Coming home from New Year's Eve is a long life for "elders".
home for the new year, friends and relatives gathered together naturally, and the parents' elders began to go on. "After 80", "after 90" and even a few late marriage and late childbearing "70 after", said that the parents are not being urged to be married, unmarried by the elders are urged to marry, marriage is urging the birth of children... But this is not a problem. We have a new trend this year - the birth of children is the birth of "two monkeys".
Spring Festival is being urged by most young people. When they pick up their luggage and set foot on their way home, they are ready. A website has done a rough survey, and the old people's "birth" common reason TOP3:
- "take advantage of the good health of our children, grasp the time to want."
- "personal experience tells you that when I was your father, when I was your age, I didn't need another one and I regret it now."
- "who is next door to be married for only a year and a half?"
"we want to give our daughter the best, whether it is material support or spiritual care. At present, the pressure of rebirth has increased significantly. So the daughter is sure to be divided into a lot of things. " Spring Festival with her husband back home in Ji'nan white-collar lady Lee in the encounter with the "seven aunt" of the second child speech besieged, she did not sleep all the time when she had a daughter, that experience really do not want to come again.
in interviews, the main reason why young couples are deterred is the high cost of raising their children and the unacceptable acceptance of the first child. A mother has counted such an account: 13 thousand yuan for one year of kindergarten, 600 yuan per month for milk powder, 1500 yuan for one month of interest class, clothes, snacks, toys and other things, plus children if they have a disease to go to the hospital, and a year down for 50 thousand yuan.
before, a television station told the children about "a rebirth of mom and Dad", "regenerate away from home" and "throw in the river" and so on, but also let people think of the children's feelings. "I was very excited at the beginning. I hurried to discuss with my wife about the rebirth." Mr. Sun, 31, said. "But calm down and think about it, we need to be careful in making this decision, otherwise it will be unfair to ourselves and future children."
regenerate a?
for the only child husband and wife, the two child's way started very early, and for the second baby, "mother" also tried hard.
Wang Jin, who was born in 1983, is a nurse. Now there is a son of primary school, because all the children are only children. Under the urge of the old man, two people intend to have second children from the Spring Festival last year.
as a typical "post-80s", Wang Jin, who grew up in the county town, was young and spoiled, but his loneliness and helplessness sometimes became stronger than his colleagues who had brothers and sisters around him. "At the beginning of the old people forced to live, we are quite inconsistent, but as the age increases, some of the times do not be able to take care of them, just think of regenerating one, making a companion for the children. From our point of view, the children can also avoid many of the difficulties we are facing now." To Wang Jin's relief, his son was very active in this matter, always looking forward to having a younger sister, and even the name of "sister".
the ideal is very full, the reality is very bone. I do not know if the couple are not physically able, or the little ones are unwilling to report to their parents. The two men worked hard for several months without any movement. Wang Jin in the work of the hospital checked, is his own problem, severe oviduct sticky, she wanted to go to Ji'nan more authoritative hospital to see, and then embarked on a long two child road.
Shangdong Province-owned Hospital, Shandong University, In 2015, Wang Jin almost ran all over the major hospitals in Ji'nan, living living the membership of a Fasthotel into a gold card, taking medicine, injections, and all kinds of inspection. The husband advised her, forget it, I don't want. Colleagues laugh at her, you still have an eldest son, others do not have children do not see you so upset. Wang Jin told reporters that he wanted to give up, but think about it or continue to stick to it: "I just want to have a 'sons and daughters'!"
there are two roads in front of us, one is a test tube baby and the other is oviduct stoma. The first cost is high and the adults suffer. Second adults are not successful. Wang Jinyao clenching his teeth, determined to try, the mother-in-law who has been giving birth this time stood out and resolutely disagreed with her daughter-in-law's "foreign crime".
finally, Wang Jin chose the middle scheme. In November last year, she made the "pressure water" in the provincial Chinese medicine, and stayed in the hospital for 10 days. Hearing her experience this year, the doctors of TCM in the province were surprised to say that they did not see such a persistent mother.
Kung Fu did not bear the heart, maybe two treasures were moved by her mother's perseverance. In January this year, Wang Jin had an early pregnancy reaction. She caught the signal sensitively, and the examination confirmed the inference. "At last, I felt relieved. After I was lying on the bed in the old age, my son finally had a negotiable companion in the face of the problem of pulling out the oxygen and trachea." This wonderful mother smiled heartless and heartless.