The wife remarried with a paralyzed ex husband
evening paper Intern Xie Xiaoxin
reporter Wang Yu reported < husband / > husband high paraplegic, son young, male The old woman died one after another, and the family in front of the storm was in sight. Wang Jinling took on all the burdens of the family. Her husband did not want to tie her up, and forced her to divorce her, but she still did not abandon her, and decided to marry her husband with her husband, and the present husband supported her with great criticism from the beginning, and took care of her former husband with her. In Nanyang, Henan, this special "monogamous two husband" family, Wang Jinling, Liu Wanji, Guo Hongjian, three ordinary rural people, with the most simple way to show their love, to the responsibility of perseverance.
husband accidentally paralyzed, his wife singled up the beam
this year, Wang Jinling, 40, is the villager of Ma Zhen Fu Xiang Guan Di village, Tanghe County, Nanyang, Henan. 12 years ago, Wang Jinling and her husband Guo Hongjian lived an ordinary and happy life. The son who was dissatisfied with his one year old made the family more warm. In order to subsidize household consumption, Guo Hongjian often worked in Shaanxi coal mines for slack free time. However, in the fall of 2001, the coal mine suddenly collapsed and Guo Hongjian was buried in the kiln. Finally, Guo Hongjian picked up a life from the ghost gate at the cost of high paraplegia.
the original pillars of the family fell down at once, looking at their young son, Wang Jinling remained hopeful. On weekdays, Wang Jinling held his young son at home, looking after the husband of incontinence, the male mother-in-law was in charge of the farm work in the field. However, after one year after Guo Hongjian's accident, Wang Jinling's mother-in-law died of illness, and then second years later, his grandfather died of an accident. No one did farm work at home, and Wang Jinling faced all the family members who had suffered many times and had to bear all the heavy loads alone.
Guandi village, because of terrain, most farmland can not be ploughed, and farm work relies on strong labor. In summer, Wang Jinling has to insert more than 3 mu of rice seedlings in one person, and then pick up more than 10 thousand Jin rice in the autumn harvest. When she was busy farming, she could only hurry home at 12 noon to prepare her husband's meals, and then she would eat a few mouthfuls and return to the fields. She took up all the farm work on her own, and went out early and returned to her home every day without any rest time. When
talked about that time, Wang Jinling sighed: "it's really hard for me to do anything alone." One year when planting rice seedlings, Wang Jinling's fingers were cut off by stones and glass hidden in the ground. In order to be able to plug in the seedlings in time, although the right index finger was seriously injured, she insisted on a week's work in the paddy field until the seedlings were all plugged in. The injured fingers were difficult to heal for a long time in the water. The seedlings were inserted, but the wounds healed without feeling.
compared with rice transplanting, wheat harvest makes Wang Jinling feel especially helpless, carrying heavy wheat has become a major problem. "Wheat is too heavy. I don't have enough physical strength to carry a woman. The wheat was on his body and his feet fell into the field at once. Wang Jinling told reporters. The scene of wheat harvest was even more difficult for Wang Jinling to remember. She had just cut the wheat in the field and suddenly the sky was covered with clouds. Watching other people's family get together, quickly put the wheat in the field and stacked it up, but she could only watch her wheat being drenched on the ground. Wang Jinling said, "I can't do it alone. I feel tired and angry. I feel helpless."
"as long as I have a meal, he also has to eat"
Guo Hongjian lying on the bed, watching his wife so tired, but he can't do anything, so anxious. He has repeatedly persuaded Wang Jinling to stay away from him and find a good man to marry, but Wang Jinling has always insisted on accompanying her husband. Although the heavy farm work makes Wang Jinling particularly helpless, she knows in her own heart that no man in a rural family can't carry it himself, but she can't give up her husband: "can I be hard to do it?" Guo Hongjian used to have his parents to take care of him, and now he can only rely on me. I can't leave him behind. I don't have to suffer when I'm here. "Guo Hongjian said.
Wang Jinling's insistence made Guo Hongjian more distressed, watching his paralyzed body shrinking in the torrant pain, and he had to think of an extreme trick - forced by death. Guo Hongjian let Wang Jinling buy him sleeping pills every day because he couldn't sleep because of his leg pain. After taking two tablets a day and hiding almost 200 tablets under the bedding, he swallowed the sleeping pills in one breath. The death did not take Guo Hongjian. After 3 days in a coma, he woke up again.
why was he so cruel at that time? Guo Hongjian told reporters: "if I die, I will die, and she will not suffer." In the 3 days of Guo Hongjian's lethargy, the simple Wang Jinling, though anxious in heart, did not suspect that her husband was simply asleep. After her husband woke up, he was shocked to learn about the actual situation. Wang Jinling was shocked. Wang Jinling said, "I feel very uncomfortable. I told him what a stupid thing you are doing. It's still a long time. As long as I have a meal, he has a meal. "
although Wang Jinling did not want to leave her husband behind, she was a woman. It was hard to carry the burden of her family and her daily life was hard to maintain. Under the pressure of life and the insistence of her husband, Wang Jinling finally agreed to divorce Guo Hongjian, but there was a condition that he still had to live together with Guo Hongjian after the divorce. In 2008, the 7 year old husband and wife ended their marriage relationship.
