, the other began to say that he wanted to find a virgin; in a blind date in February this year, the other said that he had a cleanliness, that the other half would quit his job and do the housework in the future; and a blind partner was a private owner who asked Zhang Lin to have 4 children at least after marriage and then quit. Working as housewife at home can't be seen outside. There was also a blind date who only met for two weeks. After 3 meals, she asked for sex. She did not agree, and the two broke up.
every time you encounter such a blind date, Zhang Lin directly pulls the other phone and WeChat into the blacklist. "Why do they ask such a request?"
2014, Zhang Lin's 30 year old birthday, mother did not prepare her birthday gift, but reminding her: 30 years old, the old girl, if not married, she can only marry a divorced man as a mother. Hearing this, Zhang Lin could no longer hold back his tears and shut himself in the room and wept alone. At home, her mother became more and more disliked by her, and the two often quarrelled. Her mother's urge made her almost crumble. In order to avoid arguing with her mother, she did not go home directly after work every day, and swam outside until 22.
is getting older and older. Zhang Lin even relaxed the request, and the divorced man also saw her. But after seeing 3, Zhang Lin changed his mind. "One is not ready to be a stepmother," the two is a divorced man who has a psychological shadow and no sense of security.
Zhang Lin has only two minds in many blind dates. What made her "springy" was the auctioneer, who was 5 years older than her. He still had his photos on his cell phone. Zhang Lin felt that the man was courteous, that she had invited the other party to dinner on the night, but the other side was not enthusiastic, not much exchange, or even a few eyes. She invited each other to watch a movie and was refused by the other side. A few days later, Zhang Lin called each other, no one answered. Later, she couldn't help sending a short message to each other. She wrote delete, delete and write. The general content is to ask for communication. I'm a little embarrassed when I'm finished. I waited anxiously for a long time and did not receive any reply; until the second day, Zhang Lincai received a text message: sorry, I don't think we are very suitable for age. Zhang Lin said, at that moment, like a cold water poured on the head.
now, Zhang Lin is still busy with all kinds of blind dates every week, but he only sees a lot of faces and feels he is not willing to go to war. She did not hide the experience of her previous blind date. If the other person was interested, she would tell the other person the same story. However, she will always only talk about two of the most impressive people. She never wants to be told that she is a "close door" family friend who has been through the war.
"leftover girl" a few questions of the heart of the man's home
now, the blind in the eyes of Zhang Lin is a special "interview", whether the two sides are "equal to each other", can be reflected by "score" to reflect, the boy's height, education, income is "hard indicators", if the better, can hit 90 points. A girl whose appearance, educational background and income should be at least 85 points may enter his eyes. But 90 points of girls, 70 points of boys are also no fun, girls have no interest in seeing more boys.
Zhang Lin said she could roughly understand the man's family and character in less than 20 minutes. She will deliberately ask some questions, "for example, what is the price of the house and parking space in his district?" She said that the problem can reflect the economic conditions of the man side, "high-end residential areas, high prices, parking space is naturally expensive, can live upscale residential areas, the economic conditions are natural."
she will ask the other person, "what kind of investment do you have?" If the other person answers no investment, then she can basically judge that the other party does not have much money. Zhang Lin also summed up a few experiences: before marriage, do not go to the man to be a good wife and mother, so that only the price, even if the future married, but also the life of a nanny; in the first few months of love, the man may be an illusion, may be installed; if a man calls two times. If you don't pick up or hang up in 3 minutes, the man can basically be PASS.