http://news.e23.cn/content/2012-05-22/2012052200085.html
city girl writer: Liu Fangsun Hao Zhu Jun Lv Qi
"snail dad" Ren Liang and the child walking home on the way from school. Zhu Jun, an intern of the women's newspaper, Lv Qi
in May 18th, in a hut in Ji'nan's Second Ring South Road, 37 year old Ren Liang, as usual, got up at 6:30, dropped a bowl of noodles and put an egg for his son, Xiao Fei. The husband and wife who have been dependent on each other have started a day of autism rehabilitation training.
6 year old little fly has long eyelashes, beautiful big eyes, and looks like ordinary children. After observing, he could see that his eyes were scattered and unwilling to speak.
he is an autistic child known as "the child of the stars".
3 years ago, Ren Deliang, who called himself "a snail", was a mother and a mother, with his son every day to do rehabilitation training from morning to night, and lost all the economic sources. Even the only house in his home had collapsed. Ren Deliang is always worried about the rent of 260 yuan a month.
but even if the child is recovering slowly and in the most difficult environment, "snail Daddy" is always optimistic and loving.
7:00
children who dare not sit on the bus will affect other people
at 7:00, Ren Deliang and Xiao Fei start from home, and they are going to the rehabilitation center. 10 minutes from home, you can get to the bus stop, but your father and son do not ride. "In the morning, too many people go to work, and children sometimes cry out, afraid to influence others." On the way, Xiao Fei could not understand the traffic rules like other children, and saw the car coming. He would stop and stand there and wait for the car to go.
this is a great step forward from coming. "I used to string a child with a rope and tie me at the same time." A lot of people don't understand, Ren Deliang says. In fact, autistic children do not feel close to each other, so long as they let go, they will run away.
on the way to school, Ren De Liang carelessly let go, and little fly ran into the car that was driving. Xiao Fei was injured in many places and the driver was scold. Later, the length of the rope shortened day by day, from 10 to 2 meters, until the rope was not needed now, and Xiao Fei will take the initiative to pull up his father's hand and have the consciousness of avoiding the vehicle.
more than 3 times, the father and son walk for 40 minutes. "Xiao Fei is not like an ordinary kid. He has to play while walking." After that, they took a more than 10 minute bus to get to the children's rehabilitation center tomorrow.
8:00
37 year old father and child do
in the rehabilitation center, there are many autistic children like little flying, mostly mother and grandmother. As a man, Ren Deliang looks very conspicuous in the crowd.
7 classes in the morning, 30 minutes for each class. The first day of the 18 day is music, and the teacher takes the children to do cat exercises. The music rang, and the 9 children followed their teacher's movements together with their parents. Simple movements of five fingers can not be properly completed by children, and they need to be practiced over and over again.
cat exercises, elephant exercises, little towel exercises, frogs and mosquito fuck... Ren Deliang will do it with his son, unequivocally. Although he was somewhat embarrassed at the 37 year old man, he kept smiling and correcting the erroneous actions of the little fly. Every little fly makes an action, Ren Deliang will say loudly: "little fly is great!"
flying around his father, his expression is extremely attached. It's very rare for autistic children. In the audio-visual class, all the other children are accompanied by their parents. Only Xiao Fei sits alone in the chair. "I want to do this so that children can be independent." The last class of
is a training course, and the teacher is one-to-one tutoring. The teacher asked, "what color is the watermelon?" "green." This simple question and answer to Xiao Fei is the result of practicing hundreds of times. Ren Deliang was lying on the window, watching the performance of the child unable to hide his joy.
12:30
shouted at the camera child at
12:30, and the rehabilitation training ended. The reporter walked out of the rehabilitation center with his father and son. Xiao Fei constantly waved to reporters and gave out the voice of "Byebye" - he was very resistant to strangers.
walked to the No. 36 bus stop. The reporter gave Xiao Fei a new schoolbag. He happily showed it to his little friends. "Xiao Fei, this is a thirty - ten bus?" "6." "Who bought the new schoolbag?" "thank you, aunt!" said Xiao Fei, who was hiding behind the bus stop. Such loud questions and answers happen every day on the road. Ren Deliang does not let go of every opportunity to expose his children to the outside world.
the car came. Xiao Fei ran to the last row of the bus and sat in the corner. To him, the corner is the safest. The reporter took a photo for Xiao Fei. He cried out to the camera on the initiative. Ren Deliang shouted, "it was unthinkable before. It was very happy to get a new book bag today."
go to the South Road at six li and turn to the 35 bus. The bus was overcrowded. The reporter asked if he would take another trip. Ren Deliang said, "you can only take K52 Road, but..." The air-conditioned car is one yuan more expensive than the ordinary car. This is the hesitation of Ren De Liang.
on the 35 bus, there are passengers in the front row who give seats to Xiao Fei. He will not sit down. Too many people in the front row would make him repel, and the little fly would make a cry. Ren Deliang hurried forward to pacify and calm down. Ren Deliang was very embarrassed at someone's surprised look on the train.
