More than 60% parents in Ji'nan help children write homework. Experts believe they are teaching children to cheat.
Wang Qian Xu Jia
25 days, the primary and secondary school in Ji'nan opened, the eager holiday is so passed. "Do you write your homework for your children" has become a problem for many parents to talk about, too much homework, too much pressure, or is the child too coddled now? A lot of homework is mechanical and repetitive. There are some homework kids who can't do it independently. What do parents, teachers or experts think about doing homework for their children, or helping their children complete the winter vacation homework?
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Ms. Wang (son five grade school): a whole winter vacation, all the children wrote
a whole "winter vacation" of my son.
there are eight or nine kinds of homework in his winter vacation: winter vacation life, reading comprehension, description, travel notes, reading and feeling. In these assignments, I feel that the feeling of reading needs the children to think, and the red is good for him. I won't do it for him, so I chose to live in the winter vacation. I had left some questions for him to do, but I had written too much font difference.
actually, I used to work in a group, and the parents in the group came from all over the country. About half of the parents thought there were too many assignments. But the whole winter holiday only four weeks, take the children out to play a week, English class is basically a week, after the new year's Eve, first day, walking relatives and a basic week, the time to write the homework is left eight or nine days, want to finish the homework from early to late, the child's mood is especially bad.
My son likes reading books very much. This winter vacation has read 12 books of history, literature and so on. It takes one or two hours to sit there. In fact, for his son, he would like to have a good winter vacation fun, a swimming lesson, and then look at his favorite book, but usually do not have time, who knows that the winter vacation has no time.
Mr. Zhang (son four grade in primary school): help to do homework, a winter vacation a thousand math questions
son after the winter vacation, I am not idle. According to the requirements, 40 arithmetic questions are required every day, and one winter vacation is counted in 30 days.
the average son's grades are moderate, but the boys can't sit down and do their homework, because it also gives him a tutorial class. However, the tutorial class has also become a homework class, and the teachers in the tutorial class are busy pushing children to do their homework.
parents can not help children write homework, it is really quite a lot of homework, sometimes there are four or five papers in the evening to do, usually in the tutoring class, the teacher looks to do all 3 hours. If the child can't finish his homework, the teacher will also be angry with his parents, so he has to help.
you sometimes see some parents do not care for their children, they do not do their homework; there are some parents who don't care about it at ordinary times.
@ Wang Xia, Ji'nan: "31 compositions in my whole package"
this winter vacation school gives children 31 compositions, almost every day, requiring each composition to have a map, although the word can not be written for the son, but the 31 illustrations of Wang Xia full package. She said, I hope our schools and teachers can arrange the homework that some children can do, instead of being unrealistic, the effect will be counterproductive.
MS Lu (daughter's primary school five grade): children write their own homework, parents just urge a little
five grade daughter, winter vacation homework is mainly the book of common winter vacation, in addition to training and two hands copy, I feel the total amount is moderate. Because of the arrangement and supervision of children's homework time during the winter vacation, there was no rush on the last day.
the difficulty of the winter vacation, I personally think, is that a little difficulty is necessary to "force" the child to learn what he will not. If you take a winter vacation homework, children in three or four days can easily complete their own, such a winter vacation homework is white.
now children, many of the winter vacation homework to be finished on the last day to finish, look back, in fact, parents are responsible, children are poor self-discipline, parents need to help them work out a study plan, so that will be handy.
Jia (five grades in primary school): in the winter vacation the children wrote their own homework, their own control time 1 hours piano practice, 1 hours reading, 2 hours writing homework
my daughter's winter vacation homework was written very well, I think the volume of children's homework is moderate, winter vacation big book, 5 essays, 5 excerpts, numbers. One chapter of self-study, 6 courseware and 6 sets of exercises. The winter vacation was basically completed in 7 days, and by the twenty-two of the twelfth lunar month, her homework had been completed by more than a half.
I helped her before, and she came to ask, but she found the child depended on it, and now I can help her unless she can find it and find out what it does not understand. And their teachers are flexible in their homework. Some students can do some homework.
I will not help her even if she may encounter mechanical problems but have to do her homework. I told her, either to communicate with the teacher, or to learn to face it, because when you work in the future, a lot of things are not what we can choose, and when children are small, we have to have this consciousness.
when I was in one or two, I helped her to make a plan for her summer and summer vacation, but it was later found that she was not doing well, because there were too many factors affecting her plan. Since the last summer, I stopped making plans for her, and told her that she read 1 hours a day, one hour to practice, two hours to write, the rest of the time can be free, the child was better than before.
we have to believe in children and give them some space for initiative, but at the same time we have to have measures to punish, for example, when the day is not carried out, and the repair plan is not proposed, the time should be doubled.
