, of course, parents don't have to be too depressed. This is actually a child's growth: as the age grows, the child's independence is becoming more and more strong and will have a view of many things.
as parents, children need not tolerate when they talk back, but they must also handle the yardstick. He is so kind that he does not take you seriously, and may later make more things that worry you; but too severe, the child feels he can't express his emotions, and gradually alienates his parents and is not willing to communicate with their parents.
you might as well try to do this next time a child reheads again:
01 keep calm
in fact, before the parents prepare the "education class", the children tend to feel it. In a tense atmosphere, parents should be as gentle as possible, and if they shout at the children, threaten them, or roar, "I'm your mother, you dare to talk back to me", only to make things worse.
the best way to do it is to hold back, take a deep breath, make dozens of numbers in your heart, and then ask what you intend to say if you can solve the current embarrassment.
if you still think you're going to lose your temper, or your child has lost his temper, then keep calm, tell the child to stay for a while, and wait for the rest of the conversation to talk about it. If the child is talking to you in public, do not reprimand children in public, but tell him the question is to be suspended first, and we will go home again.
02 determines the root cause of the problem.
contradict, but in fact, it is not the most real expression of a child's heart. Sometimes children have some small frictions at school and friends, unhappy in their hearts, and they may vent their feelings on their parents, because in their children, their parents are the safest to vent their goals. Or children's academic pressure is great. Sometimes they shout to their parents, not to let their parents stay in their rooms.
when these phenomena occur, parents should first calm down, try to ask the child the source of the emotion, such as "what is happening in the school today", "do you want to be alone for a while" and so on. Knowing the reason behind the child's rude remarks, it is easy to solve the problem of children's back mouth.
03 shows your limit of
sometimes when you ask for a child, a consistent child may yell at you, "don't talk to me again." in fact, he wanted to show that you told me too many times.
you can tell the child that you can be unhappy and ignore your parents' demands for the time being, but it is unadmissible for parents to abuse, shout, or let their parents "roll out"!
04 clever punishment
parents usually let the child know what behavior, words are wrong, and let the child know: if do bad things, say bad words, will be punished. And then make corresponding punishment measures, such as not playing computer games, not watching TV, doing extra housework, or having to go to bed earlier.
these punishment measures should be informed in advance so that children will not be punished when they are punished after making mistakes. Of course, the most important thing is to stick to the punishment measures, only in this way, children can understand that their parents are serious, so they will pay more attention to their behavior.
05 encourages
in time, when children can express their feelings in a respectful gesture of others, we must praise their children. You can say to him, "I admire the way you respond to my parents" or "I didn't yell at me when you just responded to me, I was very happy, you did it very well."
these praise can make the children feel comfortable, but they also make them realize that parents are not just a single fault. They can change their parents by a little bit of change. Of course, the most important thing is that children no longer talk back to their parents.