A letter from the reporter does not push the child on the way of "Tutoring"
origin: Qilu Evening News reporter Xu Jie
talk about the tutorial class, almost every parent is love and hate. Love is because the tutoring class is a little helpful to the child's performance; hate is because the money is more expensive - from the planning lectures of the counseling institution, the anxiety continues to ferment until the end of the children's college entrance examination.
to a large extent, the success of the counseling organization lies in catching the anxiety in the parents' mind. I saw a colleague in the circle of friends feeling: "if everyone does not report the tutorial class." Behind it is a "comparison" word, afraid of children less learning a little bit of falling people, afraid not to get a better junior high school, high school, the future test can not be a good university, life too regrettable.
in fact, not a good school, may have a regret in this life, but from the beginning of primary school, just use the test results to "urge" children, the loss of children will be greater. What if a child did not have a chance to find his real interest, and did not read, write, travel, explore, and find a more interesting life, even in a good university? I particularly agree with the saying: "no ability to walk, no power to go very far." There is no mistake in learning, and participation in competition should be. However, parents should clarify a question: do children have real learning motivation?
has been an interview with many "children of other people" for a number of years. It can also be seen that a truly excellent child is a person who knows what he wants and is willing to work hard for it. I asked the science champion of the college entrance examination in 2016: "what do you benefit most from your parents' education?" He replied, "since I was young, whatever they want to do, they do not restrict me, but try to create opportunities for me to try." It is precisely because of this that he has made clear his interest and wants to be a physicist, and as a driving force, he has done the utmost in his studies.
a parent said after the "study and thought event" in Chengdu: to be a determined and opinionated parent, believe in the laws of nature, believe in the learning ability of the children, let the children go to their own nature and go to the life they want. The child is an eagle, not a kite. What the parents can do is to guide their children to a wider sky, to pursue their dreams, not to blindly chase the present wind.