Re: Post-80 women live oral dictation: I gave my youth to the boss.
psychologist Wu Di wrote in her book, "I know how you are left": a lot of "leftovers" are called men in their mouth, but men can't see them at all. The staff complained that there were no men in the office. I said yes, there were 3 in the IT department. They suddenly realized that they were men. They never take male colleagues as men. I told an executive manager that in fact, she had the largest number of men in the company, and she wouldn't believe it. I said, your various suppliers -- maintenance of computer, decoration, furniture company, property, express company... They are men. She exclaimed, yes, they were men. She never takes the supplier as a man.
"where is the man?" The "leftovers" are always asking. "I see men everywhere, and they can't see men. When I am waiting at the airport, I don't look at the newspaper. I look at the people around me. I see a good man looking at him more than a few eyes. I work in a lot of business buildings, I often see a good man in the elevator, I told the leftover colleagues the discovery, suggested that they know them in the name of friendship, from making friends. They thought the idea was great, but no one volunteered to do it, waiting for others to do it first. Also, the appointment with someone else to participate in a social activity, just because of rain, a little tired and lazy. There is always an excuse to forgive yourself for not acting. The best excuse is "busy at work". But according to my observation, "leftover girls" overtime is because no boyfriend, after work, no place to do, no place to go, and the more overtime, the more of course, the less male friends, the vicious circle.
do not take a job, do your
1, want to eat cherry, and grow your own tree - you can also use the work of the
our fashion group's No. 1 goddess last year married a famous stylist, two people are in the same fashion big film cooperation. A girl in our thematic group saw a boy on COSMO's single male catalog two years ago. He asked the responsible editor directly that he had been in love since his phone call. A former colleague of our marketing department was in love with the handsome boy at the beginning of the event, so he often changed his plan day after night. Who says work prevents you from falling in love? They may be the best excuse for you to take the initiative.
2, add the contact surface, increase the possibility - throw yourself into the man's pile and find the probability
you are someone who will attract someone, and what kind of place you will meet. If you can't find too many opportunities to meet a man in your present job, put yourself in a man's pile (like CC or Silence), even if it doesn't meet the right person for a time, but it definitely increases the probability of being found. Here we recommend a beautiful American movie "Beauty and the Briefcase", in which a single American COSMO editor complains that there are too few men around him, so he threw himself into a job with a man in a suit.
3, don't be a bad girl, do you want to play a group?
don't complain about having no boyfriend with your old girlfriends, they are even weaker than you. If you don't want to end up being "dead and alive, dead without Han", try to shorten the time you spend with them. Find a bridge for married couples who love your industry, and get along with these effective people, so that they can take the opportunity to recommend talents for you. People who come to know more about marriage and have the virtue of becoming more beautiful.
4, open mind to see a man - even if you are a goddess, do not only leave the male god in
you will not participate in the company's matchmaking activities, because all the acquaintances are too disgraceful; you will not participate in the social recruitment of the relative activities, because you guess the quality of men is not where to go; you will not join a group of friends. Weave matchmaking, because you think those men are not too old or too small; you don't know men through the Internet or mobile APP, because it sounds unreliable; you won't be willing to accept parents, because the men are not a single person with you; you won't... Don't you have any revenge with men all over the world?
5, play with men - cultivate a few "men" hobbies
if you spend your spare time in yoga, belly dance, and chasing Korean dramas, don't expect extra benefits. The beautiful women and men who are more beautiful than you are your circle of eight hours away. Men, especially elite men, will get together in eight hours. What kind of leisure do they prefer? All of these are worth trying. Take part in outdoor sports, play photography, play Dezhou poker, join fitness clubs, listen to investment courses, attend various EMBA lectures... They say that men love to play. The man in your mind must correspond to the N way of playing. Did Tian Pujun, like thunder, lead the Shang Jiang business school Style? In those places where male hormones are gathered, you will be more dazzling.
in these places, you can meet the suitable man
1, foreign enterprise human resources service Co., Ltd. will regularly hold a number of foreign enterprise staff party activities, such as badminton, mountaineering, self driving activities, most activities do not hit the "blind date" flag, let you participate more freely. If you are not a target of Fesco, you can mix with friends from foreign companies.
2, many large companies will have their own unions, and trade unions are also very keen on holding lonely and widow parties. In particular, male IT companies, R & D institutions, large state-owned enterprises and so on. Likewise, let friends who have a path take you together.
3, attending various names Alumni Association, returnees club and so on. This kind of organization with the name of "alumni" is very practical. According to statistics, more than half of the members who attend regular alumni activities are single.
4 is mostly found in the coffee shops or restaurants that are concentrated in office buildings, especially for lunch on weekdays or afternoon tea. Do not belittle this time, this is the best time for professional men to get together. As for how to catch up? In addition to Wu Di's eye contact method and the borrowing time method, it is really not possible to open the function of "finding nearby people" and others to take the initiative of Say Hi.
5, if you like sports, that's even better. The gym near the company is not bad, but the chance of hitting Gay is not bad. The weekend sprinter clubs are usually made up of senior white-collar workers over the age of 30. They often join a marathon together. It's easy to find them and search them on the Internet.