origin: the integrated author of the Phoenix Buddhism: silent wizard
this article is "eight ingenious" from the silent master's book "the secret of children's talent" The teaching method section:
(photo source: Phoenix Buddhist Photography: PAT)
here I want to ask everyone, can you hold a cow's head or corner, or neck, let the cow listen to you with you?
I believe your answer must be: No, that person must be very stupid. How can you make a stupid effort?
How can we control our cows much harder than we do?
farmers know this best, that is, wearing a nose ring for the bull, making it clever, and then the cow obediently follows him.
farmers know cattle well and easily manage them. Now think about it. Do you use wisdom or perseverance in your children's discipline? Is it an awkward or clever use?
1, less do more
do it for children, not just say nothing. Only when words are not taught, it is ineffective, not only ineffective, but also counterproductive. Lead and guide children to do rather than lead.
two, the best education is the third party
parents if there are any words, try to ask the child to admire or respect the person to speak out, or to ask the good friends of the child to speak out, so much better than the parents themselves.
three, speak children, try to encourage, give positive energy
do not blow, do not instilling negative energy into children. Always remember, what is a man? No man is nothing. Like an empty bottle, what is what it is. Waste products come from time to time.
four, parents usually develop good living habits, make good friends, build a life circle
naturally set up the image of the parents in the children's heart, and bring a good circle to the children. Develop a habit of speaking positive and positive words, instead of complaining about the social state, but reflecting on yourself. This is the accumulation of virtue without cost, invisibly, anytime and anywhere.
five, parents must first build their dreams, and then help their children build a great, beautiful, selfless dream
dream like a seed, it will automatically attract the energy of the universe for its own use. Just like apple seeds, it will naturally transform the energy of heaven and earth into apples.
six, learn to pray for yourself and children, bless
many things in this world are not human beings. The only thing we can do is to give the solution the way to God with prayers and blessings. Pray to ancestors, pray for heaven, and pray for saints.
seven, more important than the complement of class is, put the child into a specific, energetic environment, ignite the child's engine, wake up his wisdom and love
if the child has a good result, but the body and mind have a problem, for parents, people are not, what is the use of results? Are all those jumping off buildings, high-tech crimes, desperate lives, and opposition to the state and society are all poor academic achievements?
eight, stocking instead of captive
grasping the big and small, holding a big principle, giving the children a space. It can be seen from the animal world that animals are more lively and cute than animals in captivity, and their intelligence is higher and more agile. Editor of
: silent wizard, born in 1965. Graduated from Northwestern Polytechnical University's aircraft engine specialty and worked in the China Gas Turbine Research Institute. In 1998, Wanfo temple in Deyang, Sichuan, was shaving. After that, he traveled around to study in India, Kenya, Antarctica and other places throughout the country. Since 2012, spiritual experience activities such as summer camps and winter camps have been held every year. In a short period of time, children and parents can get great spiritual growth and quickly improve their education, learning ideas and family relations.