Don't take the child's "characteristics" as a shortcoming
every child in the world is the same. They are naked, weeping, no talk, and no writing. When they grow up, some of them become managers and scientists, while others become migrant workers and tramps. It is not directly related to the IQ of the child, but not only by the children's family, but the educational environment of the day after the day has largely determined the future of the child's life.
British educational thinker Rock pointed out the importance of family education very early, he said: "the mistake of the family education is the same as the wrong medicine, the first mistake, can not be expected to use second and third remedies, their impact is not to be washed out for life." This seems to be a bit exaggerated, but in the process of educating children, it is necessary to learn some children's psychological common sense, some nurtures, avoid unnecessary mistakes, and grow up healthily and happily with the child.
baby "take things" not to steal
case 1: llet is in the first grade of primary school this year, I have always been depressed, not willing to go to school, and not to talk with my mother about the children. After repeated questioning by her mother, I realized that Lei Lei took the PSP game console near her desk in class, and was called "thief" by her teachers and classmates.
in fact, children under 8 years of age have not been able to distinguish between themselves and other people's ability. Because of the lack of awareness, the appearance of "taking things" is normal, which is determined by the level of children's physiological development. Lei Lei's classmate's game machine may just play it out of curiosity and do not occupy himself. Therefore, it is impossible to make a mountain out of a molehill for children to steal other people's things by accident. Apology in front of the public will cause children to lose their self-esteem, produce inferiority complex, and it is likely to suffer from "social phobia", "school phobia", and some even develop into bad behavior, affecting the child's life.
protecting children's self-esteem is particularly important. For example, teachers should talk to children in private, make sense with children, guide their children to return things to their owners, communicate properly, do not connect with their children's morality; parents also have to do psychological guidance to understand what the child's motivation is to take other people's things. Law allows children to learn to take responsibility, realize the inaccuracy of such actions, and avoid them next time.
gnawing fingernails is an instinctive response to
case two: Jiao Jiao has been four years old. She has recently been very upset by her old love to nibble on her fingernails, and mother took many measures, such as gloves, wipes, distraction, etc., but finally failed, and Jiao Jiao to Mom Mom is also very unfriendly.
to see children chewing fingernails, many parents are not helpless or angry. Psychologist Freud called the first year after birth as "oral period", and pointed out that sucking is a kind of instinct of the child. It is a kind of exploratory behavior of the child's opponent. It shows that the ability of the child to control the action has reached the level of the coordination of hand and mouth movement. In addition, this behavior has a great effect on stabilizing the mood of the child, but if the children over 3 are still eating their hands, they have to find reasons for physical development or psychological development.
the lack of trace elements such as zinc and iron, such as zinc, iron, etc., can cause fetish, induce eating hands; when pressure is too large or lack of security, it may reduce anxiety and relax by eating hands; children feel bored, curiosity and imitative psychology, and can also be easy to grow into a hobby of eating hands.
parents, if they are hard to stop their children from eating hands, will give their children a psychological shadow. They tend to be anxious and angry when they grow up, and lack basic trust and security. Parents can check the trace elements, accompany the children, pay attention to the psychological needs of the children, understand the motivation of eating hands, help the children to correct, so that he and "eat hand" to say goodbye.
each child has its own characteristics. We should learn to accept the uniqueness of the child, never compare the children's weaknesses with the strengths of other children; give children more respect and trust, do not consider the children's characteristics as shortcomings; communicate with the children, and change the characteristics of the children with the heart. Be a good parent and be a happy parent.