Mr. Zhao (daughter's junior high school three grade): mechanical, repetitive, punitive work can be written to write
I write most of the children's language, English, history, a class of homework, mathematical and chemical homework children are usually done by themselves.
for the first time helping her daughter do homework, when the child was about two grade, there was a homework that the daughter did not know, did not write, and was punished for second days. I know that my daughter is a child who is sure to do the homework. She did not write the homework because she did not know, so that time I said, "you go to sleep, dad will write to you". But when I was in primary school, it was not much, because the amount of homework was not big and the amount of homework was too big after junior high school, and she would write for her. Some, but the case is not very much.
do homework for children, parents must count. The common sense of those languages, the basic English questions, the homework and the mechanical repetition of the homework, the teacher does not agree with the teacher, such homework can help the children to write, but the children have not mastered the knowledge, the parents still have to keep the children completed by themselves and learn by writing homework.
expert, teacher, teacher's opinion
national two level psychologist Zhao Limei: even if you do the homework, parents have to give their children a clear responsibility
"to help their children do some of their already mastered, repetitive knowledge, it is understandable, but the premise is to talk to the child clearly and have a problem." You can help your parents, parents are the last line you can rely on, but they have to be limited. Tell the child that even if I do your homework, it's the responsibility you have to take. Zhao Limei said that no matter how big a child, he must have a sense of responsibility, although many delays do not hurt the elegance, but if only because the child procrastinating, to the last day finished the homework, that is, the child is lack of responsibility and planning. "
" people with psychological problems are people whose boundaries are not clear. If parents do anything to help, it is likely that the child will have the psychology of 'relying on parents' in the future. After growing up, his demands are beyond the ability of parents, and then it is difficult to change. " As a student, as a student, Zhao Limei said, as a parent, if it is completely arranged in some practical assignments, it will produce a very bad hint: "it is a denial of the ability of the child, that he is incompetent, and parents do not think that the six or seven year old can not understand it, but they can all accept this." A kind of signal. Trust in children is not a two day accumulation. It is formed in these details.
two level national psychologist and high school teacher Song Guiqiang: if you do not finish your homework for children, it is actually teaching children to treat the unreasonable task of
"writing homework is like a student's job, and writing homework for children is actually to grow for children, experience for children, and so on." It deprives children of the right to self-management and self growth. Song Guiqiang said that the first big function of the homework is to consolidate the knowledge, the other is to develop the child's hard work, and the parents to write their homework to love the children. In fact, this is a kind of indulgence.
when a child can't finish his homework, he needs to learn how to deal with it. The reporter learned that a parent had arranged a good time for the child. If the amount of homework was only two hours a day for him to write his homework, it was good for you to finish the training tomorrow. Song Guiqiang, who is not afraid of children's mistakes, agrees. "Some parents will say that homework is too much and unreasonable, and the children can't finish it at all. If you can't finish it, you can't finish it. If you can't do homework for your child, this is actually teaching children to cheat on the unreasonable tasks. If parents want to think about it, is there a better way to solve it? Under such circumstances, it is time to teach children how to learn, learn to work hard and learn to deal with.
the teacher of class four, class four, junior Qilu School of Qilu cooperative school: the knowledge assignment is little, the practical task is to cultivate parent-child relationship and creative ability
"the winter vacation homework is divided into two large parts, one is knowledge homework, one is practical work." The purpose of arranging knowledge assignments is to keep the learning habits, let the children learn to arrange, develop a good habit of doing a good rest, have a reasonable arrangement in the holiday, and will also be of great help to the new term. According to Xu, practical homework is a project that needs children to do it, and some really need parents to work together. "For example, making flower lanterns, our original intention is that parents play the role of pointing out the creativity and hands-on ability of the children, and this is also a very good parent and child communication machine." Yes. " In fact, in many families, some practical activities are parents who worry that their children will not do or do well, but all of them are arranged and violated the original intention of practical homework.
"after the holidays, some of the small productions are beautiful, and you can see that parents are participating a lot. But we don't need children to make flower lanterns as delicate as they are in the mall, even if they don't do well this time. They also want their children to volunteer to participate. Teacher Xu said that the mountain teacher has given children a cold holiday guide this year, with less knowledge of the homework, "more is to encourage children to participate in practice, which can also improve their children's interest in doing homework." So the teachers do not want to see, because the parents arranged, too much help children sprint homework, contrary to the practical work to cultivate children's interest, to enhance the creative ability, to harmonize the relationship of parent-child relations.
Wang Aimei, a Chinese teacher of grade three in Ji'nan Donghe primary school: reading a famous book to do housework, training a sound personality and psychological quality is more important
"knowledge work must be some, because any child must have a learning task, which is their responsibility." Wang said, in the winter vacation homework she arranged this year, in addition to the knowledge of the homework, but also arranged to read the work of famous books, "or is his own like, or can be borrowed in the library, the winter vacation is relatively loose, this homework for children, I think it is worth advocating." Considering family background and children's endurance, Miss Wang also divided reading into reading and selective reading. "Now too many people are only concerned about their children's achievements, but I think many children are mentally ill and it is more important to cultivate healthy personality in dripping."
Mr. Wang gave the class to his classmates a winter holiday assignment, "it is to do housework with mom and dad. Now too many families are doting, and their children are also less able to take care of themselves." The housework is not too large, such as washing the dishes, cleaning the floor, the children can not be able to clean the bowl, the corners of the corner can not be cleaned, but the assignment is to let them feel happy. In addition, Mr. Wang also advocates parents to practice calligraphy with children, not to arrange the number of calligraphy, but must write seriously, because she arranges the winter vacation homework hard to prescribe, so there is no parental commando to help do the homework phenomenon, "I think how to do to cultivate children's sound personality, improve their psychological quality, It is still the direction for educators to continue their efforts.
"practice student" or "practise parents"?
@ jpw: son's winter vacation homework, and I do my son for small production and no handwritten reading. Now the students' homework is to exercise the students' ability to practice, think and practice. But they are usually "practising parents" instead of "practicing students". It is worth thinking together by teachers, schools, parents and society.