source: Yan Zhao metropolis newspaper Author: Han Yacong He Jingren
Zhao has a picture with the children
Zhao Youwei children tidy up the bed
in Fuping County double temple village, there is a special father Zhao You, he has just over forty, but there are 17 children, 16 of them are orphans he adopted and children from special families. Since the adoption of the first abandoned baby in 2006, in 8 years, Zhao has not only given the children a family like warmth, but also allowed them to receive normal education, and to his pride, he also offered 7 college students. Zhao said that when the children came back to call him "Dad", it was his happiest moment. In the past 8 years, Zhao You and his wife have raised so many children alone without complaint. Zhao had previously declined to be interviewed by the media, but this time, Chen Wenwen's illness caused him to make the first determination to accept an interview.
do not want children to take the wrong road
double temple village, 4 kilometers away from Fuping County, not far away, but different from the bustling bustle of the county town. Zhao's home is located near the village entrance, which was built in 2010. In terms of appearance, Zhao's family is a typical rural cottage structure. When I entered the room, I found that every room was laid on the upper and lower bunk, which is the harbour of Zhao's adopted 16 children. Because most of the children are studying in the field at present, the spacious room looks a bit cool. "Chen Honghong went to school in Dalian Maritime University, Gao Qian in Dingzhou technical secondary school, Chen Wenwen in Chengde Medical College, Zhao Yu Chun went to Shanxi to be a soldier......" Taking photos, he told reporters about the recent situation of these children, and Zhao was proud of his face. Even more proud of him, several of his adopted children have already graduated to work.
Fu Ping is a state level poverty county in the old district, the mountainous area and the poor area "three districts one". One patient may be able to drag down a family, and the children of these families often face endless suffering. Whenever he saw such a child, Zhao said he would remember the flowers in the TV drama "warm spring". Zhao said that watching television shows that the incidence of general criminal behavior in children with abnormal family is far greater than that of children in normal families. "You don't have to be admitted to university. What a great achievement it is. As long as children do not go wrong, they can live a normal life." This is Zhao's greatest wish and his original intention to adopt these hardship children.
adoptive child is not a joke
ten years ago, after watching the film "Twenty-five children a father", Zhao Youceng told his friend he was going to adopt a child, and his friend responded: "you want to adopt a child, I will be your volunteer." After having economic strength, did Zhao forget his original idea, and that friend had already forgotten his previous commitment. In the year of
2006, Zhao was 33 years old, and his business was thrived. He accumulated a lot of money by operating coal stations and buying iron powder. According to his words, "at that time, there could be 1.8 million homes." In October, a friend brought him a deserted baby girl. He and his wife Zhao Hongmei named Zhao Yuqi, the first month old girl, the first child adopted by two couples. Since then, some people have been sent to their children, some of them abandoned orphans, some children who are unable to be raised by single parent families, only a few months old and senior high school.
many friends advised him to earn more money and play more when he was young. He not only listened but also strengthened his determination to adopt children. Adopted Zhao Yuqi in 2006, adopted Deng Zemin, Zhao Xiaoyu and Zhao Xiaoxue in 2007. In 2008, Chen Shuai, Liu Mei and Jiang Li were adopted. Intermittently, during the 8 years, Zhao's family members were increasing, accompanied by the growth of children. Zhao said, among the 16 children, he has given 7 college students, 5 secondary school students, two middle school students, and two primary school students.
Zhao Hongmei is Zhao's second wife and the "mother" of these children. When she adopted her first child, she was only 21 years old. For Zhao's adoption of children, she not only did not oppose it, but was very supportive, without complaint.
the joy of experience more than
children, the spending is also big, and the loss of business, Zhao said, "1 million, five or six years spent." Zhao did not like to emphasize money because he was afraid that he would complain like he was complaining, but he was not. "Bitterness is bitter, but I can still think of it. My character is so optimistic and independent."
sold 200 thousand yuan car, sold 300 square meters house...... Zhao sold all he could sell, and the family moved back from the county town to the village. Father was initially opposed to Zhao adopting children. Zhao did not speak to his father for half a year because his father did not support him. Zhao said, now that his father has changed a lot, he knows that he has a large family and will send some vegetables to his home from time to time.
has a lot of external debt and has to spend nearly 200 thousand yuan a year on family expenses. Zhao has a lot of bitterness, but he said he experienced more happiness. "Every child rushing to wash my feet, who can enjoy this kind of treatment? They all know how to be grateful, and they know that I am not easy. In the 7th day of the fifth month of the Chinese Lunar Calendar 2009, it was Zhao Hongmei's birthday. Every child addressed the young mother.
every time she takes her daughters to the mall, Zhao Hongmei is proud and embarrassed. "Four or five children are called mothers, some children are a little younger than me, and those who do not know have something to say." Zhao Hongmei said that some people would think that she was well maintained. Some people think that these children are the illegitimate daughters of their husbands. "Now I am used to it. As long as I am happy with my children, they can do whatever they say."
"daughter" gets sick family burden is heavier.
9 year old Zhao Yuxin is Shanxi Linfen people, orphan, was adopted by Zhao in 2012. Before becoming Zhao and Zhao Hongmei's "daughter", she has changed 6 "mothers", and Zhao Hongmei is her seventh "mother". "When she first came, she also cried, crying to find the big brother who had sent her, and it would be okay in two or three days." Zhao said, now he sent Zhao Yuxin to Dingzhou Xinhua primary school.
has been married to Zhao Hongmei for many years. Zhao has always insisted on not having children. He is afraid of affecting the children's psychology. With their wives' persistence, they had their own daughter last year. Speaking of "Dad", Zhao You, who has just graduated from college, "daughter" Chen Shuai can not stop tears, she choked up and said: "there is no father and mother, there is no us today, dad in order not to let us worry, to resist the family and wife's grievances, for years have not wanted their own children. My father said he had raised us, and we were his own children.
last year, Jiang Li, the daughter of University, took a scholarship of 5000 yuan, called Zhao You to announce his good wishes, and wanted to subsidize his family with money. "I say you keep it, and there's a lot of money in the University." Zhao said that sensible Jiang Li didn't ask for money from his family until now. "They all know that there are many foreign debts in the family now."
Chen Wenwen is one of Zhao's "daughters", who has been at home for 7 years and is now studying at Chengde Medical College. In May 4th of this year, Chen Wenwen was diagnosed with leukemia, which made this huge family burden even heavier. "Mom" Zhao Hongmei gave her daughter who had been born a few months to her parents, and then rushed to Peking Union Medical College Hospital to take care of the sick Wen Wen.
since Wen Wen was ill, Zhao had not slept in a stable sense. One was heartache for his children. Two was for money. In a week, 50 thousand yuan had been spent. Before, he did not accept other people's help and media interviews; now, he said, he has accepted 10 thousand yuan and some friends' support from the Fuping County Civil Affairs Bureau. "I can't get a fat face. If I don't accept this money, what should I do if I want money urgently?" Zhao has a helplessness to say.