Education should follow the "rich father, poor child"
the modern only child is the apple of the parents and grandparents. It is not good to be a pet, a meal, a coat to reach out, to eat, wear, and live, and the vast majority of them are rich and spend money. The children of rich families are like this, and the children of poor families do not show weakness. We have a lot of "poor dad, rich children", the family economic conditions are not good, some even parents are laid off and unemployed, children wear famous brand, guesthouse. Some universities are very picky about their job after graduation, a little hard work, a lower salary, and a parents who would prefer to keep their parents.
we have kept the idea of "rich dad, poor children", and children must not be rich. Once they are rich, there is no motive for hard work and struggle. From the birth of our daughter, our family's economic environment is not bad, the wage income is at a medium level, but we ask our children to be thrifty and frugal from childhood. Before the grade three of the primary school, only two yuan in the school bag was used, mainly for the emergency call; the schoolbag had 5 yuan before the primary school graduation; to the junior high school, it was raised to 10 yuan. Every time you use money, you must report to my parents.
she never knew her parents' real wages before graduating from college. When she was in grade six of primary school, she went home one day from school, suddenly asked how much salary his father had, dad thought the child would not ask the adult's salary, how to answer it? Dad said about 3000 yuan a month; she said dad was cheating, her father and Dad were in the same company as the captain, 4000 months salary, Dad. Dad Dad as vice general manager how about 3000 yuan? Dad smart move said, your classmates father in our company is old workers, and when the captain often overtime work overtime, overtime pay, high bonus, your father just arrived in the company, is a new employee, low bonus, and no overtime pay! This imperfect explanation, daughter half doubtful.
when she was in high school in Guangdong experimental high school, one time dad went to visit her and went shopping at the mall. She was happy to pick up a lot of food, and dad picked only fruit. Dad said, you buy your own payment, she said, why? Anyway, it is your money, pay it together! Dad said, dad bought for you, of course I pay, you buy, you should pay in your living expenses, she suddenly realized, quickly refunded most items, only bought less than 10 The things of the yuan.
her daughter has developed a habit of frugality from childhood. When she was in high school in Guangzhou, she needed only 500 yuan a month for living expenses (including food, transportation, zero use, etc.). When she was in Beijing, she was also 800 yuan a month. To the fourth of the year, dad only raised her to 1000 yuan. Now the United States is a doctor who has a scholarship and does not need to pay for the living expenses of her parents. She is still very frugal, shopping in stores and supermarkets, always choosing cheap items, and transportation and tourism as far as possible to choose low price or free items.
home's money, the daughter never asks, and always thinks that all the belongings of the family are the result of their parents' hard work, nothing to do with her. She said: "mother gives others children's red packets, others will give her, so the money is mom, of course, to give her mother."
when she was in senior school, she wanted to buy a commercial house at home. Her father thought that her daughter had become an adult and could take part in family decision-making and ask for her advice. You guess how she answered? She said to her parents: "first, now home buying, using your money, should be decided by your own, I do not have the right to participate; second, I am not interested in talking about buying a house, and I will make money to buy a house in the future!" yes! Daughter is right, although she is adult, but is still a student There is nothing, but what she needs is thrift, hard reading, hard struggle!
to make the child grow up with the spirit of struggle, career success, it is necessary to let the child grow up in the process of spiritual wealth, material relative poverty.