Parents' heart is too soft, children have many problems, family education psychology is the main reason.
Shun Internet news "not so much as the treatment of children, it is better to treat parents and families." In November 19th, the director of the provincial mental health center, Liu Jin Tong, faced with a small number of patients in the ward, both heartache and helplessness. Improper family education has become a major cause of high incidence of mental illness among adolescents.
"to satisfy everything in the material sense, without any grievance in spirit." Too few setbacks are making children mentally weak. Liu Jintong took a case from the desk to introduce a reporter to a reporter, a 9 year old boy, emotional disorder, often angry, crying, and even often to "do not live", suicide coerce the parents... Parents worry about their children's problems and send them to hospital for treatment. After asking the medical history, the child is "the beginning of the triangle, the five corners, the block octagonal, what things, parents are given satisfaction, but the children want something big, expensive, can not afford, when the parents refuses, but found that has been 'entangled"... "
experts agree that parents with problems are always more than children with problems. It is not the amount of money, the size of the things, the small events, the key is that many parents have spoiled their children, making them form a personality defect that is a little unsatisfied and can not bear hardships and endure hardships and can not accept setbacks. The frequent suicide incidents of primary and secondary school students in recent years also show the seriousness of this problem. "
" does not give children a basic social game rule, it is impossible to develop a child into a social moral standard! "Liu Jintong said, for example, pain is inevitable when a medical staff is treated with a needle, a change, and so on, and often a child cries, and some parents symbolically" "Hit" the medical and nursing staff, and the mouth also comforted the child and said, "you see, Dad (mother) has helped you come back!"
too much, will cause the child to act alone, can not tolerate other people's disagreement, which is extremely bad for the growth of the children. Although this is only a painting, it will not hurt the medical staff, but the practice of the parents has actually given the child a wrong signal to confuse the child as a non - concept.
there are also some parents' consciousness of "safeguarding rights", which often leads to teachers and schools, and misleads children. According to a high school principal, who did not want to be named, a schoolgirl in the school was in a terrified appearance when he was left in the office by a teacher in charge of a class teacher. After many mediation, the storm subsided, and the girl could not adapt to the class environment. After two shifts, she left the school.
Liu Jintong analysis believes that in the process of teaching children, parents' excessive "soft" will weaken the children's ability to withstand setbacks, and will face the difficulties of adapting to the society in the future; and it is more beneficial to their children to learn from setbacks and to undergo exercise.