"Bear child" is not born out of teaching
origin: China Youth Cao Cao
these years, "Xiong Haizi" the frequency of the frequency of the media. The children in the news are noisy, unruly and undisciplined. It seems that the flowers from the motherland have become a bear child who dislike the unseen dog, the emergency brake button of the elevator in the mall, the Party in the high speed tunnel, and the sweat and sweaty money made by the hand tour of the parents. There are all kinds of public places running around to make a lot of noise. Recently, on the high speed rail, because a few children were noisy in the carriage, a man could not accept it, and reminded the parents of the child to take charge of it. The parents of the children not only care about their children, but also remind them of many things. The public opinion field was lively, with a fierce debate, such as "children are small, you are angry with him", and there are "really disgrace, this child really does not beat" such a reprimand, more is "bear children behind the bear parents".
a person's personality is closely related to his family atmosphere. From this perspective, it is not unreasonable to attribute "bear child" to "bear parents". Family education affects family education and family education shapes character. In the dream of Red Mansions, Jia said such a phrase: "you and I have such a child's children, with what they have the strange problems, and see the outsiders, it must be a decent number." If he is not honest enough, he will not be allowed to be tricky. It's an adult doting,... If he does nothing but win glory, he will be killed by what he is born. " Looking back on the "bear child"'s parents, or the unprincipled indulgence of their children, even if their children cry in a public voice, they also boast of "you are good, a singer in the future," or his own mental and immature, or a "baby", often "heart bitter" and "want to embrace". The nature of children's discipline will not be said.
some netizens said, "it's terrible to think of a parent without having to pass the exam." There are also media suggestions to start "parents class", so that through study and examination of qualified parents "certified". Although the point of departure is good, I am afraid it is difficult to do it in practice: the experts' idea of childcare is still difficult to agree. Who is qualified to teach? Do parents have time and willingness to participate in such an examination, and will there be awkward scenes of self talk at the end? How can we deal with parents who can not pass the examination? These problems involve all aspects of society and require careful and complex argumentation.
look at school education again. A common problem is that moral education lacks corresponding quantitative indicators compared with intellectual and physical education. We can not use a few days to help a few granny cross the road as the assessment content, nor can we compare the amount and the number of those who collect the money. Under the baton of the enrollment rate, schools seem to be the best choice of "cost performance". So in some schools, even if there is campus bullying, it will only end with simple criticism and education. In the background that only the results do not pay attention to the moral character, moral education in some schools is really "reciting and writing" to the unit of knowledge in the ideological and moral lessons.
the school also played a role in helping bear children.
if family education and school education are lacking in moral education, but there is no idea of instilling "bear" for children, it is the "bear" that is instilled.
let's start with entertainment, the way adults have a variety of ways of reducing stress and entertainment: about 35 friends play table games, go to KTV hi songs, go to the gym and sweat, and even occasionally choose a hangover to empty themselves. In contrast, children seem to be distracted only by playing. Urban planning and constructors seem to have forgotten the nature of their children. The number of children's palaces in cities is either a functional decoration or a variety of extracurricular cram schools. There are less and less free sites for children playing and kicking the ball in the city of an inch of gold, and the knowledge, grasshoppers and mantis, which are related to nature, have gradually gone out of sight. Luckily or unfortunately, there is no lack of violent scenes and scenes in the age of Internet and television, whether mobile games or animated cartoons, and children's strong imitations seem to be found at the moment, so when children steal money to play games or because they imitate the news that the grey wolf burns his companions. At that time, there seemed to be new objects and new connotations in the rebuke of public opinion.
in any case, we should admit the fact that "bear child" is not born, it is taught. On the surface, the parents, the schools and the society should be educators, but they are often absent; it is the strange situation in which the other unprofessional "educators", such as entertainment and other unprofessional "educators", make the appearance of "bear children" dissimilar, but reasonable the emotions and periods of the family, school and society Hope does not naturally turn into children's gentle and clever reality. Only by teaching, can we harvest results. Just like a tall ladder, the wrong wall is useless.
finally back to the bear child itself. "Bear" is one of the children's nature, is the children's exploration and cognition of the outside world, the children's piquant naughty and mischievous itself can be seen as an expedition to the outside world. "Bear" is not terrible. It is terrible because there is no guidance and education, and children are left with "bears". More frightening is that because of the children's insensitivity and lack of discernment, it is easy to be influenced by the label of the adult's sticker. Once it has identified himself as "bear child", it may no longer accept other settings. The growing child, in the words of the monk, said, "after ten years, you look at him" - I'm afraid it's hard to return - the "bear child" itself is also a victim of the "bear child".
the voice of "save the children" issued by Mr. Lu Xun 100 years ago is still of practical significance today. We want to save not only the children, but also ourselves, and the foreseeable future for this society.