Xu Jie Intern of Qilu Evening News reporter Xia Chenyu
at the end of high school, students of Shandong Normal University affiliated high school Qian Yinhao with dreams The offer that I was trying to do was.Quot,.Quot, and ended. He evaluated himself before high school:.Quot; refusing to be disciplined, not learning, not afraid of teachers, and constantly causing trouble. .quot; however, with the nurturing of smart parents, bear children also have spring, he has an independent journey through a number of countries, and found a willingness to work hard. Now, he is admitted to five universities such as Georgia Technology University, he finally chose the University of Texas-Austin. Qian Yinhao's luck lies in his tolerance, discovery and guidance to his parents.
Qian Yinhao (right) and dad.
parents who follow the rhythm of children also have to learn
reporter: when talking about Qian Yin Hao, the mountain teacher has used a word.Quot; the legendary.Quot; his self evaluation is.Quot; the special.Quot; how is this personality formed?
Mr. Qian: he used a small story.Amp; mdash.Amp; MD. Ash anti-theft door event, near the entrance examination one month, the classroom anti-theft door is broken, the scheme is the parents sharing the cost of the new, when he stood out against, he thought the security door is the school fixed assets, let parents pay unreasonable money, his public objection to the class is filled with antagonism, he felt like this going on the class is very influential, take tools use The door was repaired in three classes. This story is to illustrate two points: one is to dare to challenge authority and to insist on itself; the two is to have strong hands-on ability. I did not prevent him from this incident. Of course, he later reflected on it and should take into account the teacher's feelings.
I used to receive.Quot from my teacher, call her parents.Quot, phone, maybe he had trouble at school, but every time I was objective analysis. His character is also influenced by our family atmosphere and relationship. Our relationship with children is equal. When we encounter problems, we never impose opinions on our children. We will start a table debate on a certain problem, what problems can be discussed, even homosexual, sexual topic, drug topic, often in the dining table, so often from the authority, he also trained his judgment on the wrong thinking ability, he came from so many countries travel, this is the preparation. In order to keep pace with him, we also need to keep reading and broaden our horizons. Being a parent is a systematic project, not taking time to work out of work.
parents let children learn to travel independently
reporter: Qian Yin Hao has been to many countries, for a ten year old children, how to do it?
Mr. Qian: my family is a way of raising and breeding, reading ten thousand volumes of books, it is not as good as ten thousand miles, and I have taken him all over the world from the kindergarten. I once took him to visit the biggest casino in Melbourne. I think this is a good experience for children. It doesn't matter whether they are good or bad. He went abroad for the first time in high school, then went to Malaysia, Burma and other countries. In Malaysia, he lost the connection for nearly two days because of his mobile phone, and lost his way in Burma. The child's independent trip had been strongly opposed by his mother, but failed to waver my belief that his son would continue to travel. After many exercises, he is also very good at planning travel, how to collect all kinds of information to buy cheap tickets, reduce the cost of travel to the lowest, how to formulate a plan to deal with all kinds of problems, the ability to deal with these problems, the ability to survive is a person's lifelong needs.
the change of children also happened during the journey. We went to Europe together. He felt a harmonious humanistic environment and a strong academic atmosphere of one hundred years old school. He had the idea of studying abroad. He was not good at English. He tried hard to learn. In this way, the internal drive is started.
I tell children that there is no direct relationship between what the school has learned and the future development, and a person's EQ, whether it is a popular person, and a comprehensive ability, is the most important and will be a lifetime savings.
relearned a junior high school course for children
reporter: what role do you play in the process of scattered and children's change?
Mr. Qian: a traditional saying is that the child is a white paper, I always think the child is a seed, and the role of the parents is to find out whether the child is a loofah or a pumpkin, so that he is given to him They are suitable for nutrition. When I was a child, I once said, "I want to take the subway." we said we had to go and made a trip to Shanghai. Our family has full confidence and support for my son in the planning of extracurricular activities. As long as he chooses things, I only participate in the audit of safety education and security measures, and never stop it. At home, the processing shop bought his favorite tools and equipment for his son, and helped him to do his own design in terms of money and technology. Therefore, he has a clear goal of learning machinery and wants to become an engineer.
we also have a bottom line for tolerance, such as never hurting others. He was also very frugal. After his grandfather had cancer, he slept with grandpa every night and took care of him at night.
we often see the bright side of other people's families and families, but can't see the advantages of their children. I gave up my excellent job in the field for my children. I learned all the textbooks in junior high school, so that I could help him at any time. Finally, when he got the dream school offer, we really felt the rewards of hard work over the years. I hope that all parents will not compare with each other when they see our stories. Try to find out the characteristics of their children and try to achieve them.