I'll eat first. A few minutes later, the daughter came over, looked at the table and asked, "where's my meal?" Accompanied by a look of anger and dissatisfaction.
I was surprised. Her expression, her questioning clearly told me: you should have a good meal for me, why not give me dinner? At the age of < br /> 7, she has a pair of good hands. She can cook for herself. Why do you think I have to cook for her?
I immediately found the reason. Br < br /> < br /> Although I have been warning myself not to do too much for my children, so that children learn to take responsibility for themselves, but I still, like many mothers, unconsciously do more for their children. < br /> I used to cook for her so much that she thought it was Mom's job to cook for her, so instead of thanking me for having cooked for her all the time, she was dissatisfied with not having cooked for her today. Yes, since mother is supposed to do it, how can she be grateful?
I realized it was feeding my daughter's "well-deserved" sense of what someone felt owed him or thought someone had to give him special treatment. People who have this tendency think that others (especially those close to them) should give him what he wants, and others give it. They think that it is what they should do, and they do not know how to be grateful.
a person who has a strong sense of shame may become a "white eye wolf".
I saw many parents unconsciously cultivating white eyed wolves. They do too much for their children. Most children's schoolbags are carried by their parents on the way to school or after school, and the children feel comfortable walking empty-handed. "Br /> All this is helping children feel well-deserved. Today he thinks you should carry a schoolbag and buy a cell phone for him. Tomorrow he thinks you should find a job, buy a car, buy a house for him. If one day you can't give him what he wants, he will feel resentful.
teaches children how important it is to be responsible and thankful! A grateful child will appreciate what others have done for him, cherish what he has got, and feel happy and happy to have everything in front of him. Parents should remember that if you don't want to turn your child into a "white-eyed wolf," don't do too much for the child, don't encourage the child's sense of well-being, and teach the child to be grateful.