Re: "gnawing old", "self nibbling" or "old nibbling"
are also "80 generation" Zhou Ling. They will be frightened when they see the phone that they are calling from home. "It always feels like something is going to happen."
calling home is nothing more than two things. One is asking for money, two is an accident. The money is good to say that I have no money to borrow, and we are afraid of big events (such as a big illness, or an unexpected disaster), and the life that has been struggling for years will collapse.
she is a Liuyang native from Hunan. She works in Shenzhen and gets a salary of around 4000 yuan a month. The allocation of wages is as follows: rent, food costs, telephone fees add up to 1500 yuan a month, send to parents 1000 yuan living expenses, to the younger brother who is still at University 1000 yuan living expenses. The remaining 500 yuan, no clothes, no friends to dinner, can be saved, otherwise the moon will be.
what worries her most is that there are always several classmates and friends coming to Shenzhen from abroad to receive a reception in the course of the year. "Sometimes I have to borrow one hundred or two hundred yuan from my colleagues for a few days. I feel sad and sad."
the predicament and helplessness of the "old gnawing clan" is particularly evident in Zhou Ling. Sometimes parents or younger brothers call, ask for temporary additional money, or see a doctor, or join a village to build a road, bridge, build ancestral hall, or buy extra supplies, her life will be in embarrassment, and sometimes she will cry in the dark.
now she has a boyfriend. Depressed, the situation of the other side is almost her own copy. "Last year, he got a salary of about sixty thousand or seventy thousand yuan, gave the family 50 thousand yuan, build a house, or build a house!"
in a few years, both parents will be old, and the young couple will face the endless pressure of providing for the aged. Zhou Ling said, it was they who gave birth to me, and I had no reason to complain, but sometimes I thought I'd rather they don't give birth to me. Why should I have such a mechanical persistence and a life that can't be seen?
over the past decades, rural social security has been missing. Most of the rural "post-1980s" parents, who live a waving life and life, social security is almost equal to the alien vocabulary for them, their only hope is their children. After the children are growing up, the historical gaps of the past institutional problems are naturally transmitted to the children, and they must be filled and burdened by them.
the dual track system of social security is still being questioned by strong public opinion, but people seem to have forgotten the old farmers who are not on the same track.
Luo Feng also thought, save a little money, for the parents to pay the social security, go home to ask, at first, only ten thousand or twenty thousand yuan per person, now has risen to 80 thousand yuan. After making up, parents can get around 1000 yuan a month. "One can not afford to buy it, the other is to pinch the finger, and this transaction does not seem to be worthwhile."
mutual tear logic
facing all kinds of economic requests from old families, "old gnawing" people are mostly mute eating Coptis chinensis. In a rural family, if only one child works in the city, the child will automatically give up the right to complain.
"complaining can only give parents more psychological pressure. You must be very strong. As if you had any difficulties, you could do something about it." Luo Feng said.
has been "urbanized" and become a citizen. Is it really a fortunate result? He Dongguang asked himself. He said, become a city man, is it really what I want? I was just trying to change my fate through hard work, and at that time the only chance to change my fate was to get into the city, and in this process I had no choice at all.
for Luo Feng and He Dongguang, the present "citizen" status is actually a pseudo existence.
under the conditions of historical arrears cannot be made up and paid by public policy, the first "urbanization" means the torn of real and psychological pain.
"old gnawing family" not only supports their parents with all their strength, but also faces the additional burden of parents passing through many rural communities. The foregoing Road, bridge repair and ancestral hall are part of the building, and there is also the burden of human relations brought about by the pan family relationship in the countryside.
for example, a cousin should go to university to sponsor a fee, a new TV house for his uncle, a TV set for his father, a birthday gift for his father. These human debts, in fact, are produced by the parents' relationship, and are sent out in the name of their parents, but in the end, they are still a part of their children and become a part of the "burden of the aged".
"sometimes I really feel like I can't bear it, but you can't say no." Luo Feng said that the year before his father called, said his "the same year" (a simple ceremony determined by a good friend of the same age) new residence, to give him a set of living room sofa, really hold a breath, want to quarrel. "My house is about to be renovated. My sofa is not yet available."
Luo Feng feels that the city and the countryside run two completely different sets of life logic, and they can't understand each other, and they happen to be stuck in the middle.
for a long period of lack of protection, children are the only guarantee. This is the common reality of many rural "post-80s" parents. The child who has a decent job in the city is the greatest pride of the family, and the parents will be keen to boast of him, as if he is boasting a hen who has a steady stream of eggs.
"sometimes when I get home and have nothing to do with me, my father will also have the opportunity to introduce me." Luo Feng said, "the income of seven thousand or eight thousand yuan is a very high number in their eyes. Of course, others will be accompanied by a few voices, and envy a few eyes. "
"but all sorts of troubles follow, and someone comes to borrow money from you or to work for you. What do you do at this time? Borrow it, no money, the other side borrowed basically do not intend to return; do it, do not have the ability, promise not to do well. If you refuse, you will quickly form a negative public opinion field in the countryside.
in the city, you will be as low-key as possible in material, and sometimes do some necessary concealment, but in the countryside, it is another set of logic. In cities, you can often say no, there are few opportunities to say no in rural areas. In the city, the children strive to supply the family in the rural areas, which is the only form of urban "back feeding" in the countryside, but in essence, this is the "self feeding" in the countryside.
there is no filial son in the countryside. Last year's national day, Yang Li, a 71 year old man, came to Guangzhou to take refuge in his son. He was sent to a rescue station by a train station. Of course, this extreme behavior is mainly due to the ethical and moral factors of the individual.
however, in rural areas, there are many cases of "Post 80" young people who have no regard for their parents because of the pressure of life. In fact, it also suggests the plight of the rural children and their parents from the other side.
"complaining is over, the responsibility is still there." Luo Feng picked up his cell phone and clenched his teeth and called his wife's phone.