Re: ideal is the sunshine of the child's heart
"such a life is meaningless. Such a life is of no value." The 14 year old boy came to this conclusion. At night, in his own room separated from his parents, he committed suicide by taking poison.
a young boy's suicide, a flower bud's premature withering, the cold reality rounded the alarm to the parents who only paid attention to their children's achievements: the fate of the child's life, not the score, but the ideal.
today, parents are also helpless in the face of the most educated society. Who doesn't want his children to go to a good university, find a good job, and have a good future? But can you get a good life by getting high marks on exams?
high expectations and excessive pressure from parents, so that many families are "poor" only "divided" - emotional poverty, the topic between parents only tests, exams, exams, grades, grades, grades. The family lost its laughter and lost its due affection. The whole family has a high score, the whole family is happy, the test score is low, the whole family's mood becomes very low, and the family relationship is very tense. As a child describes, the family is in a state of "first level combat readiness". After a child finished the exam, the teacher took the paper home and signed it. On the second day, the teacher asked the parents what their attitude was. The child stood up and said, "last night, I met a mixed doubles. In the past, it was "singles". Now it's time to launch.
scores like a mountain, heavily pressed on children and parents, greatly limiting the development of the child, making the child a slave of a machine and a score.
put yourself in your shoes and think about it. In such an environment, where will you have a beautiful ideal? The ideal seed must be rooted, sprout, grow, blossom, and bear fruit. In the absence of "sunshine" or "rain and dew," the ideal seed is difficult to germinate. It's too difficult!
in fact, family is the best greenhouse to cultivate children's good feelings and ideals. In childhood and childhood, children live the longest in their families, and their time with their parents should be the best and most memorable memories of their life. Parents' attitude to life directly affects children. If their parents are tired and pessimistic all day, they send negative messages to their children every day. Then the child will naturally produce the idea of "alive and uninteresting". A family is happy not happy, do not see whether the family has money, the child is not able to go to the University, but to see if there is a positive attitude between the family members.
what kind of family there is, what kind of children. "Problem parents" will cultivate "problem juveniles", or mentally unhealthy children; "happy parents" will shape a "happy teenager", or a child with normal mental development.
therefore, a radical cure for the desert of the emotional world of children is to change the attitude of the adult to the life, to lose the heart of compensation, to find the common heart, to "take the course of the nature, to govern without action".
we must know that children have their own world and their own future. Let children happy to do their own things, they will naturally appreciate "live well".