"remarry, but to take care of the former husband"
Wang Jinling found Liu Wanji of the same village. After seeing a few times, Wang Jinling and Liu Wanji said, "I'm going to marry you, but I'm going to marry with Guo Hongjian. If you accept me, I will marry. Liu Wanji, a veteran friend, thought about it and agreed. Wang Jinling asked for such a request and I hesitated. But I want to be a family. Wang Jinling is very nice and honest. It's not easy for one person to help her. Liu Wanji told reporters.
the formation of this special family, Liu Wanji suffered many criticisms and was discouraged by many people. His decision was not only against his parents, but not by the people of the same village: "a lot of Haruki, they said, I married this wife, and with the paralyzed men and children, too much."
with the criticism of the villagers, Liu Wanji and Wang Jinling came together. "At first, my parents objected, and I didn't agree with me, so I advised them, and then they slowly figured out before we got married." Liu Wanji said. At that time, Wang Jinling took his ex husband's remarriage as a conversation after dinner, but the two did not pay much attention to it.
when farmers are busy, Wang Jinling and Liu Wanji live in Guo Hongjian's house, Wang Jinling takes children at home, takes care of Guo Hongjian; Liu Wanji rake the fields in the fields and finish the farm work. In the leisure time, Liu Wanji went out to work and made money to subsidize the household; Wang Jinling moved to Liu Wanji's house and took care of the old male mother-in-law with the children. Three meals a day sent Guo Hongjian to Guo Hongjian, and the village doctor was asked to see Guo Hongjian from time to time.
life after remarriage is still hard, but the two get along well, already have a five year old daughter and a son who is under one year old. Liu Wanji smiled and told reporters: "although the days are rather bitter now, we can do well if we do not fight and get along well." Wang Jinling and his ex husband's son also on the junior high school, Wang Jinling said: "the child is particularly sensible, when farming busy to help take care of his younger brother and sister, Liu Wanji as a father to treat, the family is very good."
Wang Jinling worked hard for her family, and in the eyes of her father in law, she gradually accepted the daughter-in-law and got along well with each other. Guo Hongjian's health improved and he watched Wang Jinling take care of him. He also felt relieved: "someone helped her work, and she was more relaxed."
the family was hit again and picked up a heavy load of
Guo Hongjian, looking forward to an electric wheelchair to make his actions more convenient and to move out of the house and look at the scenery. Guo Hongjian's desire has also become a driving force for Liu Wanji to earn money. After the autumn harvest ended this year, Liu Wanji went to Beijing to work. It was unexpected that when he first arrived in Beijing for third days, he accidentally fell off the construction scaffold, and his two heels were on the floor. His feet were badly fractured. After completing the operation in Beijing, Liu Wanji still can't go down to the ground when he goes home to recuperate.
the heavy responsibilities of the family fell on Wang Jinling's shoulders. "Now I want to take care of two old people, two adults and three children. They all want me to take care of all their lives. I'm working alone, especially hard. Fortunately, not during the busy season, otherwise I really don't know what to do. Hopefully, Liu Wan Ji can get up early and share some of them together. Wang Jinling was worried. "Listen to Liu Wanji," he said, "the building site in Beijing is not very standard. 3 people have fallen off the scaffold. Now, when I get hurt, I can't do anything. I don't know if there will be any sequela. "
affected by the great drought, Liu Wanji's corn planted in this family has been completely harvested this year. After Liu Wanji's injury, the wages of subsidised families were gone, which made the economy of the family strained even more strained. Both husband and wife very much hope that Liu Wanji's feet can quickly get better, Liu Wanji said: "now the family is spending money, to get up early to earn money. After the Spring Festival, the feet should be ready, and then go out to work. "
in three children, Liu Wanji placed heavy hopes. He said with a smile: "hope that the children can grow up early and have a promising future. Always want to think well, the child can read books, can not read to help make money, so the days in the family will be better, we can also be a little easier.
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true kindhearted
in October this year, Wang Jinling's story was reported by the media, a large number of media began to pay attention to this special family. "There were quite a few reporters who were interviewed during that time, and there were reporters coming from two days later." Wang Jinling said that the media attention made it difficult for her to get comfortable. Frequent visits by reporters often made her busy, unable to finish her work.
this interview, the reporter has repeatedly called Wang Jinling, because she is busy, unable to interview. But the good Wang Jinling would not refuse the reporters: "they (reporters) came all the way and worked hard. A few days ago, Beijing's TV station called to say that we could go there to participate in the program, but it's really not convenient now. Finally, Wang Jinling kindly reminded reporters that if they call again, they will fight at ten in the morning because she is free at that time.
recently, Wang Jinling, Liu Wanji and Guo Hongjian were selected as candidates for the ten major figures who moved China in 2013. When the reporter mentioned this to her, Wang Jinling said he was not aware of the situation and did not understand this award, nor did he pay much attention to it.
it seems to her that it is not important to be given an award or not to be awarded a prize; the top priority in her heart is to take care of the three generations and everyone of her family, no matter what happens. The most simple and simple kindness brings people boundless warmth.