Behind the "formal marriage": the resistance and reconciliation of homosexual mothers
source: Shun Net - the Ji'nan times
Gu Xiao's homosexual daughter north north, this month married. The time of marriage is set in the morning, but there is not much happiness in the family. Gu Xiao took out two red letter words from her inner room, handed them to her daughter's Gay lover, and was also the maid of honor for her wedding, so that she could paste it outside the door. Then she turned into the kitchen and carried out a normal mother's wedding process.
this is a form marriage (form marriage), Gu Xiao Xin knows clearly. She can neither resist nor reconcile, but the cold air in her family expresses and magnify her emotions. Gu Xiao is one of the few parents in the gay circle who has come out to her parents. Over the past 4 years, she has never given her daughter a smiling face. Other mothers who favor the latter in resistance and reconciliation mostly join gay friends and family.
"disbanded in place"
Gu Xiao saw her daughter being taken away. For more than ten minutes before the bridegroom entered the door at 7, she stayed in the kitchen for a long time, and she did not show up when her daughter's Gay lover and bridesmaid went out with her wedding dress.
on the day of north Bei FA's wedding, she came back from her own house ten minutes away. She had not been home for a month. Gu Xiao's attitude, North North seems to be accustomed to, she entered the door and sat into the sofa to brush the mobile phone, beside the stool on the side of a group of her wedding dress, "less than two hundred bought, sent a veil", she pointed to the finger, she said. She slowly swallowed the last dumpling from her mother, and she put on it. Her homosexual and bridesmaid gave her hair and wore a veil. She shouted "light point", while she felt strange, "just like going to someone else's wedding."
the knock on the door of the groom and the influx of dozens of family members filled the deserted room a few minutes ago. The bridegroom had red envelopes when he met everyone. He sent a broccoli flower to the lover and maid in north of Beijing. She took a long look and turned around and put it in the bag. When the bridegroom had finished the red bag, he was going to take the bride on the bus, but North North refused. She insisted on walking on the car. Her lover and the bridesmaid helped her with her skirt, carefully bypassing the puddles after the rain.
only a few people, including Gu Xiao, know that this is a form of marriage that is fake. In the past 3 years, her daughter, Bei Bei, made this decision after careful consideration. Her groom is a homosexual. The two men signed a gentleman's agreement before marriage. After the wedding, they disbanded and went to live together with their homosexual couples. In the future, we will visit the occasion of visiting friends and relatives, and then reunite in the name of husband and wife.
Gu Xiao did not know that some 4% of the world's people were homosexual for life. Another scholar pointed out that in China, the proportion of homosexuals in the total population is 3% - 6%, that is, more than 40 million. And 80% of gay men will eventually hide their identities and marry women. These women who are called "wives" are close to 25 million. According to statistics from the homosexual circle, only 5% of the total number of homosexuals who came out to their parents came out. In China's two or three line cities with relatively conservative concepts, form marriage is the most popular.
Gu Xiao would never have thought that she would be a special mother in such a special crowd. She didn't know what to do with the facial expression.
the first time the reporter saw north north, the more than 20 - year - old, stable and low - paid beautiful girl showed a disparate mother's delight. The object. "
on the day of the Chongyang Festival in 2013, Gu Xiao was ready to sleep. North North suddenly admitted to her open mouth. "My mother jumped from the bed". The north north had a new memory. Second days later, her mother lived in the hospital and was stimulated to cause facial paralysis.
talking about these things, Beibei is full of regret. "It shouldn't be so sudden." It was not only her mother's irritation, but also her mother's reaction after she left the hospital. "My mother always refused to accept it, and I couldn't explain it, so I bought my own house and moved out." Although the new home in north Bei is only about ten minutes away, Gu Xiao has never been there. Beibei is also embarrassed to dare not return to her mother's house once a month. "Every time my mother went back, my mother had a strange cynicism, a pox on my face, and my mother asked me if I had any bad disease." when it came to this, the eyes of North North were dim. She even recalled that every time she went back to his mother's bed, she changed her face quickly. For her daughter's appearance, Gu Xiao's attitude is, "unless I die, I will not accept it."
unacceptable friends from Beibei. "I told five of the best friends about it, four and I were slowly alienated and not connected, only one said to understand me," and speaking of this, North North ton, murmur, "they are all my most trusted people." Since then, she has never dared to talk with others about her sexual orientation.
north Bei understands that mother's cold resistance is actually equivalent to reconciliation. After all, she is lucky compared with other parents who come out to their parents in the gay circle. Many homosexuals and their relatives and friends confirmed that a gay daughter had taken her mother to a sharing meeting. When the mother was awakened to share is about homosexuality, she was "crazy on the spot". She kicked her daughter and shouted abuse. She even stood on the side of the road and said, "you now." Go to death, you die, I give you a corpse. In addition, more parents are trying to force their children to "straighten up" by means of death or by extreme means.
the day of the wedding, the North North homosexual, the southern girl called Jing Jing has been quietly busy, she softly called Gu Xiao "aunty", Gu Xiao "uh", to show promise.
"thank mom"
North North just moved out, three days back home, then a week, then a month later, and then the longer period. North north can not say the reason for this, until a chance she joined the homosexual relatives and friends, knew the "spring mother", she realized that the middle difference is the acceptance and the sense of acceptance.
"spring mother" named Li Yun, her son is also a homosexual, in 2014 she and her husband found his son's wrong, "a face panic, nervous, feel unbelievable." Li Yun described the reaction of the couple at that time, especially her husband, who said that his son was a metamorphosis and anti human, and said a few Disgraces in a row, Li Yun recalls.
Li Yunqi was in pain at first, and then she watched the homosexual film "God bless Bobby", and the hero was shocked, chose to accept and slow down, "I hope my son can live," Li Yun firmly said.
mother of the same idea is not in the minority, at least from the view that homosexual friends and relatives have developed so far - the homosexual relatives and friends have been set up in Guangzhou in June 2008 and have had branches and groups in more than 50 cities and have been directly involved in more than 120 thousand people throughout the country. Li Yunzheng is one of the leaders of the Ji'nan branch, whose members are mainly homosexuals and their mothers, and help homosexuals to realize their self identity and family identity through the forms of sharing and talking.
mother and friends, such as Li Yun, have now become the banner of the society to appeal to homosexuality. They speak in various forms and even pull the banners to support their homosexual children. "Thirty percent out of the closet, only ten percent get the consent of parents." Beibei and others have sought more family warmth in "spring mother". Many of them even have homes that can not be returned. "She didn't hate me because I was gay. Instead, she loved me more. I felt very happy. Thank you, mom." Li Yun's son Zhou Jun is relatively happy indeed.
one year in North North, he had deceived his mother to participate in a sharing meeting in Inner Mongolia, in the name of tourism. At that time, Gu Xiao said it was acceptable to say, "you are happy," but when he returned to Ji'nan, he changed his mind, at least in his mouth.
for this wedding, the whole family of the bridegroom in northern Beijin is extremely grand. He did not dare to let them know that the marriage agreement was agreed: divorce after two years. (to protect the privacy of the parties, the characters in the text are the pseudonyms)