today, the head author good Mommy gives birth to
when children are 2-3 years old, they will ask, "Mom, where did I come from?"
before that, the child's mind has not yet developed to this aspect. Some children associate themselves with other pregnant women's stomachs. Some children lead this problem from TV cartoons.
Bao dad mom was the first to face such a problem, and there were usually three kinds of answers.
one. Partial medical / factual point of view.
will tell the child in general, Dad planted precious seeds in the mother's stomach, the longer the seed in the belly, ten months later, mother's stomach can not hold the baby, then go to the hospital to take the baby out of the stomach.
two. Emotional point of view. In addition to describing the facts of childbearing,
also added some emotional topics. For example, a mother will lift up her coat and show her the scar. And the baby said, in order to give birth to TA, mom has been knives, this listening is very painful.
although the child heard the fact of a caesarean section, it also made the child feel guilty, because the birth of TA hurt her mother.
three. The artistic view of fairy tales.
when mom and dad fell in love, they really wanted a baby, and prayed for a long time. Finally, one day, the baby was found in her mother's stomach. Then mom and dad waited very carefully for the baby to grow up. After ten months, with the help of the doctor, the baby met the parents.
also said that after mom and dad got married, they wanted a baby very much and made a wish to the stars. Finally, one day, a meteor sent the baby.
above all kinds of explanations are positive or correct emotional aspects. Even that guilty conscience will make the baby love her mother more.
the explanation is much better than those "garbage bins picked up", "charge for charge", "takeout", "bounce out", "don't want".
explain to the child the birth, can let the child and parents and family have emotional links, and pass to him a "I am very important, lovely, loved" concept, is the psychological basis for the healthy growth of the baby.
if it is a fairy tale description, with the age of growth, parents can continue to add a good description, for example, when mother wishes, it is the most beautiful, the cleverest child, the strongest child. It's really like that. A strong child can't cry. Using these words can help children build self-confidence.
this self-confidence is an attractor for a person to grow in a good direction when he was young, so family education is no small matter, every bit of fruit.