12:53 on the door posted photos let the children slowly find home
bus to Ji'nan Forestry Bureau station, choosing to rent near here is because it is cheap, the monthly rent is only 260 yuan.
walked down a path and came to a vegetable stand. Ren De Liang picked several cucumbers and let Xiao Fei pick them together. The little boy plucked up the courage to weigh the bought cucumbers to the stall. This is Ren De Liang's intention to exercise children's contact with strangers.
almost rushed to the door and the familiar surroundings made him feel at ease. Ren Deliang said that the child did not know the family at first, and often knocked on other people's doors. Later, he posted pictures of father and son on the door, and the children could gradually find them.
this is an old building with nine staircases. Most rooms are unoccupied. Compared with the prosperous city, it seems to be another world.
13:05
cherry and son draw 200 times a day,
before entering the house, Ren Deliang keeps telling reporters, "there's nothing in the house, you don't mind." When the door was opened, reporters and colleagues were all hung up.
10 square meters of room only have a bed, a simple table, not even a chair. The neatly stacked clothes were placed on the floor of the corner, next to the children's toys. The cooking pot had not been brushed in the morning, and Ren dliang smiled awkwardly at the reporters.
a half day class fly to sleep, everyone back out. An hour later, when the reporter came back, Xiao Fei was still asleep, with half a bowl of cucumber slices on the table showing that they had already had lunch.
after waking up, the father and son began to brush up on their homework in the morning. After practicing several times, start a game of cherry painting. Xiaofei's ability to coordinate is very poor. Ren Deliang draws dots on a piece of white paper. The child connects these dots and becomes a cherry. In this practice, the father and the son do 200 times a day.
dialogue "snail dad"
to accompany the children to recover more than the coal mine is tired
3 years from Xiaofei was identified autism from the age of 3, Ren has never given up. Together with his son, he presented the reality version of the ocean paradise. He said that the parents who want to tell the parents who are "struggling" like him - autistic children are happy, the real "unhappy" is the parents; autism is not terrible, and the horror is the "loneliness" of the parents.
really "lonely" is the parents'
urban girl: how does Xiao Fei now recover?
Ren Deliang: the child does not speak at 4 years and 8 months, just shrieks like animals, turns, shakes the head, sometimes attacks others and tends to be self disabled. More than half a year after training in the rehabilitation center, language development has been rapid, strange behavior has been reduced, cognitive and self-care ability has been strengthened, and there is occasional need for active communication.
City Women's newspaper: is there anything unforgettable in recovery?
city girl: for autism, some parents don't want to publish it. Why do you want to announce?
Ren Deliang: there is a supermarket on the way to recovery. Sometimes it flies in to buy 5 lollipops, the owner is an older aunt, and she knows how to fly. From then on, she will take the initiative to communicate with Xiao Fei, which is a great exercise for children. I feel that as long as others accept, our father and son are encouraged. We should let the whole society understand autism, though it is a special group, we should also live in value.
"blowing" as a "parent", but also good
city girl: the day after day rehabilitation training is boring?
Ren Deliang: not boring is false. I used to be a coal miner, and I was also tired to accompany the children in rehabilitative training. As long as the child gets a little improvement, I think it's worth it.
city girl: did Xiao Fei have a special surprise for you?
Ren Deliang: once, I taught him to clap his hands and finger the nose, so a simple move was difficult for him. At first, he pointed to his eyes or his mouth, and later he did not practice. I first drew, asked him to draw pictures of people, then referred to his father. After practicing for two months, one day I said Xiao Fei, clapping his hands, pointing his nose and pointing his mouth. I didn't expect him to do it, and read it out. At that time, I thought how much reward it would bring to me.
City Women's newspaper: do you want to return?
Ren Deliang: after learning that the child is ill, he has never thought of anything in return. Once, the child made a blow to my face. I understand that he wants to kiss me because autistic children are too difficult to perform standard kissing. I thought, it was good to blow air when my relatives were, I was very satisfied, and that was the return. (this 37 year old man could not bear the red eye, tears coming from his eyes). I deliberately exercise his self-care ability, let him pour water, sometimes he will remind me that the water is hot, the child knows that heartache me.
City Women's newspaper: what is the biggest wish now?
reporter's
interview, I was deeply moved by the strength of a man and a father. For his son, he was penniless, but his love was full. When
were together with Ren dliang and father and son, Xiao Fei did the actions that ordinary children could easily do all the time. Ren Deliang was very tired of teaching hundreds of times. He told me that he used to be very bad tempered, and that he became patient since his child diagnosed his illness.
I want to tell the father that it is the power of love. "Good bye, aunty." Xiao Fei waved his hands to me, though his pronunciation was not clear, but this was something he had never thought of before.
according to WHO statistics, there is an autistic child born every 20 minutes in the world. These seemingly indifferent, actually happy heart of children, you and I need everyone's attention.