Since when is it better to cultivate children's character?
my answer is: from the birth of the child.
1, why should we start with the birth of a child?
children are also affected by mother's emotions in their mother's stomach, but in the fetus stage, the adult can do very little to the child, and the real and effective work begins only after the child is born.
some parents will think that children are just born. They don't understand anything. Apart from eating or sleeping, what kind of character training can they talk about? To cultivate children's good character, at least children should be one or two or two or three years old.
this idea and related practices are likely to be the root causes of some children becoming crying and losing their temper.
we have seen a lot of babies for months, and find their expressions, their looks, their differences, some little babies, a very quiet look, very happy, very happy, and very happy to interact with adults, and be very happy when they interact, and some small babies. Children, when they interact with adults, are particularly prone to impatience and crying. In fact, the character of the child has been showing difference since then.
some parents may think that the difference between children is natural, but we don't think it's exactly the way he was born a few months after he was born, and the difference was caused by the way adults treated them.
in the laughter and satisfaction of children, there is always a patient, meticulous, careful to observe the needs of the child and respond to the adult, and in the impatient, crying baby around, is often a slow response to the children's demand, little careful observation and meet the needs of the children of adults.
2, how to develop children's good character from birth?
I think the most important thing is to do two things:
(1) the needs of the children, quick response to the
from the birth of the child, as long as the child cried, immediately to observe the child, to observe his needs: is the urine pants wet? Is it hungry? Is it sleepy? Do you want someone to be with you?
wet, wet, change immediately, let the child feel the dry and comfortable of the new urine pants; hungry, and immediately hold up to feed; stranded, soothe him to sleep; want to accompany, to accompany on the side, coax him, and he "talk". In this way, the child is particularly contented.
some parents think that children's needs should be "delayed gratification", so in infancy, they always let their children cry for a while and then go to him. This is actually developing the child's negative personality, you can easily find that the child becomes a so-called "high demand baby", especially the crying, make adults tired.
(2) stay with children in a stable, emotional, and gentle way to treat children
in the first few months of the baby's birth (and then, of course, the same), the mood of the adult will obviously affect the child. An emotionally unstable, impatient, impatient, and rude adult is easy to turn into a small baby, which is so easy to be satisfied with, into an impatient and impatient baby like an adult.
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we are a pair of real parents, all graduated from Peking University, and my sincere mother is the doctor of Communication University of China. There are two sons, one is eleven years old, the other is fourteen and a half years old. The publication has basic parenting: finding a good way to do it easily. All answers are original. Welcome to share, comment, discuss and ask questions.
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