origin: Phoenix web fashion Author: happy Maria
Guide: Weekend friends recommended domestic TV series "tender lies", The theme of women's derailment, workplace hidden rules and nurturing. Because the rhythm is too slow, only second sets, nearly 2 hours to show only one phenomenon: after 7 years of the old husband's wife's marriage 7 years, more than 20 women every day sexy lingerie face to hold a massage; more than 50 man workaholic work overtime every day to sleep sofa sleeping room with various working reasons. Pretending to be blind to a woman, to speak orally, a baby darling...
when marriage meets the bottleneck
, it puts forward his own idea:
1, anyone, only from the outside, is really tired after years, and has nothing to do with beauty, identity, attraction, feelings, and human nature.
2, personal connotation, new charm, all aspects of charm can improve beyond the weariness of appearance.
3, even tired of sex in many years of marriage, can be as old as love and intimacy.
4, it's useless to keep changing new people to resist boredom.
a small survey today, the topic is
"ask the woman: if you are in middle age, both sides are over 40, years of marriage, if you want more, he can't give more, how would you deal with this drop? If he had more heart, what would you do?"
"ask man: if the premise is the same, if the wife needs more, you are difficult to supply, how do you want him to ease the fall? How would you help her to soothe her impatience or depression?"
many people responded and exchanged a lot of words:
"no matter men." Women will be tired of working with the same person for a long time. It doesn't matter if they are husband or wife. The change can only be temporarily relieved, the time is as long as the same tired, the standard is not smelt "
" think he may be outside someone at the end of me do not feel the fire, hate to divorce right away! What kind of society is this? "
"how do we communicate with men? If we communicate with each other for a long time, it will not be effective. It will always be fine. Don't worry. It's good for decades."
"is worried about this problem. He has been married to his husband for four years, usually once a week. This time it has been almost half a month. He asked for it yesterday, and he said he was tired. If he wants to divorce, if he has a heart, I don't care, but he has no intention of appeasing me.
can you travel or travel, or make friends? Secret contact! Stupid. "
"subconscious mind, Tado Masushan."
"30 of us have once a month."
from everyone's reply, you can see this marriage normal -
most middle-aged women are not satisfied with their desire, they are not full of resentment for men, they are not full of resentment, and the more the suspicion is in their heart, the more they are: "is he someone outside?" Is it full outside? Is it homosexual? " I am tired of playing with sex products. I can't go out to look for other people. I dare not, I don't dare to restrain myself.
, of course, it also causes women to think and complain about this unequal male society: it provides men with so rich external resources to be satisfied with the resource platform, and gives women the control of that big desire, through their internalized self high sense of morality.
and most of the men's attitude behind this kind of woman, is the line of the hero in the tender lie, which is often heard in my psychological counseling: "I have no problem. I don't think we have a problem. This is not a problem at all. Give me some time, it will be good after some time. I work so hard at work. You think of all these things all day long. Are you bored? "
the difference in this same problem has created too many marital crises, the risk of derailment, and from my investigation, when a woman is unable to control (because it can't be repressed) complaining (or even without complaining), I have always said that every pore has a sense of hunger. It is the most easy time to provoke and resist rotten peach blossoms. Men who are also bored with their own women at home are actively consoling, understanding, caring, and encouraging them to go out to find a solution, and even go into the banner of helping others.
every time we touch on this topic, we always like to ask: teacher, what are your good ways? What's your suggestion? What should a woman do in such a situation?
my answer is that there is no standard answer to the problem, and the specific circumstances of each pair of partners are different. The deep reasons for the problem are far more distant, and the unified method can not have been given. Everyone has different degrees of openness, self - discipline and moral bottom line, and the same method is not for everyone. These are really needed to be analyzed and guided through psychological consultation.
but there are some principles that I will give to every woman, that is -
never be willing to be ready for the present dilemma;
never suppress yourself;
always focus on the active search method;
never refusing a new method without any attempt;
never lose confidence and hope;
never take men as the only most important of you;
live for yourself forever.