After 80, the husband and wife sleep in a bed, send messages with their mobile phones every night, good night.
psychological expert analysis of modern communication disease "reason:
someone is overly obsessed with the image created on the Internet. R / > online communication is more than
ten per hundred calls than in reality. Yesterday, this newspaper reported a phenomenon called "modern communication disorder". Some readers have summed up the great expression of "modern communication disorder", which is "everyone in the circle of friends is sentiments, but seldom meets in real life". Do you have this phenomenon?
every micro letter a lot of people praise
to find a meal person, but it is difficult to
1986 born of Miss Kim in a high-tech zone of an Internet business as a white-collar. Nearly 30 of the year, there is no object, home people hurry. Miss Kim says the social circle is too narrow for two units per day and single apartment. Don't talk about finding a man's date, a candlelight dinner, and it's hard to find a dinner person in reality. "There's no friend in Ningbo, and colleagues rush home after work, and there's not much intersection. Most of the time, it is a dinner eaten by a man at home, and a circle of friends is being brushed.
compared with the "lonesome" in real life, Miss Kim's circle of friends is very lively. She spends a lot of time on two micro letters every day. On her way to work, at dinner, before bedtime, and on the toilet, she is busy with micro letters, self timer, chicken soup, and life.
the latest popular WeChat statistics show that Miss Kim has an average of 11 WeChat per day in 2015, and there are two shots from her own. Every WeChat has at least dozens of people to praise.
"seems to be used to chatting with people online. On the Internet, turn around chicken soup, send shopping booty, travel photos, carefree. PS's photos are also very white and beautiful. In reality, friends are very few. " Miss King said.
sleep with the wife in the same bed
often leave messages in her WeChat. Good night,
Mr. Xue is a reporter's friend. He and his wife are both after 80 and have a good feeling. 10 years ago, the Internet was inconvenient, and two people often crossed the train across half of China. Now, Mr. Xue finds that two people are still in a good mood: "sleeping with a wife on a double pillow, but always saying good night in her WeChat."
changed the apple mobile phone in early 2014, and Mr. Xue and his wife had the habit of playing cell phones before going to bed. After the lights were turned off in the evening, two people played their mobile phones back to back in the quilt. "Look at the duet, look at the public number, and then brush the circle of friends, brush micro-blog. All the updates are seen. The last one is my wife's hair, such as good night, good dream, with a few beautiful pictures, this is her habit. I'll leave a message below, good night, good dream. " Of course, sometimes the wife will leave a message first.
why is this? "Habit is also lazy, and a good night expression is convenient." Mr. Xue felt that "this is a very small and sad thing". On New Year's day, I met my wife to quit playing the habit of cell phone before going to bed. But it hasn't changed now.
take part in the family elders' birthday banquet
busy taking photos, micro letter, point praise
this story happened on the reporter himself. On New Year's day, it was a feast for the elders of the family. Before the meeting, the elders took a basket and asked everyone to put them in.
remembering the last dinner, almost everyone played cell phones except the elders did not play with mobile phones. When you are waiting for the dishes, you can play the dishes, then cook the dishes to your friends' circle, and take pictures when you eat. Especially when blowing candles, everyone is busy filming, busy with micro letters. In a moment, friends circle are "Grandma's 79 life", "grandma life is the South Mountain", and then busy with a friend's blessing, and even busy for the dinner friends of the WeChat point of the same table.
as a result, the elders are very angry and the consequences are very serious.
New Year's birthday, no one plays with mobile phones. At first, it was a little unaccustomed. But two hours later, everyone laughed and talked and toasted, feeling more cheerful than last time. The reporter's uncle regrets: "this is like eating on a table, not eating in a circle of friends."
psychological expert analysis reason
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I want you to see me
"why many people tend to be intoxicated on the Internet and communicate with people, but neglect the interpersonal communication in real life. Psychologically speaking, an important reason is that I am what I want you to see on the Internet. I am what I want to be. Yu Rongrong, director of the Ningbo people's psychological counseling center, made the same remarks.
Yu Rong Rong said that almost everyone would consciously or unconsciously create a "new me" on the Internet, a "look like others want to see." For example, a person who is impatient will create the nature of "people light like chrysanthemum, the present world is safe". For example, a girl with a common appearance often likes to take beautiful self photographing.
Yu Rong said that some people will be overly obsessed with the image they have built on the Internet. It will take a lot of time and energy to manage and maintain the image and interact with those who like the image. "Even because of the image and the reality of the image, there is a gap, because of the online evaluation, circle and present. There are gaps in reality, and more and more evasion of real interpersonal communication. "
a message "I love you"
is much more economical than reality. "Another reason is that it saves effort. Like the husband in the example, say goodnight to your wife in WeChat, just type two words or make an expression. If he wants to speak in real life, he has to turn around. He may put his wife in his arms. He needs to move his eyes and tone, and to feel tender. No more than an expression to save the effort. " Yu Rongrong said that communication is actually a matter of energy.
she made an example, leaving a message on the Internet saying "I love you", which is very labor-saving to people who watch and say. In real life, to put it this way, both sides need to mobilize the sense of hearing, vision and body to express and feel.
and Internet communication can be non instantaneous, and wants to respond to it again. In real communication, we need to respond in a timely manner. "For a long time, some people tend to use less effort network communication instead of more energy consuming reality communication. That's a reason, too. "